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Good Mood is the Best Mode- 3 Things to Do When You Feel Low…

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Hi All,

It’s been so long since my work kept me away from sharing my thoughts here. Finally I am here one more time…

Well, I often write about feeling good, staying motivated, energetic, keep fighting and much more.. But sometimes we don’t get a good start of the day for some reasons. May be you are afraid of a busy day , may be you dint get a good sleep last night, may be you thought a lot about something that you can’t control or the most common reasons – Missing someone and Flashbacks!!

 

Some times we loose that positive momentum during hard first few hours of the day and in the second half we feel tired, low, lost, somewhat sad or uninspired.

What to do then? Is that day lost and should you just aim for a better day tomorrow?

Well, the good news is-  Today is not over yet!!

Here’s how I do that by breaking the negative mood and getting a new start.

1. Appreciate what you have-

The simplest of my most commonly used pick-me-ups.

I tell myself: OK, I might not feel so good right now, but what can I be grateful for and appreciate in my life?

I usually come up with simple things like-

  • My Health.
  • My Victory over some past issues.
  • My Professional Achievements.
  • My New Books That I Recently Bought to Read.
  • The Biggest- While Closing My Eyes and Thinking of All the Happening , Somewhere deep down inside I always find a silver line of my undying hope that everything is going to be fine. I am leading to a blissful life 🙂 . Trust me , this thought is enough for me to be charged up again to face anything in life. Because I know at the end I’ll be the winner and so you are… Have faith , YOU ARE A WINNER!!

 

2. Act as you would like to feel.

Emotions work backwards too. So if I want to become more positive or enthusiastic then I act in the manner of a person who is positive or enthusiastic.

I might not feel like it. But I do it as best as I can anyway. I may for example:

  • Think of the task I have in front of me as something exciting and fun.
  • Answer some emails or talk to someone in a positive and enthusiastic manner.
  • Assume rapport if I feel unmotivated, negative or nervous before some kind of meeting (assuming rapport is to I think to myself that I am meeting one of my best friends just before the meeting and that puts me in the right mood and headspace).

3. Think for a minute and give someone a genuine compliment.

Spend one minute coming up with something you really and genuinely appreciate about someone in your life that is in the same room as you at some point during the day. Then tell him or her the genuine compliment you have come up with.

Everyday is a blessing in itself. We just need that outlook towards life that can tend us to notice the good in everything.

Stay Happy and Have a Great Day!!

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You Fail Only When You Decide Not to Try- The Sky of Limitless Possibilities.

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Hi!!  If you ask someone-“Do you want to fail?” “Do you want to make a mistake?  – What will be the answer of that person- I am sure it will be” Nobody wants to be failed in life” . Right? But despite making all the right, “in place” decisions , sometimes a person feels confused and out of track. That “Something is missing” feeling soaks all the energy and a person feels like giving up. There are times when things just don’t go your way and sometimes it happens to that extent when a person finally gives up and think that this was not his cup of tea. I read somewhere that –”Sometimes you have to fail thousand times before succeeding”. I firmly believe in this. Don’t be so quick to throw all your efforts away. Life has a lot to teach us and offer us in various forms.  It’s just the beginning and you will learn more as you go. My little experiences taught me that sometimes we have to review our recent activities in order to succeed without blaming others.

Delay in success doesn’t mean the failure. My motive is not to tell you an out of the world story here, but just to repeat those few points that we might have overlooked. Success is a process of continuing efforts, here adding some thought to “Never Quit Approach” and clear the dust –

  1. Change comes When You Take the Charge of Your Deeds-

Whenever anything doesn’t do right , we look for the causes of the same. But mostly we end up with a handful of people to blame for all the things that went wrong in the process and hindered our way of success. Review is good but blaming others will never give you a chance to notice your short comings and eventually you will end up making no   development. The moment you claim personal responsibility over your life, you will learn the importance of steering your own ship. You will start to make decisions for yourself, and end up feeling less hateful and happier for the people around you.

