Up from a past that’s rooted in pain, I will rise.
I’m a deep ocean, leaping and wide, Welling and moving I bear in the tide.
Leaving behind all those drifts and fear ,Before my final day to go to the other “way” I’ll rise…
Beyond this life, there is something awaits..
Something that a soul sees ,when from a body it separates,
A world beyond this world, Too much to be defined in Words..
Beyond the life in the hereafter,
As one crosses the threshold of death,
There is a serene, there is a light,
A New way is there to get into another life.
Now we don’t see them who are gone,
but they keep sending us blessings and positive vibes.
A person just leaves a body not the close ones life…
“People never learn anything by being told,
they have to find out for themselves.”
Few days back, I woke up with a text about a close one’s sudden demise. Few colleagues and friends called me as soon as they got the news and offered their help.In the midst of my sorrow I now realize this tragic loss made me to realize certain things.First, time has its own unrevealed mystery. Second, In any case our lives don’t stop , Our inner selves are strong enough to heal themselves with the passing time. And finally, just as it is difficult to see all the opportunities life gives you until you’re looking back, it is virtually impossible to fully understand certain life circumstances until they actually happen to you.
It’s a variation of this final point that I want to explore further today , Few lessons that we learn in the hard way-
Someday we all have to face the reality of loss , it can happen due to any worldly reason. And as life goes on, days rolling into nights, it becomes clear that you never really stop missing someone special who’s gone, you just learn to live around the gaping hole of their absence and somehow stop expecting them to come in your way.
When you lose someone you can’t imagine living without, your heart breaks wide open, and the bad news is you never completely get over the loss. You will never forget them. However, in a backwards way, this is also the good news. They will live on in the warmth of your broken heart that doesn’t fully heal back up, and you will continue to grow and experience life, even with your wound. It’s like badly breaking an ankle that never heals perfectly, and that still hurts when you dance, but you dance anyway with a slight limp, and this limp just adds to the depth of your performance and the authenticity of your character.
Pursuing happiness is not at all the same as being happy, which is a fleeting feeling dependent on momentary circumstances. If the sun is shining, by all means bask in it. Happy times are great and often fun-filled, but happy times pass, because time passes. This is something we rarely grasp at first and we again start seeking for happiness…
So better to find the meaning of your life and do something that gives peace to your soul. Desires are good but we have to put a stop somewhere to enjoy that we have in present.What you are really pursuing is meaning – living a meaningful life. It starts with your “why.” (Why are you doing what you’re doing with your life?) When your “why” is meaningful, you are pursuing happiness. There will be times when things go so wrong that you barely feel alive. And there will also be times when you realize that being barely alive, on your own terms, is better than living a lifeless existence for eighty years on someone else’s terms. The pursuit isn’t all or nothing; it’s all AND nothing, with ups and downs and worthwhile lessons along the way.
Has the fear of rejection held you back? Have you ever been so fearful of what others might think or say about you that it kept you from taking positive action? I bet you’re shaking your head, “yes.” It’s time to change your mindset…
Today, the only person you should try to be better than is the person you were yesterday. Prove yourself to yourself, not others. You are GOOD enough, SMART enough, FINE enough, and STRONG enough. You don’t need other people to validate you; you are already valuable.If someone says “no” to you, or if someone says something negative about you, that doesn’t change anything about YOU. The words and opinions of others have no real bearing on your worth. Certainly it can be helpful and desirable to make a good impression in certain situations, yet it’s not the end of the world when you are faced with rejection. It’s great to receive positive feedback, but it simply doesn’t always happen. That’s OK though, because you know where you’re headed and you know your true worth does not depend on the judgment of others. When you set out to make a true difference in life, there will be those who disagree with you, those who ignore you, and those who flat out reject your ideas and efforts. Look beyond them, step confidently forward, do what must be done, and let people make their own stories.
When we give in to our fears, we have a harder time looking at ourselves in the mirror. Sadly, very few of us escape learning this lesson firsthand. If you have already experienced this a time or two, you know what you need to do.
