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The Unanswered Questions…

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There is a saying “What we seek is seeking us”. I am among those who firmly believe in such statements. But there are many people among us who struggle a lot due to their own thoughts, They keep on fighting a war inside their own mind. Despite seeking the answers of few questions, they left unanswered. There are many such questions which remain unanswered for a long time.We try to move forward with passing days but somewhere deep inside us those questions keep punching us. Their punches become so hard at times that we feel an extremely painful restlessness and crave to get the answers anyhow. As there is nobody in the outer world to answer so we return with disappointment and it adds more burden over our hearts and next time these punches become even harder.

Do we ever try to know why we have to become a victim of such situations? Who punches exactly on our souls?? These are our own heavy chains of expectations from people and relationships which keep on haunting us. We become the prisoner of our self-created cell. “We are the most responsible person for our happiness”- Widely heard Statement, Right? So isn’t it our responsibility to free ourselves from the chains of the past and from those expectations that will never be met by the people. Who cares for us, will never leave us in such situations, and who doesn’t care should not have a grip on our souls to punch us.

So what has to be done to be free from these chains which are bounded and wounded our souls.

Sharing few widely said practices to remove this burden-

1-   Let all the questions flow into your mind, let them come, Feel them then eliminate the ones that are not going to affect your future in any positive way. It’s not a tough task, We mainly worry about such hypothetical situations that may never occur in our lives. To free ourselves we need to identify such thoughts and start leaving them away.

2- Ask Yourself – Do you have those willing people around who can answer you? If not then better not to keep thinking about it because our own thoughts will only add more to these questions without giving any answer, practice the 1st point mentioned above and set yourself free.

3- Forgive Other to the Most Possible Limit– There are certain events which a person can’t forget and my little experience says that our characters are made of such unforgettable events only because we learn the most out of such events.. And mostly we fail to forgive the person who caused that event. Any loss is not big enough to spoil your life, God always compensates us so well for all the losses. So try to forgive people who have not been good to you. It will not help them but you, the less you curse, the less you think and lesser your soul will be burdened.

4- Focus on Making a Great Today- We all have inherent potentials that can lead us to great accomplishments. A bitter past has nothing to do with our present. Make peace with your past and focus on present. This peace will eventually come when you will decide to set yourself free from the chains of past. It’s always in our hands to discover our talents and use your potential in the right direction. We need to divert our thoughts from painful past to promising present. Do all that can raise your mark in both your personal and professional life. Time is the best doctor and best judge, leave few things on the universe. Everyone gets the return of his deeds.

5- There is an old saying– “ Everything happens for a reason”. Our questions start decreasing when we truly accept this fact. We can’t see those reasons at the first place but sooner or later we get to know the reason of everything. If you feel that you were treated bad , then be assured God already has planned to compensate it by rewarding you with something extremely good and the one who treated you bad will pay for it someday.

Among many other ways, This is my way to deal with unanswered questions. We have heard it many times but don’t implement. Set yourself free from the chains of those questions, Life has much more to offer us , we only need the eyes to see the good things happening around. Have faith, Almighty is the most honest judge. Focus on your present , Rest all will be taken care by the justice of nature!!

 

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And I Stopped Reacting…

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When I look back I find myself as a person who immediately reacted and bounced back to every situation. I was among those who don’t take long to reply back , if somebody used to insult me in one way, I had thousand ways to insult that person and I was extremely good in that. If someone used to hurt me , I had the capacity to hurt that person 10 times more to take the revenge.Typically, for me, that ongoing events were not at all what’s caused me to react so quickly. It’s always something else that was weighing my mind, at the forefront or in some little nook. From my point of views it was nothing but my EGO… 

When I notice What has actually changed inside me after a series of events, some life changing experiences and age, then the first is- I don’t REACT instantly now, rather I sit back, pause for a while and then I RESPOND. Now I find “Reacting” as a very revengeful act which has no logic associated. Recently somebody criticized me over certain things which are not true about me, that person simply perceived that without any supporting reason. I decided not to give justification or any reaction then, after few days when I spoke to that person about that incident and validated my points, then that person not only apologized but promised me to change his way of thinking for others as well.

