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People Remain Even After Life…

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Beyond this life, there is something awaits..
Something that a soul sees ,when from a body it separates,
A world beyond this world, Too much to be defined in Words..
Beyond the life in the hereafter,
As one crosses the threshold of death,
There is a serene, there is a light,
A New way is there to get into another life.
Now we don’t see them who are gone,
but they keep sending us blessings and positive vibes.
A person just leaves a body not the close ones life…

My 8 Commitments to Myself..

 

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“Commitment”- This 10 letters word is loaded with a lot of responsibilities, realization of facts, hopes of future, Assurance, A Series of Positive Trials to Make Something Happen and much more is hidden in this word. Whenever we feel the urge of bonding ourselves in the pursuit of doing something then we give the commitment. Commitment is a kind of positive force. I have given many commitments to people and tried my best to act accordingly in most of the cases. Sometimes we have to sacrifice a lot in order to live up to our commitments. This time I decided to use this force in my favour, Here are few commitments that we should made to our own selves –

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A person is a layered entity.  Sometimes we make changes in ourselves to please the people around and as per the time. There is a huge difference between “being true” and “correcting ourselves while being wrong” . There is nothing wrong in adopting the change until we don’t loose our real self. Be Real to Your Yourself. Do What Gives You a Reason to Smile and Be Proud of!

2-Stand for Your Own Set of Rules – Every one of us have our own set of ethics, principles and moral codes. Live true to them every day. Time always comes with 2 options for Everyone, 1- Act Ethical 2- Act Unethical. Initially we notice no harm in adopting the easy Way 2 ,but Way 1 is way better than Way 2. Act as per the ethics, Morals & Humanity. Life will never give you a chance to feel guilty.

3-Create Life’s handbook- letter3.jpg

I decided to devote a fine day to make my handbook comprises of my Values, My Professional Goals, My Monetary Goals ( Short Term and Long Term) , Personal Goals, The Things to Do That Make Me Happy, Travel Goals, Personal Strengths, The Loopholes to Work Upon , The Habits to Quit. We get a path to act when we write down my plans. The handbook is a road map to build on a strategy to achieve.

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The attached strings bring us down many times in life. Don’t fixate yourself with a status, fame , possession etc.Same goes with the people too, Don’t be too much attached to anyone because it forces us to do a lot of the unwanted things followed with the fear of loosing, depression and much more. Create bonding but stay practical in your approach. These are impermanent and will ultimately disappear one day when you die. Focus on growing and living life to the fullest instead.

5-Do a Kind Deed a Day- What is something you can do today that will make the world a better place? Go and do it.

6-Don’t Settle I am in full plan for not to settle for less. Don’t settle for someone you don’t like as your partner. Don’t settle for a job you don’t like. Don’t settle for friends who make you feel like a lesser person. Don’t settle for a weight you are unhappy with. Go for what you really want.

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Many times in life we give so much of value to others and somehow we forget to live our life. Life is truly good. I always find living to be a fascinating experience.. There’s so much we don’t know out there about this world, so much is there to be experienced in life.it’s just wonderful. We have a life that millions of people dream of, then why not to enjoy it.

8-Make a Source of Alternate Income- Money is not everything in life, but it has a significant role to play in the life of each one of us. Don’t be dependent on Salary and Fixed Deposits. Use your expertise to generate a source of continuous alternate income. Create a business, that can keep running even if you are not physically present there all the time to monitor.

As I always mention, Never do wrong with anybody and enjoy this blissful life at the fullest. Don’t do wrong because in some way or other What Goes Around, Comes Around!!

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Quitting Brings Peace Sometimes-5 Things to Quit for A Peaceful Life.

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Quitting is never easy. When we are addict to something, any habit or a person then it becomes a tough task for us to get rid of it and make a fresh start. But human has a tendency of adopting changes with the passes of time. Few adopt it by choice and few adopt it when they have no other choice. When we are destined to quit so many of our desired habits, have to leave few people and go towards “Never in Plans” directions, Then Why not to quit few things to make a peaceful and rewarding future for ourselves. In addition of some unwelcomed unplanned “Quit’s” , Here I am sharing a list of some QUITS to start a peaceful life-

1- Quit Planning Too Much for Future: The reason of the most of our heartbreaks and pains is- “Future Planning”. A person gets hurt the most when his future plans fail. Then why not to live in present? Tomorrow is unpredictable but if we focus on staying happy today and making the best of our present days then we can be a little sure of witnessing a great future. Our days today itself define our days of “Tomorrow”. So my one strategy of happiness is- Quit Planning for Future.

