Up from a past that’s rooted in pain,I will rise
I’m a deep ocean, leaping and wide,Welling and moving I bear in the tide.
Leaving behind all those drifts and fear ,I will riseBefore my final day to go to the other “way” I’ll rise…
Beyond this life, there is something awaits..
Something that a soul sees ,when from a body it separates,
A world beyond this world, Too much to be defined in Words..
Beyond the life in the hereafter,
As one crosses the threshold of death,
There is a serene, there is a light,
A New way is there to get into another life.
Now we don’t see them who are gone,
but they keep sending us blessings and positive vibes.
A person just leaves a body not the close ones life…
“People never learn anything by being told,
they have to find out for themselves.”
Few days back, I woke up with a text about a close one’s sudden demise. Few colleagues and friends called me as soon as they got the news and offered their help.In the midst of my sorrow I now realize this tragic loss made me to realize certain things.First, time has its own unrevealed mystery. Second, In any case our lives don’t stop , Our inner selves are strong enough to heal themselves with the passing time. And finally, just as it is difficult to see all the opportunities life gives you until you’re looking back, it is virtually impossible to fully understand certain life circumstances until they actually happen to you.
It’s a variation of this final point that I want to explore further today , Few lessons that we learn in the hard way-
Someday we all have to face the reality of loss , it can happen due to any worldly reason. And as life goes on, days rolling into nights, it becomes clear that you never really stop missing someone special who’s gone, you just learn to live around the gaping hole of their absence and somehow stop expecting them to come in your way.
When you lose someone you can’t imagine living without, your heart breaks wide open, and the bad news is you never completely get over the loss. You will never forget them. However, in a backwards way, this is also the good news. They will live on in the warmth of your broken heart that doesn’t fully heal back up, and you will continue to grow and experience life, even with your wound. It’s like badly breaking an ankle that never heals perfectly, and that still hurts when you dance, but you dance anyway with a slight limp, and this limp just adds to the depth of your performance and the authenticity of your character.
Pursuing happiness is not at all the same as being happy, which is a fleeting feeling dependent on momentary circumstances. If the sun is shining, by all means bask in it. Happy times are great and often fun-filled, but happy times pass, because time passes. This is something we rarely grasp at first and we again start seeking for happiness…
So better to find the meaning of your life and do something that gives peace to your soul. Desires are good but we have to put a stop somewhere to enjoy that we have in present.What you are really pursuing is meaning – living a meaningful life. It starts with your “why.” (Why are you doing what you’re doing with your life?) When your “why” is meaningful, you are pursuing happiness. There will be times when things go so wrong that you barely feel alive. And there will also be times when you realize that being barely alive, on your own terms, is better than living a lifeless existence for eighty years on someone else’s terms. The pursuit isn’t all or nothing; it’s all AND nothing, with ups and downs and worthwhile lessons along the way.
Has the fear of rejection held you back? Have you ever been so fearful of what others might think or say about you that it kept you from taking positive action? I bet you’re shaking your head, “yes.” It’s time to change your mindset…
Today, the only person you should try to be better than is the person you were yesterday. Prove yourself to yourself, not others. You are GOOD enough, SMART enough, FINE enough, and STRONG enough. You don’t need other people to validate you; you are already valuable.If someone says “no” to you, or if someone says something negative about you, that doesn’t change anything about YOU. The words and opinions of others have no real bearing on your worth. Certainly it can be helpful and desirable to make a good impression in certain situations, yet it’s not the end of the world when you are faced with rejection. It’s great to receive positive feedback, but it simply doesn’t always happen. That’s OK though, because you know where you’re headed and you know your true worth does not depend on the judgment of others. When you set out to make a true difference in life, there will be those who disagree with you, those who ignore you, and those who flat out reject your ideas and efforts. Look beyond them, step confidently forward, do what must be done, and let people make their own stories.
When we give in to our fears, we have a harder time looking at ourselves in the mirror. Sadly, very few of us escape learning this lesson firsthand. If you have already experienced this a time or two, you know what you need to do.
It is only when we risk losing that we truly open the possibility to win. Whether it is quitting your job to build a business, running a marathon, or traveling to unknown parts of the world, any worthy endeavor requires risk, struggle and sacrifice. Some of these things may even terrify you, but ask yourself if these fears are stronger than the most powerful of fears, the fear of a wasted life?