There is a huge difference between REACTING and RESPONDING. Most of us are tend to react upon the situations not  they don’t really respond. Sometimes we regret after reacting to an event, and think that we should have given a thought to it before taking this step.

There are gulf differences between both Reacting and Responding. To change the habit of Reacting , We need to know the essentials of both so that we can compare and act accordingly –

When We React-

When we are not comfortable with what is being happening around ,what we receive from others in the form of communication or any other way, then instantly our emotions start taking position. We notice stomach turn , our face heats up and we answer. We let our emotions drive us to any direction without a reason. We loose self control and do the things which we ourselves consider wrong. There are just the outcomes of Reactions. Sometimes people take the advantage of this habit and knowingly fire the situation and force us to react.

I consider only one positive outcome of these emotion driven reactions, i.e. Passion, We start few things with full conviction without thinking of the final result , here the faith takes over the charge and we end up achieving the desired result but our passion needs to be centered on purpose, not an unexpected, unproductive stimulus.

When We Respond-

I consider “Respond” as a thoughtful version of  “React”. When reasons, logic and the consideration of reaction combine together then we don’t react, we respond. In nutshell , Responding is less driven by emotions and more by logic. 

We have heard it “ Think Before You Speak” – that’s the mechanism of Response.

The upside of a solid response is an engaging conversation, all positive and all civil. We learn. We grow. We listen. We respond. We act forthrightly and from within. When you notice that here’s a time to answer, Put that moment into perspective-when that thing or moment causes you to react in such a short tempered manner you really need to dig deeper. Think about the effects of that event onto your life and the relevance of your immediate reaction. Think the effect of your words on others. If it doesn’t give you a positive feeling then I would suggest you not to do it. 

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The Voice of Silence…

Every one has a lot to talk about, all have a lot to explain, our ears are bombarded with variety of sounds , our vision is always over crowded. Sometimes we find it actually back-breaking to avoid the unnecessary announcements . Few days back I read somewhere-We offer “The Peace of Silence” and I suddenly realized that now Silence has become a Unique Sell Property for many products. I saw an ad in a magazine which was not loaded with too many words still it conveyed all what it was meant for. It indicates that Words are not the only form to convey the messages.   

 

We search for silence most of the times but many of us still feel that Silence is a form of Inactivity. We are not working if we are not loud. People need to notice that the great writers reside at silent places to write their master piece! The uttermost stage of Meditation is also Silence. Because silence has an energy like no other energy source. It has the power to make people think and act, it can help to slow the mind down and produce more creative thinking. Silence brings peace and it is the foundation of being focused towards any of our goals.

We understand the power of silence and look for it in the outer world but do we ever try to create this silence in our own inner-selves? I am sure we don’t. Silence has its own sound, Create inner silence to hear the call of your inner self. Sometimes we deliver our best when we listen to our inner voice which has lost in the noise of the world.

Here I am sharing some practices to create Inner Silence-

Silence of “Speech”- 

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We hate to be proven wrong, so we try to validate our points by our extended speeches.We create noise when we speak without need and then we attract noise. Try to speak when it’s necessary. Learn to avoid negative speech, Stop giving hurtful, immortal expressions and later on practice complete Silence of Speech for sometime as per your convenience.

Silence of “Thoughts”

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Our mind creates a lot of noise, sometimes the intensity of this inner noise becomes higher than the intensity of outer noise and it creates anxiety , agitation, anger and depression also. People don’t realize it but we keep on fighting with this noise of our own thoughts. Try to leave some thoughts behind to create the silence. Start with negative ones. Leave the thoughts of Past, Anxiety, Fear, Failure and the ones that are troubling you for no reason. Filter good thoughts only to stay in your mind.

Silence of “Ego”-

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Ego has it’s own vocabulary. It creates a lot of internal and external noise. As I mentioned above that We hate to be proven wrong , yes this is a form of ego only and this ego creates the urge of explaining , we belittle others because of this ego only and it creates noise again. We should learn to accept others’ disagreement also if we are not right, it can solve many of the issues in our professional and personal life. So when you look for silence , leave the ego behind.