2- Relationships are the Game Changers-

Relationships teach us a lot and have enough power to change a person completely. Nourishing relationships fuel your motivation to succeed and staying in toxic relationships are sure fire ways to fill your heart with negativity.  It is a widely accepted fact that we function well when we connect, collaborate, and share ourselves to other people. If we take a look at the other side of it- There are many people who succeeded in their life after suffering or learning from a terrible relationship. AT the same time there are people who succeeded when someone from their close family made them realize their responsibilities.  Choose your people wisely, It can either help you rise into your life or can break you suffer to the irrecoverable point.

  1. Life is a Learning School-

Learning doesn’t end at school, it doesn’t end at your college. Humans learn everyday throughout their lives. Learning shouldn’t ever be confined within the walls of a classroom. When we start noticing the learning around us, we notice that we know very less, this world has an ocean of wisdom . We enrich our experiences when we keep learning from the people and the happenings  around us. Failures also teach us something , may be another thing to be added into “Not to Do” list when we would try next time!!

  1. Big Achievers only Get though Big Troubles-

You will not be in any trouble if you don’t wish to grow and stay satisfied with your on going routine life, there will be no hassle if you don’t wish to rise in your life. There will be no need of getting out of your comfort zone, if you don’t wish to reach to new horizon. There will be no loss if you don’t wish to make profit and keep stuff safe inside the wall. Yes, life will not show up anything different if you are not willing. But will it be a meaningful life then?? I believe it will not. I hope you got my point- There is no gain without pain. We have to stretch our limits in order to get something that others don’t have.

  1. Money  is Not the Synonym of “Success”-

I am among those who never underestimate the value of money in life. It matters, even all the knowledge of the world doesn’t make any sense if you can’t earn your livelihood.  But money should not the only parameter to measure success. There comes a time in life, when a person feels like starting something for his self satisfaction  and mostly that satisfaction comes when we start something without considering the margin of monetary profit for ourselves. Earn enough to have good life but don’t forget that success, happiness, peace & health etc. don’t have so much to do with money. A common misconception in today’s capitalistic society, this view is shared by people who place great importance on wealth and material stuff.  You will realize that there are other forms of success too. Success isn’t based on your salary and job title, even success  includes your health, emotional well being and your relationships. These forms of success are the best source of long term happiness. Focus on making a balance life for yourself.

 

  1. Negative Experiences Are The Award Winning Teachers-

If your life goal is to avoid pain and suffering all the time – then you’ve already set the limit for your own growth. The point of negative experiences is to teach us the value of happy moments. To make us learn from our mistakes. Negative experiences are our best teachers. They help us grow into adults capable of fixing our own lives.

Your journey to success starts from the moment you change your limiting views about yourself.   There is so much you can do. You are more than just dust in the wind. You are here to mark your existence, to touch other people’s lives – you just need to find out how. Keep learning  and keep moving, because the delay in success doesn’t make you unsuccessful. Lean, Move, Be Patient and Give Time to Time.

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Survivor

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Looking into the Mirror , I meet a warrior.
Injured at times but ready to conquer.

Overruling the odds ,I am tough as a rock.
I may not sound pleasant but I am not fake,
I still don’t look so strong but now my soul is too tough to Break.

Transformation is not an overnight thing, its a process,
I am gentle and slow but making progress.

Yes, I am not perfect but I am trying my best…
Looking into the mirror, I meet a warrior..                                              download.jpg

Quitting Brings Peace Sometimes-5 Things to Quit for A Peaceful Life.

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Quitting is never easy. When we are addict to something, any habit or a person then it becomes a tough task for us to get rid of it and make a fresh start. But human has a tendency of adopting changes with the passes of time. Few adopt it by choice and few adopt it when they have no other choice. When we are destined to quit so many of our desired habits, have to leave few people and go towards “Never in Plans” directions, Then Why not to quit few things to make a peaceful and rewarding future for ourselves. In addition of some unwelcomed unplanned “Quit’s” , Here I am sharing a list of some QUITS to start a peaceful life-

1- Quit Planning Too Much for Future: The reason of the most of our heartbreaks and pains is- “Future Planning”. A person gets hurt the most when his future plans fail. Then why not to live in present? Tomorrow is unpredictable but if we focus on staying happy today and making the best of our present days then we can be a little sure of witnessing a great future. Our days today itself define our days of “Tomorrow”. So my one strategy of happiness is- Quit Planning for Future.