If you’ve never lost your mind, you’ve never followed your heart. It’s better to look back on life and say, “I can’t believe I did that,” than to look back and say, “I wish I did that.” Don’t let time pass you by like a hand waving from a train you desperately want to be on. Don’t spend the rest of your life thinking about why you didn’t do what you can do right now. Live your life. Take risks. Feel passion. Discover love. Stay Foolish. Go Crazy.
Set yourself free to follow the instinct of your heart.
When you stop predicting and expecting things to be a certain way, you can appreciate them for what they are. Ultimately you will realize that life’s greatest gifts are rarely wrapped the way you expected. 🙂
Let situations come in your life, let the fate play its role, With a positive attitude and an open mind, you will find that life isn’t necessarily any easier or harder than you thought it was going to be; it’s just that “the easy” and “the hard” aren’t exactly the way you had anticipated, and don’t always occur when you expect them to. This isn’t a bad thing; it makes life interesting. Trust me Life is Good Anyway…
Ninety-nine percent of the time life delivers the experiences that are most helpful for your personal growth. How do you know it’s the experience you need? Because it’s the experience you’re having. The only question is: Will you embrace it and grow, or fight it and fade?????
Nobody in this world is going to blindside you and hit you as hard as life will. Sometimes life will beat you to the ground and try to keep you there if you let it. But it’s not about how hard life can hit you, it’s about how hard you can be hit while continuing to move forward. That’s what true strength is, and that’s what winning the game of life is all about.When you have a lot to cry and complain about, but you prefer to smile and take a step forward instead, you are growing stronger. Work through your struggles and hardships. Even when it feels like things are falling apart, they’re not. Take control of your emotions before they take control of you. Everything will fall into place eventually. Until then, learn what you can, laugh often, live for the moments, and know that it’s all worthwhile in the end.
At Last, the key is to stay good and do good to others, Rest will follow. The Most important lessons of life come with harsh , heart wrenching experience. Take the life as a learning school and welcome everything that comes your way!!
Happy Living!! Happy Learning!!
Though this life was never planned,
All happened by chance ,it was not this way designed,
But I am free now, My heart can feel the wind…
I never wished for a kingdom but wisdom,
I’m in some queer peace now, though its seldom
Not trying to conquer any world , Except the “One” within..
Not defeating the “Others” outside , but the sins and devil therein,
My days and ways are in my full command..
I came “Here” in silence but the exist will be grand..
It’s been so long since my work kept me away from sharing my thoughts here. Finally I am here one more time…
Well, I often write about feeling good, staying motivated, energetic, keep fighting and much more.. But sometimes we don’t get a good start of the day for some reasons. May be you are afraid of a busy day , may be you dint get a good sleep last night, may be you thought a lot about something that you can’t control or the most common reasons – Missing someone and Flashbacks!!
Some times we loose that positive momentum during hard first few hours of the day and in the second half we feel tired, low, lost, somewhat sad or uninspired.
What to do then? Is that day lost and should you just aim for a better day tomorrow?
Well, the good news is- Today is not over yet!!
Here’s how I do that by breaking the negative mood and getting a new start.
1. Appreciate what you have-
The simplest of my most commonly used pick-me-ups.
I tell myself: OK, I might not feel so good right now, but what can I be grateful for and appreciate in my life?
I usually come up with simple things like-
2. Act as you would like to feel.
Emotions work backwards too. So if I want to become more positive or enthusiastic then I act in the manner of a person who is positive or enthusiastic.
I might not feel like it. But I do it as best as I can anyway. I may for example:
3. Think for a minute and give someone a genuine compliment.
Spend one minute coming up with something you really and genuinely appreciate about someone in your life that is in the same room as you at some point during the day. Then tell him or her the genuine compliment you have come up with.
Everyday is a blessing in itself. We just need that outlook towards life that can tend us to notice the good in everything.
Stay Happy and Have a Great Day!!
“Commitment”- This 10 letters word is loaded with a lot of responsibilities, realization of facts, hopes of future, Assurance, A Series of Positive Trials to Make Something Happen and much more is hidden in this word. Whenever we feel the urge of bonding ourselves in the pursuit of doing something then we give the commitment. Commitment is a kind of positive force. I have given many commitments to people and tried my best to act accordingly in most of the cases. Sometimes we have to sacrifice a lot in order to live up to our commitments. This time I decided to use this force in my favour, Here are few commitments that we should made to our own selves –
1-Being True to Who I Am/You Are–
A person is a layered entity. Sometimes we make changes in ourselves to please the people around and as per the time. There is a huge difference between “being true” and “correcting ourselves while being wrong” . There is nothing wrong in adopting the change until we don’t loose our real self. Be Real to Your Yourself. Do What Gives You a Reason to Smile and Be Proud of!