It is only when we risk losing that we truly open the possibility to win. Whether it is quitting your job to build a business, running a marathon, or traveling to unknown parts of the world, any worthy endeavor requires risk, struggle and sacrifice. Some of these things may even terrify you, but ask yourself if these fears are stronger than the most powerful of fears, the fear of a wasted life?
If you’ve never lost your mind, you’ve never followed your heart. It’s better to look back on life and say, “I can’t believe I did that,” than to look back and say, “I wish I did that.” Don’t let time pass you by like a hand waving from a train you desperately want to be on. Don’t spend the rest of your life thinking about why you didn’t do what you can do right now. Live your life. Take risks. Feel passion. Discover love. Stay Foolish. Go Crazy.
Set yourself free to follow the instinct of your heart.
When you stop predicting and expecting things to be a certain way, you can appreciate them for what they are. Ultimately you will realize that life’s greatest gifts are rarely wrapped the way you expected. 🙂
Let situations come in your life, let the fate play its role, With a positive attitude and an open mind, you will find that life isn’t necessarily any easier or harder than you thought it was going to be; it’s just that “the easy” and “the hard” aren’t exactly the way you had anticipated, and don’t always occur when you expect them to. This isn’t a bad thing; it makes life interesting. Trust me Life is Good Anyway…
Ninety-nine percent of the time life delivers the experiences that are most helpful for your personal growth. How do you know it’s the experience you need? Because it’s the experience you’re having. The only question is: Will you embrace it and grow, or fight it and fade?????
Nobody in this world is going to blindside you and hit you as hard as life will. Sometimes life will beat you to the ground and try to keep you there if you let it. But it’s not about how hard life can hit you, it’s about how hard you can be hit while continuing to move forward. That’s what true strength is, and that’s what winning the game of life is all about.When you have a lot to cry and complain about, but you prefer to smile and take a step forward instead, you are growing stronger. Work through your struggles and hardships. Even when it feels like things are falling apart, they’re not. Take control of your emotions before they take control of you. Everything will fall into place eventually. Until then, learn what you can, laugh often, live for the moments, and know that it’s all worthwhile in the end.
At Last, the key is to stay good and do good to others, Rest will follow. The Most important lessons of life come with harsh , heart wrenching experience. Take the life as a learning school and welcome everything that comes your way!!
Happy Living!! Happy Learning!!
Though this life was never planned,
All happened by chance ,it was not this way designed,
But I am free now, My heart can feel the wind…
I never wished for a kingdom but wisdom,
I’m in some queer peace now, though its seldom
Not trying to conquer any world , Except the “One” within..
Not defeating the “Others” outside , but the sins and devil therein,
My days and ways are in my full command..
I came “Here” in silence but the exist will be grand..
A human mind gets approx. 60,000 thoughts per day. We all wish to make our dreams come true. As it’s been ages since we are reading about the power of manifestation, visualization & thoughts etc. Then sometimes we wonder that why don’t we get desired results most of times despite following all the necessary techniques. We make a plan, visualize it’s success, work on a good action plan still sometimes plans don’t work out and possibility of “Change” occurs.
There are many other factors also that make a thought come true. A Thought is made of 2 components-
Text part is the flow chart of a Thought– The basics that we share with our mind. If we think of Sun, the text part will be the Image of the Sun. If we think of acquiring a Golf course then Our Position, Players , Ground & Acquisition Papers etc. will be the part of the text that will be sent to our mind.Text part doesn’t have any emotion attached to it. Text is only a small representation of our desire and these representations create primary database for our mind to work upon.
2- Associated Energy-
I would define it as text-less component of a Thought. When we send an image to our mind ,instantly it generates emotions and emotions generate energy. For instance, If I say – “She must be angry”- My mind will make her “Angry” image and accordingly emotions will be produced and energy will be released. Intentionally or Unintentionally whenever we think of something positive or negative, we release an energy that goes into the universe and moves the circumstances accordingly.
We get adverse results when we focus more on “What if it doesn’t work out” , because our mind weighs both positive and negative energies associated with any thought and universe works in the favour of the Winner!! So focus on the weight of the energy that our thoughts are emitting.
