Up from a past that’s rooted in pain, I will rise.
I’m a deep ocean, leaping and wide, Welling and moving I bear in the tide.
Leaving behind all those drifts and fear ,Before my final day to go to the other “way” I’ll rise…
Beyond this life, there is something awaits..
Something that a soul sees ,when from a body it separates,
A world beyond this world, Too much to be defined in Words..
Beyond the life in the hereafter,
As one crosses the threshold of death,
There is a serene, there is a light,
A New way is there to get into another life.
Now we don’t see them who are gone,
but they keep sending us blessings and positive vibes.
A person just leaves a body not the close ones life…
Quitting is never easy. When we are addict to something, any habit or a person then it becomes a tough task for us to get rid of it and make a fresh start. But human has a tendency of adopting changes with the passes of time. Few adopt it by choice and few adopt it when they have no other choice. When we are destined to quit so many of our desired habits, have to leave few people and go towards “Never in Plans” directions, Then Why not to quit few things to make a peaceful and rewarding future for ourselves. In addition of some unwelcomed unplanned “Quit’s” , Here I am sharing a list of some QUITS to start a peaceful life-
1- Quit Planning Too Much for Future: The reason of the most of our heartbreaks and pains is- “Future Planning”. A person gets hurt the most when his future plans fail. Then why not to live in present? Tomorrow is unpredictable but if we focus on staying happy today and making the best of our present days then we can be a little sure of witnessing a great future. Our days today itself define our days of “Tomorrow”. So my one strategy of happiness is- Quit Planning for Future.
2- Quit Making Everyone Happy: It’s called a great human quality if a person keeps everybody happy around him. But do you ever notice that a person has to put himself down sometimes during this process. Select the people who are good to you and try to keep you happy , I am sure your effort of doing this will be well rewarded and you will end up with a tiny list of those handful people who are actually concerned about your happiness. Do sacrifices for them and Think of their happiness. For rest of the world- Don’t do wrong with others but don’t try to please them.
3- Quit Blaming Yourself: I am among those people who used to blame my own self for many things which dint turn up positively. Recently I made a turn and starting noticing the real cause of few events. I was surprised to see that I was nowhere wrong,I accepted my faults , I forgave people, I trusted them , I made the best of my efforts to make the things possible but it was actually the faults of others , they were tricksters!! Don’t blame yourself for not getting something that you desired for with full heart, because it might have happened because of the fault of somebody else.
4- Quit Building Expectations: Being nice to someone is your choice but it doesn’t guarantee that others will be equally nice to you. Its very natural that we start expecting good for ourselves when we treat people good. But your heart doesn’t drive others’, they have their own minds , Sometimes Noble -Sometimes Wicked! If you don’t expect from people then certainly noble ones will surprise you but the wicked ones will not get a chance to hurt you. Don’t keep hopes from others , just make your own way of happiness!!
5- Quit Thinking Much About “Anything”- We pressurize ourselves by giving a lot of energy in thinking about any particular incident/person/ plan. Be it anything of Past , Present or Future, Don’t think much. Better to leave few things on time and Enjoy the show!! Life becomes interesting when we encounter something unplanned!! Leave few things unfold in your future. You know Mystery has its own Charm and Thrill!!
These 4 are very easy things to do with little but continuous efforts!! Make your own list of “Quitting” that can be proven a step towards personal healing and happiness!!
There is a saying “What we seek is seeking us”. I am among those who firmly believe in such statements. But there are many people among us who struggle a lot due to their own thoughts, They keep on fighting a war inside their own mind. Despite seeking the answers of few questions, they left unanswered. There are many such questions which remain unanswered for a long time.We try to move forward with passing days but somewhere deep inside us those questions keep punching us. Their punches become so hard at times that we feel an extremely painful restlessness and crave to get the answers anyhow. As there is nobody in the outer world to answer so we return with disappointment and it adds more burden over our hearts and next time these punches become even harder.
Do we ever try to know why we have to become a victim of such situations? Who punches exactly on our souls?? These are our own heavy chains of expectations from people and relationships which keep on haunting us. We become the prisoner of our self-created cell. “We are the most responsible person for our happiness”- Widely heard Statement, Right? So isn’t it our responsibility to free ourselves from the chains of the past and from those expectations that will never be met by the people. Who cares for us, will never leave us in such situations, and who doesn’t care should not have a grip on our souls to punch us.
So what has to be done to be free from these chains which are bounded and wounded our souls.
Sharing few widely said practices to remove this burden-
1- Let all the questions flow into your mind, let them come, Feel them then eliminate the ones that are not going to affect your future in any positive way. It’s not a tough task, We mainly worry about such hypothetical situations that may never occur in our lives. To free ourselves we need to identify such thoughts and start leaving them away.