2-Stand for Your Own Set of Rules – Every one of us have our own set of ethics, principles and moral codes. Live true to them every day. Time always comes with 2 options for Everyone, 1- Act Ethical 2- Act Unethical. Initially we notice no harm in adopting the easy Way 2 ,but Way 1 is way better than Way 2. Act as per the ethics, Morals & Humanity. Life will never give you a chance to feel guilty.
3-Create Life’s handbook-
I decided to devote a fine day to make my handbook comprises of my Values, My Professional Goals, My Monetary Goals ( Short Term and Long Term) , Personal Goals, The Things to Do That Make Me Happy, Travel Goals, Personal Strengths, The Loopholes to Work Upon , The Habits to Quit. We get a path to act when we write down my plans. The handbook is a road map to build on a strategy to achieve.
4-Let Go of Attachments-
The attached strings bring us down many times in life. Don’t fixate yourself with a status, fame , possession etc.Same goes with the people too, Don’t be too much attached to anyone because it forces us to do a lot of the unwanted things followed with the fear of loosing, depression and much more. Create bonding but stay practical in your approach. These are impermanent and will ultimately disappear one day when you die. Focus on growing and living life to the fullest instead.
5-Do a Kind Deed a Day- What is something you can do today that will make the world a better place? Go and do it.
6-Don’t Settle– I am in full plan for not to settle for less. Don’t settle for someone you don’t like as your partner. Don’t settle for a job you don’t like. Don’t settle for friends who make you feel like a lesser person. Don’t settle for a weight you are unhappy with. Go for what you really want.
7-Live Life & Love Life-
Many times in life we give so much of value to others and somehow we forget to live our life. Life is truly good. I always find living to be a fascinating experience.. There’s so much we don’t know out there about this world, so much is there to be experienced in life.it’s just wonderful. We have a life that millions of people dream of, then why not to enjoy it.
8-Make a Source of Alternate Income- Money is not everything in life, but it has a significant role to play in the life of each one of us. Don’t be dependent on Salary and Fixed Deposits. Use your expertise to generate a source of continuous alternate income. Create a business, that can keep running even if you are not physically present there all the time to monitor.
As I always mention, Never do wrong with anybody and enjoy this blissful life at the fullest. Don’t do wrong because in some way or other What Goes Around, Comes Around!!
Hi!! If you ask someone-“Do you want to fail?” “Do you want to make a mistake? – What will be the answer of that person- I am sure it will be” Nobody wants to be failed in life” . Right? But despite making all the right, “in place” decisions , sometimes a person feels confused and out of track. That “Something is missing” feeling soaks all the energy and a person feels like giving up. There are times when things just don’t go your way and sometimes it happens to that extent when a person finally gives up and think that this was not his cup of tea. I read somewhere that –”Sometimes you have to fail thousand times before succeeding”. I firmly believe in this. Don’t be so quick to throw all your efforts away. Life has a lot to teach us and offer us in various forms. It’s just the beginning and you will learn more as you go. My little experiences taught me that sometimes we have to review our recent activities in order to succeed without blaming others.
Delay in success doesn’t mean the failure. My motive is not to tell you an out of the world story here, but just to repeat those few points that we might have overlooked. Success is a process of continuing efforts, here adding some thought to “Never Quit Approach” and clear the dust –
Whenever anything doesn’t do right , we look for the causes of the same. But mostly we end up with a handful of people to blame for all the things that went wrong in the process and hindered our way of success. Review is good but blaming others will never give you a chance to notice your short comings and eventually you will end up making no development. The moment you claim personal responsibility over your life, you will learn the importance of steering your own ship. You will start to make decisions for yourself, and end up feeling less hateful and happier for the people around you.