I would add one more supporting statement here, Just try holding a thought “ I am feeling great today” in your mind and notice how you feel when you hold this thought.
Again hold the same thought with more intensity by adding a smile to it, deep breath and your head up, this time you will feel more positive and more positive energy will be released. Now just reverse the process, start eliminating the positive elements from this thought and after sometime “ I am feeling great today” will remain nothing but a meaningless sentence.
Can you see the difference? It’s energy only that’s creating the difference!! Wherever plan to start something with great intentions then load it with a lot of positive thoughts and energy.
If Text of a Thought is Body, then Associated Energy is the Soul, and it’s the soul only that makes a body alive!! Thoughts create our future but only when we add right energy to it.
God made us in such a way that we adopt the pace of nature, climate change without much hassle. Days change so our attires and routines. What if we don’t change ourselves with the changing weather?? It will be uncomfortable and suffocating, Survival will be tough!! Right!!
In the same manner we have to face many changes in our lives also. We change places, we change jobs, we see the change in the people around us. There are many things that keep on changing with the passes of time. We can’t standstill amid of flowing and floating river so we have to make the pace with the flow to survive, same goes with life too . There are certain events in life that we can’t control , we try hard to resist but sometimes it goes beyond the limit of resistance , then the best thing is to use this change in such a way that it becomes a blessing for us.
Here are few things that I learned When I Encountered the Challenge of Change !
Time Shifts! Be Pliable to Flourish Through Change-
At the time when you are dealing with the absence of people , something that aches you badly then gather your all energy and think- Will it make any difference if you keep spoiling yourself for something that you can’t change? Will it make any difference in the lives of people if you keep yourself unhappy? I am sure the answer will be “NO”. Use this time to uncover your hidden talents, do something that you are good into and become an expert in your respective area. Make your talent your best friend and focus on being exceptionally good in one area if you have seen a tough time in any other area of life.
When we loose something then God always gives us the insight to get something good in some other way, We just have to shift our eyes to the new goal.
Change is Unavoidable. Learning from Change is Your Choice-
God always gives us the chance to make the choice and it depends upon our capability what we choose. In the transition period also we get the choice to learn the lessons. I always focus on learning from the smallest event even that I come across. Time is like wind, we can’t stop its flow. We can simply learn from it and move ahead to meet new challenges. Forgive people, Leave sorrows behind but Don’t forget the lesson that you learn!
After all, A Lesson is a Good Thing That We Can Get From Even The Worst Events Of Our Lives!
Rise as A Victor Once Storm Passes Away-
I read it somewhere and found it very true that Most of the Strong People, Have Had a Painful Past. But in their tough time, They denied to quit, They denied to fall apart, Took new chances and their choice made them what they are known for now. Become so good in something that people fail to get your replacement. Discover your talent to make people realize that you are much more stronger than they think you are. There are many good things about your personality than the bad ones on which they rated you!!
It’s always our choice- Become a Victim or a Victor!
Make a Life that Others Wish to Read About-
When we look for inspiration to achieve something great, We always love to read the Motivational Stories of People, Survival Stories, Social Changes for Which Somebody Tried Hard etc. etc. Focus on becoming like the one who motivates you. Be the writer of your own success story.
Take the challenge of Change and emerge as a Winner by making the best out of it. I am sure you will be happy a day on the fact that You are much more stronger than earlier after encountering this change.
At last, In the process of change, don’t leave the basic principle – “Be Good, Do Good and Expect Good Things to Happen” . Don’t Do Wrong With Anyone!! Peace comes to those who don’t hurt others.
PEACE OF MIND IN THE END IS ALSO A SUCCESS!!