2- Quit Making Everyone Happy: It’s called a great human quality if a person keeps everybody happy around him. But do you ever notice that a person has to put himself down sometimes during this process. Select the people who are good to you and try to keep you happy , I am sure your effort of doing this will be well rewarded and you will end up with a tiny list of those handful people who are actually concerned about your happiness. Do sacrifices for them and Think of their happiness. For rest of the world- Don’t do wrong with others but don’t try to please them.

3- Quit Blaming Yourself: I am among those people who used to blame my own self for many things which dint turn up positively. Recently I made a turn and starting noticing the real cause of few events. I was surprised to see that I was nowhere wrong,I accepted my faults , I forgave people, I trusted them , I made the best of my efforts to make the things possible but it was actually the faults of others , they were tricksters!! Don’t blame yourself for not getting something that you desired for with full heart, because it might have happened because of the fault of somebody else.
4- Quit Building Expectations: Being nice to someone is your choice but it doesn’t guarantee that others will be equally nice to you. Its very natural that we start expecting good for ourselves when we treat people good. But your heart doesn’t drive others’, they have their own minds , Sometimes Noble -Sometimes Wicked! If you don’t expect from people then certainly noble ones will surprise you but the wicked ones will not get a chance to hurt you. Don’t keep hopes from others , just make your own way of happiness!!
5- Quit Thinking Much About “Anything”- We pressurize ourselves by giving a lot of energy in thinking about any particular incident/person/ plan. Be it anything of Past , Present or Future, Don’t think much. Better to leave few things on time and Enjoy the show!! Life becomes interesting when we encounter something unplanned!! Leave few things unfold in your future. You know Mystery has its own Charm and Thrill!!
These 4 are very easy things to do with little but continuous efforts!! Make your own list of “Quitting” that can be proven a step towards personal healing and happiness!!

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The Unanswered Questions…

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There is a saying “What we seek is seeking us”. I am among those who firmly believe in such statements. But there are many people among us who struggle a lot due to their own thoughts, They keep on fighting a war inside their own mind. Despite seeking the answers of few questions, they left unanswered. There are many such questions which remain unanswered for a long time.We try to move forward with passing days but somewhere deep inside us those questions keep punching us. Their punches become so hard at times that we feel an extremely painful restlessness and crave to get the answers anyhow. As there is nobody in the outer world to answer so we return with disappointment and it adds more burden over our hearts and next time these punches become even harder.

Do we ever try to know why we have to become a victim of such situations? Who punches exactly on our souls?? These are our own heavy chains of expectations from people and relationships which keep on haunting us. We become the prisoner of our self-created cell. “We are the most responsible person for our happiness”- Widely heard Statement, Right? So isn’t it our responsibility to free ourselves from the chains of the past and from those expectations that will never be met by the people. Who cares for us, will never leave us in such situations, and who doesn’t care should not have a grip on our souls to punch us.

So what has to be done to be free from these chains which are bounded and wounded our souls.

Sharing few widely said practices to remove this burden-

1-   Let all the questions flow into your mind, let them come, Feel them then eliminate the ones that are not going to affect your future in any positive way. It’s not a tough task, We mainly worry about such hypothetical situations that may never occur in our lives. To free ourselves we need to identify such thoughts and start leaving them away.

2- Ask Yourself – Do you have those willing people around who can answer you? If not then better not to keep thinking about it because our own thoughts will only add more to these questions without giving any answer, practice the 1st point mentioned above and set yourself free.

3- Forgive Other to the Most Possible Limit– There are certain events which a person can’t forget and my little experience says that our characters are made of such unforgettable events only because we learn the most out of such events.. And mostly we fail to forgive the person who caused that event. Any loss is not big enough to spoil your life, God always compensates us so well for all the losses. So try to forgive people who have not been good to you. It will not help them but you, the less you curse, the less you think and lesser your soul will be burdened.

