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Good Mood is the Best Mode- 3 Things to Do When You Feel Low…

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Hi All,

It’s been so long since my work kept me away from sharing my thoughts here. Finally I am here one more time…

Well, I often write about feeling good, staying motivated, energetic, keep fighting and much more.. But sometimes we don’t get a good start of the day for some reasons. May be you are afraid of a busy day , may be you dint get a good sleep last night, may be you thought a lot about something that you can’t control or the most common reasons – Missing someone and Flashbacks!!

 

Some times we loose that positive momentum during hard first few hours of the day and in the second half we feel tired, low, lost, somewhat sad or uninspired.

What to do then? Is that day lost and should you just aim for a better day tomorrow?

Well, the good news is-  Today is not over yet!!

Here’s how I do that by breaking the negative mood and getting a new start.

1. Appreciate what you have-

The simplest of my most commonly used pick-me-ups.

I tell myself: OK, I might not feel so good right now, but what can I be grateful for and appreciate in my life?

I usually come up with simple things like-

  • My Health.
  • My Victory over some past issues.
  • My Professional Achievements.
  • My New Books That I Recently Bought to Read.
  • The Biggest- While Closing My Eyes and Thinking of All the Happening , Somewhere deep down inside I always find a silver line of my undying hope that everything is going to be fine. I am leading to a blissful life 🙂 . Trust me , this thought is enough for me to be charged up again to face anything in life. Because I know at the end I’ll be the winner and so you are… Have faith , YOU ARE A WINNER!!

 

2. Act as you would like to feel.

Emotions work backwards too. So if I want to become more positive or enthusiastic then I act in the manner of a person who is positive or enthusiastic.

I might not feel like it. But I do it as best as I can anyway. I may for example:

  • Think of the task I have in front of me as something exciting and fun.
  • Answer some emails or talk to someone in a positive and enthusiastic manner.
  • Assume rapport if I feel unmotivated, negative or nervous before some kind of meeting (assuming rapport is to I think to myself that I am meeting one of my best friends just before the meeting and that puts me in the right mood and headspace).

3. Think for a minute and give someone a genuine compliment.

Spend one minute coming up with something you really and genuinely appreciate about someone in your life that is in the same room as you at some point during the day. Then tell him or her the genuine compliment you have come up with.

Everyday is a blessing in itself. We just need that outlook towards life that can tend us to notice the good in everything.

Stay Happy and Have a Great Day!!

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You Fail Only When You Decide Not to Try- The Sky of Limitless Possibilities.

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Hi!!  If you ask someone-“Do you want to fail?” “Do you want to make a mistake?  – What will be the answer of that person- I am sure it will be” Nobody wants to be failed in life” . Right? But despite making all the right, “in place” decisions , sometimes a person feels confused and out of track. That “Something is missing” feeling soaks all the energy and a person feels like giving up. There are times when things just don’t go your way and sometimes it happens to that extent when a person finally gives up and think that this was not his cup of tea. I read somewhere that –”Sometimes you have to fail thousand times before succeeding”. I firmly believe in this. Don’t be so quick to throw all your efforts away. Life has a lot to teach us and offer us in various forms.  It’s just the beginning and you will learn more as you go. My little experiences taught me that sometimes we have to review our recent activities in order to succeed without blaming others.

Delay in success doesn’t mean the failure. My motive is not to tell you an out of the world story here, but just to repeat those few points that we might have overlooked. Success is a process of continuing efforts, here adding some thought to “Never Quit Approach” and clear the dust –

  1. Change comes When You Take the Charge of Your Deeds-

Whenever anything doesn’t do right , we look for the causes of the same. But mostly we end up with a handful of people to blame for all the things that went wrong in the process and hindered our way of success. Review is good but blaming others will never give you a chance to notice your short comings and eventually you will end up making no   development. The moment you claim personal responsibility over your life, you will learn the importance of steering your own ship. You will start to make decisions for yourself, and end up feeling less hateful and happier for the people around you.