Hello Friends!! It’s always a blessing to be surrounded with the people who value you for what you are. We should treasure people on the basis of their value addition to our lives. But many times I find it very disturbing when I notice people criticizing somebody close to them on the basis of his “Not So Good” past while he has been proven good enough to get respect from others in his present days. Many of us have a tendency to form an opinion about people on the basis of their past. Well I also don’t find it wrong to take the reference of past , when we encounter a stranger . The first introduction of a person begins with his/her past. (We can’t trust a terrorist blindly 🙂 )
But What if we keep on doubting people and criticizing their good deeds and considering their past. We need to accept that people change and some incidences are big enough to change the whole story of somebody’s life.Moreover a person doesn’t have full control over every event that occurs into his life. There are many saints and philosophers who were not the same ones in their early lives, but something incidents made them what they are known for . (We say that Albert Einstein is one of the greatest scientists of all the times, who was once declared mentally sick during his childhood. Saint Nicholas was not a saint in his early life , Gautam Buddha was a Successor king before being a saint). In one of my recent chats with a fellow he was criticizing one of his closed ones referring to the past of that person. The saddest part of the story was- That person was extremely good with my fellow friend.
Sometimes we forget that A person has to put a lot of courage to stand again from the betrayed stage and take a new path. He gathers all the pieces of his scattered hopes, broken self esteem and left out energy to stand with his head up but we don’t leave a chance to make him recall the days which he wants to forget. We have no idea that we put that person in the same pain again whenever we criticize him for his past. Should we hurt a person just because he has gone through the same pain earlier and came out of it so we can presume that he will tackle our misbehave this time also? Should we break somebody’s 2nd leg just because he is walking perfect with one broken leg? I leave the answers on you..
There are many people around who are dealing with such issues in their lives when they have to prove themselves right for the incidences that might have occurred in their past due to circumstances. We simply devalue something very special that a person is doing for us by considering that “It’s nothing new for this person, nothing special”. It can hurt a person to the non-recoverable level sometimes. Believe Me.
I really wonder that when we are so good in judging someone by his past then why aren’t we good in analyzing someone by his present?
Next time before you think of talking about somebody’s past, I would suggest you to ask these questions to yourself
1- Haven’t we done anything wrong in our lives?
2- Do we know the “whole story” of this person? Have we witnessed the series of events that occurred in his past and what were the circumstances then?
3- What matters more- An untold past of someone or The present where the other person does all to make our days beautiful and memorable.
4- Your place in other person’s life now .
5- What will be the impact of our criticism on the life of the other person.
I am sure once you introspect yourself and ask this questions to yourself then you will not criticize any of your closed ones again. A mistake can never be beyond the limit of being forgiven. Life is precious and so people.
As I say- Be Good, Do Good and Expect Good to Happen. Become the reason of somebody’s happiness, you will receive the same in some way. But If you are the reason of somebody’s grief in someway then you will get the same in some other way. Life pays us exactly same what we give to others and Karma knocks the door of all sooner or later. Spread Happiness to Receive It!!
This was a disturbing thought I think… Signing off for the day…
Leaving with just one message – No Past should be vast enough to cover the present of someone!!
More Later ,
Sounds not so familiar!! Right??
Whenever I discuss my Vacation Ideas, Shopping or Movie plans with someone, the first question arises- With whom? When I tell them that I am not going with anyother person then I get the reactions like- How can you enjoy alone? Wouldn’t it be boring? After getting this from people since so long, today It forced me to think that Do we really need someone everytime to get even the little happiness? Are we so insufficient that we can’t make ourselves feel good? We spend the most of our time with our own selves still we look for others whenever we plan to enjoy something!!
Do we know the one with whom we spend the most of our time? That One is- Our own inner-self.. 🙂 We praise everybody around us to strengthen the bonds that we have. But we never cherish ourselves to strengthen the oldest bond that we start forming since the very first day of our lives when we get the existence in our mother’s bomb, the bond with our ownself.
Can’t we make ourselves so much interesting, strong & self-loving that we don’t feel the need of others to accompany us in any situation. Be it at in the good times to enjoy or during the hard sufferings. I would say- Yes, We Can.. It’s good to share your good time with others (We are called “ the social creatures” after all 🙂 ) but at the same time we shouldn’t feel paralyzed to enjoy our own company also.