4- Focus on Making a Great Today- We all have inherent potentials that can lead us to great accomplishments. A bitter past has nothing to do with our present. Make peace with your past and focus on present. This peace will eventually come when you will decide to set yourself free from the chains of past. It’s always in our hands to discover our talents and use your potential in the right direction. We need to divert our thoughts from painful past to promising present. Do all that can raise your mark in both your personal and professional life. Time is the best doctor and best judge, leave few things on the universe. Everyone gets the return of his deeds.

5- There is an old saying– “ Everything happens for a reason”. Our questions start decreasing when we truly accept this fact. We can’t see those reasons at the first place but sooner or later we get to know the reason of everything. If you feel that you were treated bad , then be assured God already has planned to compensate it by rewarding you with something extremely good and the one who treated you bad will pay for it someday.

Among many other ways, This is my way to deal with unanswered questions. We have heard it many times but don’t implement. Set yourself free from the chains of those questions, Life has much more to offer us , we only need the eyes to see the good things happening around. Have faith, Almighty is the most honest judge. Focus on your present , Rest all will be taken care by the justice of nature!!

 

And I Stopped Reacting…

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When I look back I find myself as a person who immediately reacted and bounced back to every situation. I was among those who don’t take long to reply back , if somebody used to insult me in one way, I had thousand ways to insult that person and I was extremely good in that. If someone used to hurt me , I had the capacity to hurt that person 10 times more to take the revenge.Typically, for me, that ongoing events were not at all what’s caused me to react so quickly. It’s always something else that was weighing my mind, at the forefront or in some little nook. From my point of views it was nothing but my EGO… 

When I notice What has actually changed inside me after a series of events, some life changing experiences and age, then the first is- I don’t REACT instantly now, rather I sit back, pause for a while and then I RESPOND. Now I find “Reacting” as a very revengeful act which has no logic associated. Recently somebody criticized me over certain things which are not true about me, that person simply perceived that without any supporting reason. I decided not to give justification or any reaction then, after few days when I spoke to that person about that incident and validated my points, then that person not only apologized but promised me to change his way of thinking for others as well.

There is a huge difference between REACTING and RESPONDING. Most of us are tend to react upon the situations not  they don’t really respond. Sometimes we regret after reacting to an event, and think that we should have given a thought to it before taking this step.

There are gulf differences between both Reacting and Responding. To change the habit of Reacting , We need to know the essentials of both so that we can compare and act accordingly –

When We React-

When we are not comfortable with what is being happening around ,what we receive from others in the form of communication or any other way, then instantly our emotions start taking position. We notice stomach turn , our face heats up and we answer. We let our emotions drive us to any direction without a reason. We loose self control and do the things which we ourselves consider wrong. There are just the outcomes of Reactions. Sometimes people take the advantage of this habit and knowingly fire the situation and force us to react.

I consider only one positive outcome of these emotion driven reactions, i.e. Passion, We start few things with full conviction without thinking of the final result , here the faith takes over the charge and we end up achieving the desired result but our passion needs to be centered on purpose, not an unexpected, unproductive stimulus.

When We Respond-

I consider “Respond” as a thoughtful version of  “React”. When reasons, logic and the consideration of reaction combine together then we don’t react, we respond. In nutshell , Responding is less driven by emotions and more by logic. 

We have heard it “ Think Before You Speak” – that’s the mechanism of Response.

The upside of a solid response is an engaging conversation, all positive and all civil. We learn. We grow. We listen. We respond. We act forthrightly and from within. When you notice that here’s a time to answer, Put that moment into perspective-when that thing or moment causes you to react in such a short tempered manner you really need to dig deeper. Think about the effects of that event onto your life and the relevance of your immediate reaction. Think the effect of your words on others. If it doesn’t give you a positive feeling then I would suggest you not to do it. 

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Mechanism of A Realistic Thought!