2- Relationships are the Game Changers-

Relationships teach us a lot and have enough power to change a person completely. Nourishing relationships fuel your motivation to succeed and staying in toxic relationships are sure fire ways to fill your heart with negativity.  It is a widely accepted fact that we function well when we connect, collaborate, and share ourselves to other people. If we take a look at the other side of it- There are many people who succeeded in their life after suffering or learning from a terrible relationship. AT the same time there are people who succeeded when someone from their close family made them realize their responsibilities.  Choose your people wisely, It can either help you rise into your life or can break you suffer to the irrecoverable point.

  1. Life is a Learning School-

Learning doesn’t end at school, it doesn’t end at your college. Humans learn everyday throughout their lives. Learning shouldn’t ever be confined within the walls of a classroom. When we start noticing the learning around us, we notice that we know very less, this world has an ocean of wisdom . We enrich our experiences when we keep learning from the people and the happenings  around us. Failures also teach us something , may be another thing to be added into “Not to Do” list when we would try next time!!

  1. Big Achievers only Get though Big Troubles-

You will not be in any trouble if you don’t wish to grow and stay satisfied with your on going routine life, there will be no hassle if you don’t wish to rise in your life. There will be no need of getting out of your comfort zone, if you don’t wish to reach to new horizon. There will be no loss if you don’t wish to make profit and keep stuff safe inside the wall. Yes, life will not show up anything different if you are not willing. But will it be a meaningful life then?? I believe it will not. I hope you got my point- There is no gain without pain. We have to stretch our limits in order to get something that others don’t have.

  1. Money  is Not the Synonym of “Success”-

I am among those who never underestimate the value of money in life. It matters, even all the knowledge of the world doesn’t make any sense if you can’t earn your livelihood.  But money should not the only parameter to measure success. There comes a time in life, when a person feels like starting something for his self satisfaction  and mostly that satisfaction comes when we start something without considering the margin of monetary profit for ourselves. Earn enough to have good life but don’t forget that success, happiness, peace & health etc. don’t have so much to do with money. A common misconception in today’s capitalistic society, this view is shared by people who place great importance on wealth and material stuff.  You will realize that there are other forms of success too. Success isn’t based on your salary and job title, even success  includes your health, emotional well being and your relationships. These forms of success are the best source of long term happiness. Focus on making a balance life for yourself.

 

  1. Negative Experiences Are The Award Winning Teachers-

If your life goal is to avoid pain and suffering all the time – then you’ve already set the limit for your own growth. The point of negative experiences is to teach us the value of happy moments. To make us learn from our mistakes. Negative experiences are our best teachers. They help us grow into adults capable of fixing our own lives.

Your journey to success starts from the moment you change your limiting views about yourself.   There is so much you can do. You are more than just dust in the wind. You are here to mark your existence, to touch other people’s lives – you just need to find out how. Keep learning  and keep moving, because the delay in success doesn’t make you unsuccessful. Lean, Move, Be Patient and Give Time to Time.

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The Worthy Thoughts..

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Hi!! Once again we are in the mid of the week. Time goes by fast! Isn’t it? People pass years and years following their “ No Where Different” routines , just dates keep on changing. Have you ever noticed that even in our busiest hour our mind keeps on thinking, the flow of thoughts don’t go slow at any point of time, we think even when we sleep. As per some studies approximately 50,000 Thoughts cross our mind per day. Isn’t it a big figure? Sometime back I wrote a post here called- Our Thoughts are creating our future.

During meditation , there is a step called “ Emptying Your Mind” , i.e. a person masters himself in such a way that he doesn’t allow random thoughts to enter into his mind , sometimes he bars all the thoughts from coming in. This state is called “Quiet State”. The next step that comes is- Filling your mind with positive thoughts. Here we need to stop!! We all should follow this practice of being selective while thinking something. Trend yourself to think positive thoughts only, Decrease the quantity of your thoughts and focus on the quality of thoughts. Think Good , Think Positive, Think of Abundance, Think of a Pleasant Life, Think of Success, Think of Peace..

Now the question arises that when a person is in deep trouble then how can he focus on being positive, when we know that something is not going to workout for us then how can we close our eyes and sight away from the most obvious result? My answer is – Yes , turn away from thinking about negative outcomes. If being positive will not change the result then Do you think that being negative and cryptic will change anything? If not, then why not to feel good by being positive. When we think positive then our mind starts generating ideas to get the desired results. Just imagine that In the flow of your positive thoughts, suddenly an idea strikes into your mind, O Yes!! it’s a good one, Why not to go for it? And imagine what if it hits the target!! You will win the situation! Right! While on the other hand negative thoughts will give you nothing but Distraction, Depression and Anxiety.