Silence of “Worries of Future”-

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If we focus on building a peaceful today then our future will eventually be peaceful. Each coming day is a part of future so focus more on utilizing each day in the best possible manner and deliver your best in every aspect. Plan for near future but not for ages because time brings a lot of reasons to change the pre-formulated strategies so try not to create a mental noise by thinking so much about unseen future. Sometimes its good to feel the thrill of encountering something unplanned! 

Though silence is being misinterpreted whenever we use it in the correlation of Tolerance. Here we need to apply our brain to decide where to use the power of silence and where to use the power of voice.

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Mechanism of A Realistic Thought!

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A human mind gets approx. 60,000 thoughts per day. We all wish to make our dreams come true. As it’s been ages since we are reading about the power of manifestation, visualization & thoughts etc. Then sometimes we wonder that why don’t we get desired results most of times despite following all the necessary techniques. We make a plan, visualize it’s success, work on a good action plan still sometimes plans don’t work out and possibility of “Change” occurs.

 There are many other factors also that make a thought come true. A Thought is made of 2 components-

1– Text-

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Text part is the flow chart of a Thought– The basics that we share with our mind. If we think of Sun, the text part will be the Image of the Sun. If we think of acquiring a Golf course then Our Position, Players , Ground & Acquisition Papers etc. will be the part of the text that will be sent to our mind.Text part doesn’t have any emotion attached to it. Text is only a small representation of our desire and these representations create primary database for our mind to work upon.

2- Associated Energy-

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I would define it as text-less component of a Thought. When we send an image to our mind ,instantly it generates emotions and emotions generate energy.  For instance, If I say – “She must be angry”- My mind will make her “Angry” image and accordingly emotions will be produced and energy will be released.  Intentionally or Unintentionally whenever we think of something positive or negative, we release an energy that goes into the universe and moves the circumstances accordingly. 

We get adverse results when we focus more on “What if it doesn’t work out” , because our mind weighs both positive and negative energies associated with any thought and universe works in the favour of the Winner!! So focus on the weight of the energy that our thoughts are emitting.

I would add one more supporting statement here, Just try holding a thought “ I am feeling great today” in your mind and notice how you feel when you hold this thought.

Again hold the same thought with more intensity by adding a smile to it, deep breath and your head up, this time you will feel more positive and more positive energy will be released. Now just reverse the process, start eliminating the positive elements from this thought and after sometime “ I am feeling great today” will remain nothing but a meaningless sentence.

Can you see the difference? It’s energy only that’s creating the difference!!  Wherever plan to start something with great intentions then load it with a lot of positive thoughts and energy.

If Text of a Thought is Body, then Associated Energy is the Soul, and it’s the soul only that makes a body alive!! Thoughts create our future but only when we add right energy to it.

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The Worth of Past..

Hello Friends!! It’s always a blessing to be surrounded with the people who value you for what you are. We should treasure people on the basis of their value addition to our lives. But many times I find it very disturbing when I notice people criticizing somebody close to them on the basis of his “Not So Good” past while he has been proven good enough to get respect from others in his present days.  Many of us have a tendency to form an opinion about people on the basis of their past. Well I also don’t find it wrong to take the reference of past , when we encounter a stranger . The first introduction of a person begins with his/her past. (We can’t trust a terrorist blindly 🙂 )

 But What if we keep on doubting people and criticizing their good deeds and considering their past. We need to accept that people change and some incidences are big enough to change the whole story of somebody’s life.Moreover a person doesn’t have full control over every event that occurs into his life. There are many saints and philosophers who were not the same ones in their early lives, but something incidents made them what they are known for . (We say that Albert Einstein is one of the greatest scientists of all the times, who was once declared mentally sick during his childhood. Saint Nicholas was not a saint in his early life , Gautam Buddha was a Successor king before being a saint).  In one of my recent chats with a fellow he was criticizing one of his closed ones referring  to the past of that person. The saddest part of the story was- That person was extremely good with my fellow friend.