2- Relationships are the Game Changers-
Relationships teach us a lot and have enough power to change a person completely. Nourishing relationships fuel your motivation to succeed and staying in toxic relationships are sure fire ways to fill your heart with negativity. It is a widely accepted fact that we function well when we connect, collaborate, and share ourselves to other people. If we take a look at the other side of it- There are many people who succeeded in their life after suffering or learning from a terrible relationship. AT the same time there are people who succeeded when someone from their close family made them realize their responsibilities. Choose your people wisely, It can either help you rise into your life or can break you suffer to the irrecoverable point.
Learning doesn’t end at school, it doesn’t end at your college. Humans learn everyday throughout their lives. Learning shouldn’t ever be confined within the walls of a classroom. When we start noticing the learning around us, we notice that we know very less, this world has an ocean of wisdom . We enrich our experiences when we keep learning from the people and the happenings around us. Failures also teach us something , may be another thing to be added into “Not to Do” list when we would try next time!!
You will not be in any trouble if you don’t wish to grow and stay satisfied with your on going routine life, there will be no hassle if you don’t wish to rise in your life. There will be no need of getting out of your comfort zone, if you don’t wish to reach to new horizon. There will be no loss if you don’t wish to make profit and keep stuff safe inside the wall. Yes, life will not show up anything different if you are not willing. But will it be a meaningful life then?? I believe it will not. I hope you got my point- There is no gain without pain. We have to stretch our limits in order to get something that others don’t have.
I am among those who never underestimate the value of money in life. It matters, even all the knowledge of the world doesn’t make any sense if you can’t earn your livelihood. But money should not the only parameter to measure success. There comes a time in life, when a person feels like starting something for his self satisfaction and mostly that satisfaction comes when we start something without considering the margin of monetary profit for ourselves. Earn enough to have good life but don’t forget that success, happiness, peace & health etc. don’t have so much to do with money. A common misconception in today’s capitalistic society, this view is shared by people who place great importance on wealth and material stuff. You will realize that there are other forms of success too. Success isn’t based on your salary and job title, even success includes your health, emotional well being and your relationships. These forms of success are the best source of long term happiness. Focus on making a balance life for yourself.
If your life goal is to avoid pain and suffering all the time – then you’ve already set the limit for your own growth. The point of negative experiences is to teach us the value of happy moments. To make us learn from our mistakes. Negative experiences are our best teachers. They help us grow into adults capable of fixing our own lives.
Your journey to success starts from the moment you change your limiting views about yourself. There is so much you can do. You are more than just dust in the wind. You are here to mark your existence, to touch other people’s lives – you just need to find out how. Keep learning and keep moving, because the delay in success doesn’t make you unsuccessful. Lean, Move, Be Patient and Give Time to Time.
Looking into the Mirror , I meet a warrior.
Injured at times but ready to conquer.
Overruling the odds ,I am tough as a rock.
I may not sound pleasant but I am not fake,
I still don’t look so strong but now my soul is too tough to Break.
Transformation is not an overnight thing, its a process,
I am gentle and slow but making progress.
Yes, I am not perfect but I am trying my best…
Looking into the mirror, I meet a warrior..
Quitting is never easy. When we are addict to something, any habit or a person then it becomes a tough task for us to get rid of it and make a fresh start. But human has a tendency of adopting changes with the passes of time. Few adopt it by choice and few adopt it when they have no other choice. When we are destined to quit so many of our desired habits, have to leave few people and go towards “Never in Plans” directions, Then Why not to quit few things to make a peaceful and rewarding future for ourselves. In addition of some unwelcomed unplanned “Quit’s” , Here I am sharing a list of some QUITS to start a peaceful life-
1- Quit Planning Too Much for Future: The reason of the most of our heartbreaks and pains is- “Future Planning”. A person gets hurt the most when his future plans fail. Then why not to live in present? Tomorrow is unpredictable but if we focus on staying happy today and making the best of our present days then we can be a little sure of witnessing a great future. Our days today itself define our days of “Tomorrow”. So my one strategy of happiness is- Quit Planning for Future.
2- Quit Making Everyone Happy: It’s called a great human quality if a person keeps everybody happy around him. But do you ever notice that a person has to put himself down sometimes during this process. Select the people who are good to you and try to keep you happy , I am sure your effort of doing this will be well rewarded and you will end up with a tiny list of those handful people who are actually concerned about your happiness. Do sacrifices for them and Think of their happiness. For rest of the world- Don’t do wrong with others but don’t try to please them.
