Sounds not so familiar!! Right??
Whenever I discuss my Vacation Ideas, Shopping or Movie plans with someone, the first question arises- With whom? When I tell them that I am not going with anyother person then I get the reactions like- How can you enjoy alone? Wouldn’t it be boring? After getting this from people since so long, today It forced me to think that Do we really need someone everytime to get even the little happiness? Are we so insufficient that we can’t make ourselves feel good? We spend the most of our time with our own selves still we look for others whenever we plan to enjoy something!!
Do we know the one with whom we spend the most of our time? That One is- Our own inner-self.. 🙂 We praise everybody around us to strengthen the bonds that we have. But we never cherish ourselves to strengthen the oldest bond that we start forming since the very first day of our lives when we get the existence in our mother’s bomb, the bond with our ownself.
Can’t we make ourselves so much interesting, strong & self-loving that we don’t feel the need of others to accompany us in any situation. Be it at in the good times to enjoy or during the hard sufferings. I would say- Yes, We Can.. It’s good to share your good time with others (We are called “ the social creatures” after all 🙂 ) but at the same time we shouldn’t feel paralyzed to enjoy our own company also.
This post is for those, Who feel it difficult to enjoy alone and don’t buy this point that a person can be the happiest one in the absence of others. Few steps towards making you realize that you the best company that you can ever have!!
1- Which one makes you feel good?
Answer is very simple. Smiling faces always make you feel better. Then why not to carry a smile. Start feeling good from inside. When you feel good from inside then you see the beauty and positivity in every thing . You witness the same as you feel!! So feel good to get good.
2- Discover your Interests- Search your passion. Have you seen the kids when they are involved into their dearest activity? They forget the rest of the world. Discover and develop such interests that can keep you engaged deeply. Many people like travelling and when they are out to see the world they don’t feel the need of anyone. Many others like Photography and when they are busy in capturing the moments and objects then they don’t want anyone to disturb them. Be Friends with your own talents and make them your companion. 🙂
Your passion will accompany you always wherever you go.
2- Become Your Own – We are afraid of being alone because of our unseen fear of encountering something unpleasant. So next time whenever you want to start something, try to collect every detail (Even the smallest one) related to that activity. Search about it, Talk about It, Think about it , make a note of every information. Go for a question-answer session within yourself to check your preparation and make sure that you are well prepared. For instance I take a random scenario – Going for Shopping! Decide What you need, Check the Trends, List the Places where you can get the desired stuff, How would you reach there. Visualize , Become Your Honest Critic to Say Yes/No for anything. Then Step out!
3- Be Your Own Caretaker- Start pampering yourself in all available forms. Dress up well, Feed your mind with great thoughts, Smile, Take care of your necessities , Feel great about your possessions, Cheer yourself for your achievements. Stay Fit-You can only enjoy your company in the well-being state of both your body and heart. Being fit from inside is a joyous feeling in itself and it motivates you to do great things without seeking for the support from others.
4- People See in You What You See in Yourself-
You can enjoy your company only if you appreciate yourself and take your best step forward to show your best side to others. Your opinion about yourself can make a huge difference in your life. If you think you are a mediocre , you will reflect it by your personality. If you think that you are champion, that’s what will be reflected by your attitude. When you are confident then trust me you don’t need the approval of rest of the world to carry forward your desires.
Stay Confident! Follow your instinct and when you know that you are heading towards the right direction than don’t look for others ‘ approval.
Stay Happy and Enjoy Your Company!!
Be Good, Do Good and Expect Good to Happen!! 🙂