2- Ask Yourself – Do you have those willing people around who can answer you? If not then better not to keep thinking about it because our own thoughts will only add more to these questions without giving any answer, practice the 1st point mentioned above and set yourself free.
3- Forgive Other to the Most Possible Limit– There are certain events which a person can’t forget and my little experience says that our characters are made of such unforgettable events only because we learn the most out of such events.. And mostly we fail to forgive the person who caused that event. Any loss is not big enough to spoil your life, God always compensates us so well for all the losses. So try to forgive people who have not been good to you. It will not help them but you, the less you curse, the less you think and lesser your soul will be burdened.
4- Focus on Making a Great Today- We all have inherent potentials that can lead us to great accomplishments. A bitter past has nothing to do with our present. Make peace with your past and focus on present. This peace will eventually come when you will decide to set yourself free from the chains of past. It’s always in our hands to discover our talents and use your potential in the right direction. We need to divert our thoughts from painful past to promising present. Do all that can raise your mark in both your personal and professional life. Time is the best doctor and best judge, leave few things on the universe. Everyone gets the return of his deeds.
5- There is an old saying– “ Everything happens for a reason”. Our questions start decreasing when we truly accept this fact. We can’t see those reasons at the first place but sooner or later we get to know the reason of everything. If you feel that you were treated bad , then be assured God already has planned to compensate it by rewarding you with something extremely good and the one who treated you bad will pay for it someday.
Among many other ways, This is my way to deal with unanswered questions. We have heard it many times but don’t implement. Set yourself free from the chains of those questions, Life has much more to offer us , we only need the eyes to see the good things happening around. Have faith, Almighty is the most honest judge. Focus on your present , Rest all will be taken care by the justice of nature!!
Hello Friends!! It’s always a blessing to be surrounded with the people who value you for what you are. We should treasure people on the basis of their value addition to our lives. But many times I find it very disturbing when I notice people criticizing somebody close to them on the basis of his “Not So Good” past while he has been proven good enough to get respect from others in his present days. Many of us have a tendency to form an opinion about people on the basis of their past. Well I also don’t find it wrong to take the reference of past , when we encounter a stranger . The first introduction of a person begins with his/her past. (We can’t trust a terrorist blindly 🙂 )
But What if we keep on doubting people and criticizing their good deeds and considering their past. We need to accept that people change and some incidences are big enough to change the whole story of somebody’s life.Moreover a person doesn’t have full control over every event that occurs into his life. There are many saints and philosophers who were not the same ones in their early lives, but something incidents made them what they are known for . (We say that Albert Einstein is one of the greatest scientists of all the times, who was once declared mentally sick during his childhood. Saint Nicholas was not a saint in his early life , Gautam Buddha was a Successor king before being a saint). In one of my recent chats with a fellow he was criticizing one of his closed ones referring to the past of that person. The saddest part of the story was- That person was extremely good with my fellow friend.
Sometimes we forget that A person has to put a lot of courage to stand again from the betrayed stage and take a new path. He gathers all the pieces of his scattered hopes, broken self esteem and left out energy to stand with his head up but we don’t leave a chance to make him recall the days which he wants to forget. We have no idea that we put that person in the same pain again whenever we criticize him for his past. Should we hurt a person just because he has gone through the same pain earlier and came out of it so we can presume that he will tackle our misbehave this time also? Should we break somebody’s 2nd leg just because he is walking perfect with one broken leg? I leave the answers on you..
There are many people around who are dealing with such issues in their lives when they have to prove themselves right for the incidences that might have occurred in their past due to circumstances. We simply devalue something very special that a person is doing for us by considering that “It’s nothing new for this person, nothing special”. It can hurt a person to the non-recoverable level sometimes. Believe Me.
I really wonder that when we are so good in judging someone by his past then why aren’t we good in analyzing someone by his present?
Next time before you think of talking about somebody’s past, I would suggest you to ask these questions to yourself
1- Haven’t we done anything wrong in our lives?
2- Do we know the “whole story” of this person? Have we witnessed the series of events that occurred in his past and what were the circumstances then?
3- What matters more- An untold past of someone or The present where the other person does all to make our days beautiful and memorable.
4- Your place in other person’s life now .
5- What will be the impact of our criticism on the life of the other person.
I am sure once you introspect yourself and ask this questions to yourself then you will not criticize any of your closed ones again. A mistake can never be beyond the limit of being forgiven. Life is precious and so people.
As I say- Be Good, Do Good and Expect Good to Happen. Become the reason of somebody’s happiness, you will receive the same in some way. But If you are the reason of somebody’s grief in someway then you will get the same in some other way. Life pays us exactly same what we give to others and Karma knocks the door of all sooner or later. Spread Happiness to Receive It!!