Don’t underestimate the power of your mind, let it think, allow it to generate positive ideas , No idea is small , Be Creative, Be Responsive to Your Thoughts, Spend time in thinking good. Create a mind full of Less but Good Thoughts!! Your will see the results yourself!!

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Same can be applied to the Business scenario also, Quality of Work v/s Quantity of Work. We can’t ignore the second but in this competitive era where better than the best is always an available choice for our customers then why not to deliver the quality product and service. For Quantity, there are many players for mass selling. In my views, we should focus on Being Premium, Not Random. The 1st step of delivering the quality is having the skilled manpower for the same, who have the expertise in their respective areas, it’s possible that they might not have proficient knowledge of other subject matters but here we have to see that why are they hired for? To Deliver the Quality or To Deliver the Quantity? Select the one as per your need and then fill the positions! But without a question my vote goes to Quality!

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5 Things That We Should Start Doing for Ourselves!

1- Watch the Sun Rise!

A Refreshing One & My Favorite also ! Try to find a day from each of your weeks to watch a sun rise. This is a scientifically proved way to revitalize your mind and it will imbue your day with new enthusiasm. I assure a smile on face when you will witness it!! 🙂 I would suggest Monday morning for this practice so that you can get a great start of the Week!

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2- Take a Walk in the Nature!

We are so busy in our days that somehow we have forgotten the value of fresh air , wind, chirp of birds, sound of a waterfall etc. etc. (I will not ask you to go for a weekend gateway every week 😛 ) but find sometime to visit a nearby Grass-yard or Park atleast once in a week . When a person suffers from intense decease then doctors also recommend this so before being too late , start it from now!! This will low down your mental stress. I would recommend Saturday Evening for this Practice. Rest your choice! 🙂

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3- A Meeting with Yourself!

How this idea sounds to you? We keep on meeting many people for work. Every week on an average we give our time to 40-45 people in some way. But in this rush we forget to spend the time with the one, who is the closest to us, that person is “Our Own Self” . Once in a week find some time for a close meeting with your own self. Use this time for Planning of Next Week, Personal Grooming, Read any Inspirational Book, Remember Good Times , Accompany yourself with soothing mild music and Be Quiet for sometime. Silence is a great way to re-energize the mind. Stay in silence for sometime and feel new energy. I would recommend Sunday for this Practice.

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4- Start Creating a Personal Playlist of Songs!

Most of us love the music. We have a tendency to connect ourselves so easily with the lyrics of any song. Then Why don’t we use it as a personal motivator!! Trust me you will never regret for investing your time to create this playlist. Make a playlist of some good songs-Positive , Motivational, Devotional, Instrumental songs etc. Whenever you feel low just turn your music on and play your own favorites . I promise a change in mood within minutes. It can remove all your toxic negative thoughts to a big extent. I would suggest Friday late night for this job.

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5- Make a Memory Journal & Write One Good Incident Every Week that You Come Across!

We have a habit of talking about all the bad things that have happened to us, we hardly talk about the great events that we encounter. I am sure every day God does something good for us, we just need to notice that. Atleast I can say this with my personal experience.Some kind words, a motivational comment from a colleague, a compliment for your dressing sense , a call from a close friend or anything that can make you feel better from inside is valuable. Can’t we appreciate it?? “We get more what we are grateful for!”- I have read it many times ! Start writing minimum one good thing per week- Be it a compliment, be it any incident. MAKE A MEMORY JOURNAL FOR YOURSELF. AT THE END OF THE YEAR YOUR WILL BE SURPRISED TO SEE THAT Minimum 57-60 GOOD THINGS HAVE BEEN HAPPENED IN YOUR LIFE WHEN YOU WERE BUSY IN FOCUSING ON PROBLEMS!!  TRUST ME YOU WILL RECEIVE MORE GOOD THINGS WHEN YOU WILL START APPRECIATING THE LITTLE HAPPINESS !!

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Hope this post will bring a smile to you. Do Good, Be Good and Expect Good to Happen! 🙂 

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