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Sometimes we forget that A person has to put a lot of courage to stand again from the betrayed stage and take  a new path. He gathers all the pieces of his scattered hopes, broken self esteem and left out energy to stand with his head up but we don’t leave a chance to make him recall the days which he wants to forget.  We have no idea that we put that person in the same pain again whenever we criticize him for his past. Should we hurt a person just because he has gone through the same pain earlier and came out of it so we can presume that he will tackle our misbehave this time also? Should we break somebody’s 2nd leg just because he is walking perfect with one broken leg? I leave the answers on you..

There are many people around who are dealing with such issues in their lives when they have to prove themselves right for the incidences that might have occurred in their past due to circumstances. We simply devalue something very special that a person is doing for us by considering that “It’s nothing new for this person, nothing special”. It can hurt a person to the non-recoverable level sometimes. Believe Me.

 I really wonder that when we are so good in judging someone by his past then why aren’t we good in analyzing someone by his present?

Next time before you think of talking about somebody’s past, I would suggest you to ask these questions to yourself

1-  Haven’t we done anything wrong in our lives?

2- Do we know the “whole story” of this person? Have we witnessed the series of events that occurred in his past and what were the circumstances then?

3- What matters more-  An untold past of someone or The present where the other person does all to make our days beautiful and memorable.

4-  Your place in other person’s life now .

5- What will be the impact of our criticism on the life of the other person.

I am sure once you introspect yourself and ask this questions to yourself then you will not criticize any of your closed ones again. A mistake can never be beyond the limit of being forgiven. Life is precious and so people.

As I say- Be Good, Do Good and Expect Good to Happen. Become the reason of somebody’s happiness, you will receive the same in some way. But If you are the reason of somebody’s grief in someway then you will get the same in some other way. Life pays us exactly same what we give to others and Karma knocks the door of all sooner or later. Spread Happiness to Receive It!! 

 This was a disturbing thought I think… Signing off for the day…

Leaving with just one message – No Past should be vast enough to cover the present of someone!!

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The Worthy Thoughts..

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Hi!! Once again we are in the mid of the week. Time goes by fast! Isn’t it? People pass years and years following their “ No Where Different” routines , just dates keep on changing. Have you ever noticed that even in our busiest hour our mind keeps on thinking, the flow of thoughts don’t go slow at any point of time, we think even when we sleep. As per some studies approximately 50,000 Thoughts cross our mind per day. Isn’t it a big figure? Sometime back I wrote a post here called- Our Thoughts are creating our future.

During meditation , there is a step called “ Emptying Your Mind” , i.e. a person masters himself in such a way that he doesn’t allow random thoughts to enter into his mind , sometimes he bars all the thoughts from coming in. This state is called “Quiet State”. The next step that comes is- Filling your mind with positive thoughts. Here we need to stop!! We all should follow this practice of being selective while thinking something. Trend yourself to think positive thoughts only, Decrease the quantity of your thoughts and focus on the quality of thoughts. Think Good , Think Positive, Think of Abundance, Think of a Pleasant Life, Think of Success, Think of Peace..

Now the question arises that when a person is in deep trouble then how can he focus on being positive, when we know that something is not going to workout for us then how can we close our eyes and sight away from the most obvious result? My answer is – Yes , turn away from thinking about negative outcomes. If being positive will not change the result then Do you think that being negative and cryptic will change anything? If not, then why not to feel good by being positive. When we think positive then our mind starts generating ideas to get the desired results. Just imagine that In the flow of your positive thoughts, suddenly an idea strikes into your mind, O Yes!! it’s a good one, Why not to go for it? And imagine what if it hits the target!! You will win the situation! Right! While on the other hand negative thoughts will give you nothing but Distraction, Depression and Anxiety.

Don’t underestimate the power of your mind, let it think, allow it to generate positive ideas , No idea is small , Be Creative, Be Responsive to Your Thoughts, Spend time in thinking good. Create a mind full of Less but Good Thoughts!! Your will see the results yourself!!

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Same can be applied to the Business scenario also, Quality of Work v/s Quantity of Work. We can’t ignore the second but in this competitive era where better than the best is always an available choice for our customers then why not to deliver the quality product and service. For Quantity, there are many players for mass selling. In my views, we should focus on Being Premium, Not Random. The 1st step of delivering the quality is having the skilled manpower for the same, who have the expertise in their respective areas, it’s possible that they might not have proficient knowledge of other subject matters but here we have to see that why are they hired for? To Deliver the Quality or To Deliver the Quantity? Select the one as per your need and then fill the positions! But without a question my vote goes to Quality!