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A human mind gets approx. 60,000 thoughts per day. We all wish to make our dreams come true. As it’s been ages since we are reading about the power of manifestation, visualization & thoughts etc. Then sometimes we wonder that why don’t we get desired results most of times despite following all the necessary techniques. We make a plan, visualize it’s success, work on a good action plan still sometimes plans don’t work out and possibility of “Change” occurs.

 There are many other factors also that make a thought come true. A Thought is made of 2 components-

1– Text-

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Text part is the flow chart of a Thought– The basics that we share with our mind. If we think of Sun, the text part will be the Image of the Sun. If we think of acquiring a Golf course then Our Position, Players , Ground & Acquisition Papers etc. will be the part of the text that will be sent to our mind.Text part doesn’t have any emotion attached to it. Text is only a small representation of our desire and these representations create primary database for our mind to work upon.

2- Associated Energy-

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I would define it as text-less component of a Thought. When we send an image to our mind ,instantly it generates emotions and emotions generate energy.  For instance, If I say – “She must be angry”- My mind will make her “Angry” image and accordingly emotions will be produced and energy will be released.  Intentionally or Unintentionally whenever we think of something positive or negative, we release an energy that goes into the universe and moves the circumstances accordingly. 

We get adverse results when we focus more on “What if it doesn’t work out” , because our mind weighs both positive and negative energies associated with any thought and universe works in the favour of the Winner!! So focus on the weight of the energy that our thoughts are emitting.

I would add one more supporting statement here, Just try holding a thought “ I am feeling great today” in your mind and notice how you feel when you hold this thought.

Again hold the same thought with more intensity by adding a smile to it, deep breath and your head up, this time you will feel more positive and more positive energy will be released. Now just reverse the process, start eliminating the positive elements from this thought and after sometime “ I am feeling great today” will remain nothing but a meaningless sentence.

Can you see the difference? It’s energy only that’s creating the difference!!  Wherever plan to start something with great intentions then load it with a lot of positive thoughts and energy.

If Text of a Thought is Body, then Associated Energy is the Soul, and it’s the soul only that makes a body alive!! Thoughts create our future but only when we add right energy to it.

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The Challenge of Change!!

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Hi!!

God made us in such a way that we adopt the pace of nature, climate change without much hassle. Days change so our attires and routines. What if we don’t change ourselves with the changing weather?? It will be uncomfortable and suffocating, Survival will be tough!! Right!!

In the same manner we have to face many changes in our lives also. We change places, we change jobs,  we see the change in the people around us. There are many things that keep on changing with the passes of time. We can’t standstill amid of flowing and floating river so we have to make the pace with the flow to survive, same goes with life too . There are certain events in life that we can’t control , we try hard to resist but sometimes it goes beyond the limit of resistance , then the best thing is to use this change in such a way that it becomes a blessing for us.

Here are few things that I learned When I Encountered the  Challenge of Change ! 

Time Shifts! Be Pliable to Flourish Through Change-   

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At the time when you are dealing with the absence of people , something that aches you badly then gather your all energy and think- Will it make any difference if you keep spoiling yourself for something that you can’t change? Will it make any difference in the lives of people if you keep yourself unhappy? I am sure the answer will be “NO”. Use this time to uncover your hidden talents, do something that you are good into and become an expert in your respective area. Make your talent your best friend and focus on being exceptionally good in one area if you have seen a tough time in any other area of life. 

When we loose something then God always gives us the insight to get something good in some other way, We just have to shift our eyes to the new goal.

Change is Unavoidable. Learning from Change is Your Choice-

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God always gives us the chance to make the choice and it depends upon our capability what we choose. In the transition period also we get the choice to learn the lessons. I always focus on learning from the smallest event even that I come across.  Time is like wind, we can’t stop its flow. We can simply learn from it and move ahead to meet new challenges. Forgive people, Leave sorrows behind but Don’t forget the lesson that you learn!

After all, A Lesson is a Good Thing That We Can Get From Even The Worst Events Of Our Lives!

Rise as A Victor Once Storm Passes Away-

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I read it somewhere and found it very true that Most of the Strong People, Have Had a Painful Past. But in their tough time, They denied to quit, They denied to fall apart, Took new chances and their choice made them what they are known for now.  Become so good in something that people fail to get your replacement. Discover your talent to make people realize that you are much more stronger than they think you are. There are many good things about your personality than the bad ones on which they rated you!!