2- Quit Making Everyone Happy: It’s called a great human quality if a person keeps everybody happy around him. But do you ever notice that a person has to put himself down sometimes during this process. Select the people who are good to you and try to keep you happy , I am sure your effort of doing this will be well rewarded and you will end up with a tiny list of those handful people who are actually concerned about your happiness. Do sacrifices for them and Think of their happiness. For rest of the world- Don’t do wrong with others but don’t try to please them.

3- Quit Blaming Yourself: I am among those people who used to blame my own self for many things which dint turn up positively. Recently I made a turn and starting noticing the real cause of few events. I was surprised to see that I was nowhere wrong,I accepted my faults , I forgave people, I trusted them , I made the best of my efforts to make the things possible but it was actually the faults of others , they were tricksters!! Don’t blame yourself for not getting something that you desired for with full heart, because it might have happened because of the fault of somebody else.
4- Quit Building Expectations: Being nice to someone is your choice but it doesn’t guarantee that others will be equally nice to you. Its very natural that we start expecting good for ourselves when we treat people good. But your heart doesn’t drive others’, they have their own minds , Sometimes Noble -Sometimes Wicked! If you don’t expect from people then certainly noble ones will surprise you but the wicked ones will not get a chance to hurt you. Don’t keep hopes from others , just make your own way of happiness!!
5- Quit Thinking Much About “Anything”- We pressurize ourselves by giving a lot of energy in thinking about any particular incident/person/ plan. Be it anything of Past , Present or Future, Don’t think much. Better to leave few things on time and Enjoy the show!! Life becomes interesting when we encounter something unplanned!! Leave few things unfold in your future. You know Mystery has its own Charm and Thrill!!
These 4 are very easy things to do with little but continuous efforts!! Make your own list of “Quitting” that can be proven a step towards personal healing and happiness!!

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Mechanism of A Realistic Thought!

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A human mind gets approx. 60,000 thoughts per day. We all wish to make our dreams come true. As it’s been ages since we are reading about the power of manifestation, visualization & thoughts etc. Then sometimes we wonder that why don’t we get desired results most of times despite following all the necessary techniques. We make a plan, visualize it’s success, work on a good action plan still sometimes plans don’t work out and possibility of “Change” occurs.

 There are many other factors also that make a thought come true. A Thought is made of 2 components-

1– Text-

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Text part is the flow chart of a Thought– The basics that we share with our mind. If we think of Sun, the text part will be the Image of the Sun. If we think of acquiring a Golf course then Our Position, Players , Ground & Acquisition Papers etc. will be the part of the text that will be sent to our mind.Text part doesn’t have any emotion attached to it. Text is only a small representation of our desire and these representations create primary database for our mind to work upon.

2- Associated Energy-

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I would define it as text-less component of a Thought. When we send an image to our mind ,instantly it generates emotions and emotions generate energy.  For instance, If I say – “She must be angry”- My mind will make her “Angry” image and accordingly emotions will be produced and energy will be released.  Intentionally or Unintentionally whenever we think of something positive or negative, we release an energy that goes into the universe and moves the circumstances accordingly. 

We get adverse results when we focus more on “What if it doesn’t work out” , because our mind weighs both positive and negative energies associated with any thought and universe works in the favour of the Winner!! So focus on the weight of the energy that our thoughts are emitting.

I would add one more supporting statement here, Just try holding a thought “ I am feeling great today” in your mind and notice how you feel when you hold this thought.

Again hold the same thought with more intensity by adding a smile to it, deep breath and your head up, this time you will feel more positive and more positive energy will be released. Now just reverse the process, start eliminating the positive elements from this thought and after sometime “ I am feeling great today” will remain nothing but a meaningless sentence.

Can you see the difference? It’s energy only that’s creating the difference!!  Wherever plan to start something with great intentions then load it with a lot of positive thoughts and energy.