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Sit Back is not A Set Back!

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Hi!! We are in the mid of the week now.. I believe it’s going exactly the same good as you decided!! 🙂 

It was a thought since so long but today it dragged my attention to the level that I decided to share this post with you all.. Everyday we notice lot of people running behind the things, A big noise is everywhere, Hue & Cry all around. Few are too busy in making money, few are out to earn their livings, few have miles to travel, few have a project to deliver , Few are meeting dead lines after dead lines.. Few are rushing and running an undefined race, They don’t know where they are going.. They are just running with the crowd. This “Blind Horse Race” is the case with most of us.  We keep on working day and night , take no time for ourselves.It’s breathtaking race that we witness everywhere. :0 

Now I would like to drag your attention to a fact which we keep on ignoring – Sit Back is not A Set Back. Here it goes-

I don’t deny the fact that we are social creatures and it’s a responsibility of all of us to fulfill the requirements of our family, meet the expectations of our friends and referral groups. It’s actually important to Earn Money, Get Respect , Be Employed , Get Good Grades, Be Responsible Etc. Etc. These things bring a feeling of Pride and Self Esteem. But In The Search of All These Things , please don’t leave your dreams behind. Keep on talking to yourself and finding your true desires.

We all know that In our childhood it was a race for good grades, then in young age it converts into the race for career in one of the most common streams, later it converts into the race to get a lifestyle for social status and many more other things… Uffff!! I am shocked to see that we keep on running all the time, how busy we are in impressing others?? This race can be the desired action for few of us but 90% of us are running just to follow the trend of family & society. Do we ever talk to ourselves and ask what we actually want? Are we really pursuing our dreams? Is this what we are meant for? Do we follow our hearts? I am sure there is higher probability of getting the answer as “NO” ..

Here my point comes, Just Sit Back… Relax!! Take a Break from the Race!! Breathe!! Breathe!! Take Some Air Please!! Observe People!! Think of the More that You Can Do Expect “Being a Full Time Working Machine” who works,laughs, talks, moves, wakes up, sleeps as per others’ requirement!!

 “Living the Life ” and “Being Alive” are entirely different. Live Life!!  We don’t get answers until we ask questions, so ask above mentioned questions to your soul, you will get the answer J  If you get all the happiness in this “Blind Horse Race” then Keep on Running ( Though I am sure in 99.9% cases all have desires away from their routine jobs) , But If you are not happy with your current situation. Hey Right Time will Never Come, This is the time!! Don’t Wait Till Too Late!!  Wake Up!! You have all the right to get some time for yourself from your own life!! You have all the rights to select and reject the paths, and decide what you want to pursue!! Follow your dreams!! Get all the happiness that you deserve! It doesn’t matter if you don’t go for your routine jobs for some days, it will not move the earth if you take a break!! Your career will not be spoiled if you start following your passion along side. Your home will not be turned upside down if you will start walking in fresh air or will move out for your own sake. My only point is- Just Give Time to Yourself. Relax and Think. Smile then Start Travelling Miles. Laugh Loudly Sometimes.. Music is a remedy and sounds better than the Horn of Your Car, Listen to It!

Because Sit Back is not A Set Back!! Spend Time for Yourself too.. Think of Your Wishes too and Follow Your Heart too Instead of Others Wishes.. Live Your Life too Along with Living Up Others’ Expectations! Your Peace, Your Happiness Matter a Lot.

I assure you that you will never Regret When You Will Follow Your Heart. But as I Always Say- Don’t Forget That We Get What We Give!! Trust the Almighty and Move Ahead!!  Don’t hurt people for your little happiness…Spread Happiness and it will find it’s back to you in some form. Being Good is the easiest way of Being Happy. Staying Humble is the best way to Stay Positive!!

Have a Great Week Ahead , Leaving with a Hope that We all shall take sometime from our lives to live for ourselves too.

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