Daily Inspiration, God, Inspirational, Life, Meditation, Motivation, Positivity

And I Stopped Reacting…

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When I look back I find myself as a person who immediately reacted and bounced back to every situation. I was among those who don’t take long to reply back , if somebody used to insult me in one way, I had thousand ways to insult that person and I was extremely good in that. If someone used to hurt me , I had the capacity to hurt that person 10 times more to take the revenge.Typically, for me, that ongoing events were not at all what’s caused me to react so quickly. It’s always something else that was weighing my mind, at the forefront or in some little nook. From my point of views it was nothing but my EGO… 

When I notice What has actually changed inside me after a series of events, some life changing experiences and age, then the first is- I don’t REACT instantly now, rather I sit back, pause for a while and then I RESPOND. Now I find “Reacting” as a very revengeful act which has no logic associated. Recently somebody criticized me over certain things which are not true about me, that person simply perceived that without any supporting reason. I decided not to give justification or any reaction then, after few days when I spoke to that person about that incident and validated my points, then that person not only apologized but promised me to change his way of thinking for others as well.

There is a huge difference between REACTING and RESPONDING. Most of us are tend to react upon the situations not  they don’t really respond. Sometimes we regret after reacting to an event, and think that we should have given a thought to it before taking this step.

There are gulf differences between both Reacting and Responding. To change the habit of Reacting , We need to know the essentials of both so that we can compare and act accordingly –

When We React-

When we are not comfortable with what is being happening around ,what we receive from others in the form of communication or any other way, then instantly our emotions start taking position. We notice stomach turn , our face heats up and we answer. We let our emotions drive us to any direction without a reason. We loose self control and do the things which we ourselves consider wrong. There are just the outcomes of Reactions. Sometimes people take the advantage of this habit and knowingly fire the situation and force us to react.

I consider only one positive outcome of these emotion driven reactions, i.e. Passion, We start few things with full conviction without thinking of the final result , here the faith takes over the charge and we end up achieving the desired result but our passion needs to be centered on purpose, not an unexpected, unproductive stimulus.

When We Respond-

I consider “Respond” as a thoughtful version of  “React”. When reasons, logic and the consideration of reaction combine together then we don’t react, we respond. In nutshell , Responding is less driven by emotions and more by logic. 

We have heard it “ Think Before You Speak” – that’s the mechanism of Response.

The upside of a solid response is an engaging conversation, all positive and all civil. We learn. We grow. We listen. We respond. We act forthrightly and from within. When you notice that here’s a time to answer, Put that moment into perspective-when that thing or moment causes you to react in such a short tempered manner you really need to dig deeper. Think about the effects of that event onto your life and the relevance of your immediate reaction. Think the effect of your words on others. If it doesn’t give you a positive feeling then I would suggest you not to do it. 

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Daily Inspiration, Inspirational, Life, Motivation, Positivity

That’s Exactly What I Want !! – Clear Goal Setting

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We start a journey only after deciding the destination. Isn’t it? Can we reach our desired place without a clear mindset about where we want to end up? I am sure We can’t. In such case our situation will be like a flying plane without a landing plan. Same goes with the achievements also. We have to set the goal to achieve our desired results in every aspect of life. Personal Life- Professional Life balance is a much talked topic now a days because of the blind horse race that most of us are participating into. People Dream ,People Think a Lot, People spend years and years in planning but they don’t strategize their plans so mostly they don’t get any desired result out of their “Long Possessed Plans” ,Here the need of Clear  Goal setting arises.

“Nothing can stop a man with right mental attitude from achieving his goal, nothing on earth can help a man with wrong attitude” – W.W. Ziege

Life is all about priorities and thoughts. We end up there, where we devote our energy and imagination. So setting clear short term and long term goals are the essentials to be successful.

Sharing few steps ,that can help you to define the goals and move forward accordingly-

1- Set Clear Desires- Recognize What you love to do and find someone who can pay you to do that? What you want others to say about you at the end of your life? What is your dream life? Visualize yourself in the pictures of your life at a gap of few years.  Set comparatively higher goal to achieve than your actual desire.

2-  Give A Deadline to Yourself and Plan After deciding the destination , we decide how to reach there, similarly Once you know what you want then plan how to reach there.  When we put a time limit to do something then we get a motivation from inside to remain focused and complete the task. So decide a deadline for each of your plan. Focus on achieving your short term goals first and then work on long term ones. We can’t complete the journey by counting all the turns at the starting point , we have to focus on the upcoming turn only to reach our destination.

3- Announce Your Plans-  I wanted to write a book since so long but somehow there was a lack of zeal. Soon I realized it and informed the people that I am writing a book and will complete it soon. Later people started asking me about the content and progress, it created a pressure to complete it on time with good content in it and I started working on my book seriously, as the result soon I’ll write it’s final chapter!! 🙂 When we tell people that we are planning a thing then it creates a pressure upon us to achieve it, because if we don’t then society considers it as a failure and no one wants to be called FAILED! Use this social pressure in your favour.

4- Discuss – Discuss with your friends, family and other trusted ones about your plans. We get ideas when we communicate, you can get a better strategy to achieve your goal by discussing about your plan. Enlist the people who have the knowledge of the subject matter and take their opinion. May be you get a great piece of advice!!

5- Praise Yourself- I have a habit of reading and re-reading the good things that people have said about me. I make a note of all the good things that I do in a week and read it at the weekend. It motivates me to do better in coming days. Self pride is a great motivator! Celebrate your small victories even, it will help you to win the battle!

We all have our own plans and a way to get the things done. Follow your instinct. Life is easy if we have a direction to move and it becomes interesting if we have goals to achieve. Set Goals. Work on your strategies and rework on it after sometime to get better results.

More Later,

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