This post is for those, Who feel it difficult to enjoy alone and don’t buy this point that a person can be the happiest one in the absence of others. Few steps towards making you realize that you the best company that you can ever have!!
1- Which one makes you feel good?
Answer is very simple. Smiling faces always make you feel better. Then why not to carry a smile. Start feeling good from inside. When you feel good from inside then you see the beauty and positivity in every thing . You witness the same as you feel!! So feel good to get good.
2- Discover your Interests- Search your passion. Have you seen the kids when they are involved into their dearest activity? They forget the rest of the world. Discover and develop such interests that can keep you engaged deeply. Many people like travelling and when they are out to see the world they don’t feel the need of anyone. Many others like Photography and when they are busy in capturing the moments and objects then they don’t want anyone to disturb them. Be Friends with your own talents and make them your companion. 🙂
Your passion will accompany you always wherever you go.
2- Become Your Own – We are afraid of being alone because of our unseen fear of encountering something unpleasant. So next time whenever you want to start something, try to collect every detail (Even the smallest one) related to that activity. Search about it, Talk about It, Think about it , make a note of every information. Go for a question-answer session within yourself to check your preparation and make sure that you are well prepared. For instance I take a random scenario – Going for Shopping! Decide What you need, Check the Trends, List the Places where you can get the desired stuff, How would you reach there. Visualize , Become Your Honest Critic to Say Yes/No for anything. Then Step out!
3- Be Your Own Caretaker- Start pampering yourself in all available forms. Dress up well, Feed your mind with great thoughts, Smile, Take care of your necessities , Feel great about your possessions, Cheer yourself for your achievements. Stay Fit-You can only enjoy your company in the well-being state of both your body and heart. Being fit from inside is a joyous feeling in itself and it motivates you to do great things without seeking for the support from others.
4- People See in You What You See in Yourself-
You can enjoy your company only if you appreciate yourself and take your best step forward to show your best side to others. Your opinion about yourself can make a huge difference in your life. If you think you are a mediocre , you will reflect it by your personality. If you think that you are champion, that’s what will be reflected by your attitude. When you are confident then trust me you don’t need the approval of rest of the world to carry forward your desires.
Stay Confident! Follow your instinct and when you know that you are heading towards the right direction than don’t look for others ‘ approval.
Stay Happy and Enjoy Your Company!!
Be Good, Do Good and Expect Good to Happen!! 🙂
A new week has started. In the previous week I was constantly thinking of the outcome of an incident that recently occurred. I invested a lot my time in thinking that how will it be when I would encounter that person again after years. What would I say , how would I react , what would I ask? Even I tried to decide that What would I wear that day if it would be a planned meeting.. (I din’t use the word “Wasted” because it was again a learning for me ) Somehow many times I caught myself thinking about this hypothetical situation during my days. Today morning I was evoked by a thought that Why am I thinking so much about an event which has the probability of occurrence after many years or may be after decades. Rather I should focus on making the best of the days that I am having now. I don’t know whether I’ll be alive to witness that day, then why am I making plans?
I realize that it happens many times when we focus a lot on the outcome of something and somehow we forget to enjoy the process. For Example- Let say we enjoy the company of a person but we fear of loosing him/her. The destination is “Separation in Future” but the Journey is “This Present Good Time”.Don’t let your fear vanish your existing good moments, if the person is worth to be with then spend good time with that one and leave rest on time. Be as good as you can , give your best. Trust me, You will remember this journey forever even after getting separated!! And you will become a “good memory” for other person too. 🙂
We all have heard it many times that we should enjoy our present but we forget this every now and then. The thoughts about Destination should not demolish the beauty of the journey. When we focus on the long term result of something then most of the times we end up imagining 90% of negative outcomes and we actually visualize ourselves fighting the odds then. In my first post I discussed about the power of imagination, and when we focus a lot on the outcome, unknowingly we invite negativity and unpleasant situations to our future. Avoid it as much as you can. I am not saying that we should not plan our future or we should not stay prepared for the situations. But don’t focus “Too Much” on any result. Everyday has its own glory, why not to cherish all that we are receiving everyday, instead of constantly waiting for the occurrence of an event in our future.