It’s always our choice- Become a Victim or a Victor!

Make a Life that Others Wish to Read About-

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When we look for inspiration to achieve something great, We always love to read the Motivational Stories of People, Survival Stories, Social Changes for Which Somebody Tried Hard etc. etc. Focus on becoming like the one who motivates you. Be the writer of your own success story.

Take the challenge of Change and emerge as a Winner by making the best out of it. I am sure you will be happy a day on the fact that You are much more stronger than earlier after encountering this change.

At last, In the process of change, don’t leave the basic principle – “Be Good, Do Good and Expect Good Things to Happen” . Don’t Do Wrong With Anyone!! Peace comes to those who don’t hurt others.

 PEACE OF MIND IN THE END IS ALSO A SUCCESS!!

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The Worth of Past..

Hello Friends!! It’s always a blessing to be surrounded with the people who value you for what you are. We should treasure people on the basis of their value addition to our lives. But many times I find it very disturbing when I notice people criticizing somebody close to them on the basis of his “Not So Good” past while he has been proven good enough to get respect from others in his present days.  Many of us have a tendency to form an opinion about people on the basis of their past. Well I also don’t find it wrong to take the reference of past , when we encounter a stranger . The first introduction of a person begins with his/her past. (We can’t trust a terrorist blindly 🙂 )

 But What if we keep on doubting people and criticizing their good deeds and considering their past. We need to accept that people change and some incidences are big enough to change the whole story of somebody’s life.Moreover a person doesn’t have full control over every event that occurs into his life. There are many saints and philosophers who were not the same ones in their early lives, but something incidents made them what they are known for . (We say that Albert Einstein is one of the greatest scientists of all the times, who was once declared mentally sick during his childhood. Saint Nicholas was not a saint in his early life , Gautam Buddha was a Successor king before being a saint).  In one of my recent chats with a fellow he was criticizing one of his closed ones referring  to the past of that person. The saddest part of the story was- That person was extremely good with my fellow friend.

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Sometimes we forget that A person has to put a lot of courage to stand again from the betrayed stage and take  a new path. He gathers all the pieces of his scattered hopes, broken self esteem and left out energy to stand with his head up but we don’t leave a chance to make him recall the days which he wants to forget.  We have no idea that we put that person in the same pain again whenever we criticize him for his past. Should we hurt a person just because he has gone through the same pain earlier and came out of it so we can presume that he will tackle our misbehave this time also? Should we break somebody’s 2nd leg just because he is walking perfect with one broken leg? I leave the answers on you..

There are many people around who are dealing with such issues in their lives when they have to prove themselves right for the incidences that might have occurred in their past due to circumstances. We simply devalue something very special that a person is doing for us by considering that “It’s nothing new for this person, nothing special”. It can hurt a person to the non-recoverable level sometimes. Believe Me.

 I really wonder that when we are so good in judging someone by his past then why aren’t we good in analyzing someone by his present?

Next time before you think of talking about somebody’s past, I would suggest you to ask these questions to yourself

1-  Haven’t we done anything wrong in our lives?

2- Do we know the “whole story” of this person? Have we witnessed the series of events that occurred in his past and what were the circumstances then?

3- What matters more-  An untold past of someone or The present where the other person does all to make our days beautiful and memorable.

4-  Your place in other person’s life now .

5- What will be the impact of our criticism on the life of the other person.

I am sure once you introspect yourself and ask this questions to yourself then you will not criticize any of your closed ones again. A mistake can never be beyond the limit of being forgiven. Life is precious and so people.

As I say- Be Good, Do Good and Expect Good to Happen. Become the reason of somebody’s happiness, you will receive the same in some way. But If you are the reason of somebody’s grief in someway then you will get the same in some other way. Life pays us exactly same what we give to others and Karma knocks the door of all sooner or later. Spread Happiness to Receive It!! 

 This was a disturbing thought I think… Signing off for the day…

Leaving with just one message – No Past should be vast enough to cover the present of someone!!

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