If Text of a Thought is Body, then Associated Energy is the Soul, and it’s the soul only that makes a body alive!! Thoughts create our future but only when we add right energy to it.

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Sit Back is not A Set Back!

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Hi!! We are in the mid of the week now.. I believe it’s going exactly the same good as you decided!! 🙂 

It was a thought since so long but today it dragged my attention to the level that I decided to share this post with you all.. Everyday we notice lot of people running behind the things, A big noise is everywhere, Hue & Cry all around. Few are too busy in making money, few are out to earn their livings, few have miles to travel, few have a project to deliver , Few are meeting dead lines after dead lines.. Few are rushing and running an undefined race, They don’t know where they are going.. They are just running with the crowd. This “Blind Horse Race” is the case with most of us.  We keep on working day and night , take no time for ourselves.It’s breathtaking race that we witness everywhere. :0 

Now I would like to drag your attention to a fact which we keep on ignoring – Sit Back is not A Set Back. Here it goes-

I don’t deny the fact that we are social creatures and it’s a responsibility of all of us to fulfill the requirements of our family, meet the expectations of our friends and referral groups. It’s actually important to Earn Money, Get Respect , Be Employed , Get Good Grades, Be Responsible Etc. Etc. These things bring a feeling of Pride and Self Esteem. But In The Search of All These Things , please don’t leave your dreams behind. Keep on talking to yourself and finding your true desires.

We all know that In our childhood it was a race for good grades, then in young age it converts into the race for career in one of the most common streams, later it converts into the race to get a lifestyle for social status and many more other things… Uffff!! I am shocked to see that we keep on running all the time, how busy we are in impressing others?? This race can be the desired action for few of us but 90% of us are running just to follow the trend of family & society. Do we ever talk to ourselves and ask what we actually want? Are we really pursuing our dreams? Is this what we are meant for? Do we follow our hearts? I am sure there is higher probability of getting the answer as “NO” ..

Here my point comes, Just Sit Back… Relax!! Take a Break from the Race!! Breathe!! Breathe!! Take Some Air Please!! Observe People!! Think of the More that You Can Do Expect “Being a Full Time Working Machine” who works,laughs, talks, moves, wakes up, sleeps as per others’ requirement!!

 “Living the Life ” and “Being Alive” are entirely different. Live Life!!  We don’t get answers until we ask questions, so ask above mentioned questions to your soul, you will get the answer J  If you get all the happiness in this “Blind Horse Race” then Keep on Running ( Though I am sure in 99.9% cases all have desires away from their routine jobs) , But If you are not happy with your current situation. Hey Right Time will Never Come, This is the time!! Don’t Wait Till Too Late!!  Wake Up!! You have all the right to get some time for yourself from your own life!! You have all the rights to select and reject the paths, and decide what you want to pursue!! Follow your dreams!! Get all the happiness that you deserve! It doesn’t matter if you don’t go for your routine jobs for some days, it will not move the earth if you take a break!! Your career will not be spoiled if you start following your passion along side. Your home will not be turned upside down if you will start walking in fresh air or will move out for your own sake. My only point is- Just Give Time to Yourself. Relax and Think. Smile then Start Travelling Miles. Laugh Loudly Sometimes.. Music is a remedy and sounds better than the Horn of Your Car, Listen to It!

Because Sit Back is not A Set Back!! Spend Time for Yourself too.. Think of Your Wishes too and Follow Your Heart too Instead of Others Wishes.. Live Your Life too Along with Living Up Others’ Expectations! Your Peace, Your Happiness Matter a Lot.

I assure you that you will never Regret When You Will Follow Your Heart. But as I Always Say- Don’t Forget That We Get What We Give!! Trust the Almighty and Move Ahead!!  Don’t hurt people for your little happiness…Spread Happiness and it will find it’s back to you in some form. Being Good is the easiest way of Being Happy. Staying Humble is the best way to Stay Positive!!

Have a Great Week Ahead , Leaving with a Hope that We all shall take sometime from our lives to live for ourselves too.

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