“People never learn anything by being told,
they have to find out for themselves.”
A few days back, I woke up with a text about a close one’s sudden demise. Few colleagues and friends called me as soon as they got the news and offered their help. In the midst of my sorrow, this tragic loss made me realize certain things. First, the time has its own unrevealed mystery. Second, In any case, life doesn’t stop. Our inner selves are strong enough to heal themselves with the passing time. And finally, just as it is difficult to see all the opportunities life gives you until you’re looking back, it is virtually impossible to fully understand certain life circumstances until they actually happen to you.
It’s a variation of this final point that I want to explore further today, Few lessons that we learn in a hard way-
- The people you lose remain a part of you-
Someday we all have to face the reality of loss, it can happen due to any reason. And as life goes on, days rolling into nights, it becomes clear that you never really stop missing someone special who’s gone, you just learn to live around the gaping hole of their absence and somehow stop expecting them to come in your way.
When you lose someone you can’t imagine living without, your heart breaks wide open, and the bad news is you never completely get over the loss. You will never forget them. However, in a backward way, this is also the good news. They will live on in the warmth of your broken heart that doesn’t fully heal back up, and you will continue to grow and experience life, even with your wound. It’s like badly breaking an ankle that never heals perfectly, and that still hurts when you dance, but you dance anyway with a slight limp, and this limp just adds to the depth of your performance and the authenticity of your character.
- Being Happy in the life is more about finding its meaning-
Pursuing happiness is not at all the same as being happy, which is a fleeting feeling dependent on momentary circumstances. If the sun is shining, by all means, bask in it. Happy times are great and often fun-filled, but happy times too pass because time passes. This is something we rarely grasp at first and we again start seeking happiness…
So better to find the meaning of your life and do something that gives peace to your soul. Desires are good but we have to put a stop somewhere to enjoy what we have in present. What you are really pursuing defines the way of your life. It starts with your “why.” (Why are you doing what you’re doing with your life?) When your “why” is meaningful, you are pursuing happiness. There will be times when things go so wrong that you barely feel alive. And there will also be times when you realize that being barely alive, on your own terms, is better than living a lifeless existence for eighty years on someone else’s terms. The pursuit isn’t all or nothing; it’s all AND nothing, with ups and downs and worthwhile lessons along the way.
- Seeking validation from others invalidates YOU.
Has the fear of rejection held you back? Have you ever been so fearful of what others might think or say about you that it kept you from taking positive action? I bet you’re shaking your head, “yes.” It’s time to change your mindset…
Today, the only person you should try to be better than is the person you were yesterday. Prove yourself to yourself, not others. You are GOOD enough, SMART enough, FINE enough, and STRONG enough. You don’t need other people to validate you; you are already valuable. Look beyond them, step confidently forward, do what must be done, and let people make their own stories.
- Regret hurts far worse than fear.
When we give in to our fears, we have a harder time looking at ourselves in the mirror. Sadly, very few of us escape learning this lesson firsthand. If you have already experienced this a time or two, you know what you need to do.
It is only when we risk losing that we truly open the possibility to win. Whether it is quitting your job to build a business, running a marathon, or traveling to unknown parts of the world, any worthy endeavor requires risk, struggle, and sacrifice. Some of these things may even terrify you, but ask yourself if these fears are stronger than the most powerful of fears, the fear of a wasted life?
If you’ve never lost your mind, you’ve never followed your heart. It’s better to look back on life and say, “I can’t believe I did that,” than to look back and say, “I wish I did that.” Don’t let time pass you by like a hand waving from a train you desperately want to be on. Don’t spend the rest of your life thinking about why you didn’t do what you can do right now. Live your life. Take risks. Feel passion. Discover love. Stay Foolish. Go Crazy.
Set yourself free to follow the instinct of your heart.
- Life is too unpredictable for rigid expectations.
When you stop predicting and expecting things to be a certain way, you can appreciate them for what they are. Ultimately you will realize that life’s greatest gifts are rarely wrapped the way you expected. 🙂
LIFE is not going to be the way you had anticipated, and things don’t always happen when you expect them to. This isn’t a bad thing; it makes life interesting. Trust me Life is Good Anyway…
Ninety-nine percent of the time life delivers the experiences that are most helpful for your personal growth. But How would you know it’s the experience you need? Because it’s the experience you’re having. The only question is: Will you embrace it and grow, or fight it and fade?????
- Hardships are inevitable and helpful.
Nobody in this world is going to blindside you and hit you as hard as life will. Sometimes life will beat you to the ground and try to keep you there if you let it. But it’s not about how hard life can hit you, it’s about how hard you can be hit while continuing to move forward. When you have a lot to cry and complain about, but you prefer to smile and take a step forward instead, you are growing stronger. Work through your struggles and hardships. Even when it feels like things are falling apart, they’re not. Take control of your emotions before they take control of you. Everything will fall into place eventually. Until then, learn what you can laugh often, live for the moments, and know that it’s all worthwhile in the end.
Last, the key is to stay good and do good to others, Rest will follow. The Most important lessons of life come with harsh, heart-wrenching experience. Take the life as a learning school and welcome everything that comes your way!!
Happy Living!! Happy Learning!!