Life comes with many twists and turns, this is what makes it interesting and memorable. We are human and life is much more for us than Waking Up, Eating and Sleeping again every night. We have got senses to experience the things ,sometimes pleasant and sometimes extremely painful ones . But when we focus a lot on a particular situation than somehow we miss the series of good things that might be happening around in between. I am not a firm believer of destiny but we should leave few things on “Time” and keep on enjoying everyday that comes into our lives.
Leave few things on time .Try to be as good as you expect others to be with you. Try to be as perfect as you want others to be when they serve you. Treat others same as you want them to treat you. If You play your part honestly, if you will do the justice with all who will join you during the journey of your life then the outcome of every event will be a pleasant one for you, be it your personal life or professional.
As I always say– Do Good, Be Good and Expect Good to Happen!
Hope you will free yourself from being over worried about your future. Have a great week ahead!!
1- Watch the Sun Rise!
A Refreshing One & My Favorite also ! Try to find a day from each of your weeks to watch a sun rise. This is a scientifically proved way to revitalize your mind and it will imbue your day with new enthusiasm. I assure a smile on face when you will witness it!! 🙂 I would suggest Monday morning for this practice so that you can get a great start of the Week!
2- Take a Walk in the Nature!
We are so busy in our days that somehow we have forgotten the value of fresh air , wind, chirp of birds, sound of a waterfall etc. etc. (I will not ask you to go for a weekend gateway every week 😛 ) but find sometime to visit a nearby Grass-yard or Park atleast once in a week . When a person suffers from intense decease then doctors also recommend this so before being too late , start it from now!! This will low down your mental stress. I would recommend Saturday Evening for this Practice. Rest your choice! 🙂
3- A Meeting with Yourself!
How this idea sounds to you? We keep on meeting many people for work. Every week on an average we give our time to 40-45 people in some way. But in this rush we forget to spend the time with the one, who is the closest to us, that person is “Our Own Self” . Once in a week find some time for a close meeting with your own self. Use this time for Planning of Next Week, Personal Grooming, Read any Inspirational Book, Remember Good Times , Accompany yourself with soothing mild music and Be Quiet for sometime. Silence is a great way to re-energize the mind. Stay in silence for sometime and feel new energy. I would recommend Sunday for this Practice.
4- Start Creating a Personal Playlist of Songs!
Most of us love the music. We have a tendency to connect ourselves so easily with the lyrics of any song. Then Why don’t we use it as a personal motivator!! Trust me you will never regret for investing your time to create this playlist. Make a playlist of some good songs-Positive , Motivational, Devotional, Instrumental songs etc. Whenever you feel low just turn your music on and play your own favorites . I promise a change in mood within minutes. It can remove all your toxic negative thoughts to a big extent. I would suggest Friday late night for this job.
5- Make a Memory Journal & Write One Good Incident Every Week that You Come Across!
We have a habit of talking about all the bad things that have happened to us, we hardly talk about the great events that we encounter. I am sure every day God does something good for us, we just need to notice that. Atleast I can say this with my personal experience.Some kind words, a motivational comment from a colleague, a compliment for your dressing sense , a call from a close friend or anything that can make you feel better from inside is valuable. Can’t we appreciate it?? “We get more what we are grateful for!”- I have read it many times ! Start writing minimum one good thing per week- Be it a compliment, be it any incident. MAKE A MEMORY JOURNAL FOR YOURSELF. AT THE END OF THE YEAR YOUR WILL BE SURPRISED TO SEE THAT Minimum 57-60 GOOD THINGS HAVE BEEN HAPPENED IN YOUR LIFE WHEN YOU WERE BUSY IN FOCUSING ON PROBLEMS!! TRUST ME YOU WILL RECEIVE MORE GOOD THINGS WHEN YOU WILL START APPRECIATING THE LITTLE HAPPINESS !!
Hope this post will bring a smile to you. Do Good, Be Good and Expect Good to Happen! 🙂