This was a disturbing thought I think… Signing off for the day…
Leaving with just one message – No Past should be vast enough to cover the present of someone!!
More Later ,
Hello Friends!! The beginning of a New Week!! I have full faith that all of us will lead to more joy, happiness and achievements this week..
Today my post is driven by the circumstances of people around me. Many of us have dealt with the absence of some people in our lives , who used to mean a lot for us at a point of time. This situation of letting people go becomes completely uncontrollable for many of us. Yes , It’s a tough hack to master, purely because we get attached to all the living/non living objects very easily. We try so desperately to hold on to things even when they’ve served us beyond their purpose.
It might bring sadness, heartache,regret, tears and break down but each loss takes us on a journey which makes us stronger. Forgive people for the grief that you might have suffered because of them but don’t forget the lesson!! It will make you wiser.
Losing people is a natural part of growing up, but when we’re encompassed in a society that is constantly changing, we mainly believe that everyone we lose is a loss occurred which is really not the case!! It’s not necessary that it’s our fault or we are not good enough when we have to loose someone, or we are not meant to be surrounded by good people or the people we desire for, so this loss happened.
Just flip the coin!! 🙂 Look at the other side now- Probably we are not with a particular person now, because s/he has taught us all the necessary lessons, probably we are meant to achieve something much more than just being into a particular relation and that person was hindering our way , probably that person was not a deserving one and we were not able to see his/her real side so God took the charge and expelled him/her from our lives, or may be we both are good but we weren’t meant to be together 🙂 We were sent on the earth to enlighten the lives of many others. Remember even in a battle , King doesn’t send all his best soldiers in one direction, he has to divide them and send them in diverse directions to save more and more people. This can be same with us , God diversified us to spread happiness in the lives of more people so we are not together, People cross our ways when alike minds meet and after teaching all the necessary lessons , God brings “separation” in the story but We should not blame people or the almighty for this. We should be grateful to the people and nature for the blessings/ lessons that we got from a particular incident /relation.
If we really know that we have been cheated in someway or other then we should not cry for the culprits. Let him go, who wants to leave. Hindering the way of somebody can’t form a strong relation. Make the exit easy for people and yourself. Trust me, you will grow in folds after leaving a painful relation behind. The one who doesn’t value you, who doesn’t care about your presence and absence , has no right to be with you.
Don’t forget that – Who can’t stand for us, Doesn’t deserve to stay with us. Every relationship is a learning curve, so instead of mourning the people who aren’t present, we should celebrate filtering people out who no longer serve as support.
Loss can be one of the most painful feelings to endure but over time, the pain lessens and our eyes are opened to the fact that we don’t actually need that person anymore who couldn’t value our existence in his/her life. In the end- I believe on one fact which makes this ” People Filtration” easy for me, that is- Who wants to be with you , will find a way, Who is not willing enough to be with you, will again find a way” So better to let people decide first and follow afterwords, it will be less complicated for you to reciprocate their reaction.
Picking up the pieces, planting a smile on our faces and finding comfort in the fact that things will get better is the first step toward learning to be truly happy on our own. Because, what’s the point in wasting our time and energy on people who remain standstill?
We need to stop trying to force things because we’re scared to be without someone. We need to stop worrying, and start believing that things will be okay in the end. If things aren’t okay, it’s not the end.
If someone doesn’t treat us how we deserve, we shouldn’t accept their behavior just because it’s what we think we deserve. We don’t have to settle.
People have an unhealthy habit of hurting the ones closest to them, but we can choose not to be victim and go away from this breed of people.
While it’s hard to accept that not everyone who enters our life is meant to stay, we as human beings are built to encounter new people. We’re designed to explore, discover and grow, and not be held back by people who don’t have the same capacity as us.
So when we feel like we’re falling apart, we need to remind ourselves how that person made us feel. Not when we were naively content, but when we were achingly sad and bitterly confused.
Life is too short to be anything but happy- Have heard it!! Right!! Then why not to accept it and be Happy!! Learn to surround yourself with people who matter. We either grow with, or grow apart from people, and if it doesn’t feel right, it might be best to let it go.
People will become strangers and distant memories, but we don’t ever have to feel guilty about removing toxic people from our lives. Play your part honestly and become a good memory for all.
Nobody has the right to infect us with negativity and doubt. As i mention in all my posts – Please have faith in the justice of almighty. Justice will take place at the most unexpected time, in the most unexpected manner, in some way or other. But it will surely happen. Universe is an ECHO- we receive what we emit, if we give smiles to others then we’ll receive the same and if we are the reason of somebody’s tears or sadness,We’ll get it a day in any form.
After all Our broken moments don’t define us. It’s how we deal with them that does- Believe It!!
Happy Week Ahead !