3- Quit Blaming Yourself: I am among those people who used to blame my own self for many things which dint turn up positively. Recently I made a turn and starting noticing the real cause of few events. I was surprised to see that I was nowhere wrong,I accepted my faults , I forgave people, I trusted them , I made the best of my efforts to make the things possible but it was actually the faults of others , they were tricksters!! Don’t blame yourself for not getting something that you desired for with full heart, because it might have happened because of the fault of somebody else.
4- Quit Building Expectations: Being nice to someone is your choice but it doesn’t guarantee that others will be equally nice to you. Its very natural that we start expecting good for ourselves when we treat people good. But your heart doesn’t drive others’, they have their own minds , Sometimes Noble -Sometimes Wicked! If you don’t expect from people then certainly noble ones will surprise you but the wicked ones will not get a chance to hurt you. Don’t keep hopes from others , just make your own way of happiness!!
5- Quit Thinking Much About “Anything”- We pressurize ourselves by giving a lot of energy in thinking about any particular incident/person/ plan. Be it anything of Past , Present or Future, Don’t think much. Better to leave few things on time and Enjoy the show!! Life becomes interesting when we encounter something unplanned!! Leave few things unfold in your future. You know Mystery has its own Charm and Thrill!!
These 4 are very easy things to do with little but continuous efforts!! Make your own list of “Quitting” that can be proven a step towards personal healing and happiness!!
There is a saying “What we seek is seeking us”. I am among those who firmly believe in such statements. But there are many people among us who struggle a lot due to their own thoughts, They keep on fighting a war inside their own mind. Despite seeking the answers of few questions, they left unanswered. There are many such questions which remain unanswered for a long time.We try to move forward with passing days but somewhere deep inside us those questions keep punching us. Their punches become so hard at times that we feel an extremely painful restlessness and crave to get the answers anyhow. As there is nobody in the outer world to answer so we return with disappointment and it adds more burden over our hearts and next time these punches become even harder.
Do we ever try to know why we have to become a victim of such situations? Who punches exactly on our souls?? These are our own heavy chains of expectations from people and relationships which keep on haunting us. We become the prisoner of our self-created cell. “We are the most responsible person for our happiness”- Widely heard Statement, Right? So isn’t it our responsibility to free ourselves from the chains of the past and from those expectations that will never be met by the people. Who cares for us, will never leave us in such situations, and who doesn’t care should not have a grip on our souls to punch us.
So what has to be done to be free from these chains which are bounded and wounded our souls.
Sharing few widely said practices to remove this burden-
1- Let all the questions flow into your mind, let them come, Feel them then eliminate the ones that are not going to affect your future in any positive way. It’s not a tough task, We mainly worry about such hypothetical situations that may never occur in our lives. To free ourselves we need to identify such thoughts and start leaving them away.
2- Ask Yourself – Do you have those willing people around who can answer you? If not then better not to keep thinking about it because our own thoughts will only add more to these questions without giving any answer, practice the 1st point mentioned above and set yourself free.
3- Forgive Other to the Most Possible Limit– There are certain events which a person can’t forget and my little experience says that our characters are made of such unforgettable events only because we learn the most out of such events.. And mostly we fail to forgive the person who caused that event. Any loss is not big enough to spoil your life, God always compensates us so well for all the losses. So try to forgive people who have not been good to you. It will not help them but you, the less you curse, the less you think and lesser your soul will be burdened.
4- Focus on Making a Great Today- We all have inherent potentials that can lead us to great accomplishments. A bitter past has nothing to do with our present. Make peace with your past and focus on present. This peace will eventually come when you will decide to set yourself free from the chains of past. It’s always in our hands to discover our talents and use your potential in the right direction. We need to divert our thoughts from painful past to promising present. Do all that can raise your mark in both your personal and professional life. Time is the best doctor and best judge, leave few things on the universe. Everyone gets the return of his deeds.
5- There is an old saying– “ Everything happens for a reason”. Our questions start decreasing when we truly accept this fact. We can’t see those reasons at the first place but sooner or later we get to know the reason of everything. If you feel that you were treated bad , then be assured God already has planned to compensate it by rewarding you with something extremely good and the one who treated you bad will pay for it someday.
Among many other ways, This is my way to deal with unanswered questions. We have heard it many times but don’t implement. Set yourself free from the chains of those questions, Life has much more to offer us , we only need the eyes to see the good things happening around. Have faith, Almighty is the most honest judge. Focus on your present , Rest all will be taken care by the justice of nature!!