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The Lessons That We Learn In Hard Way..

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“People never learn anything by being told,
they have to find out for themselves.”
―Paulo Coelho

Few days back, I woke up with a text about a close one’s sudden demise. Few colleagues and friends called me as soon as they got the news and offered their help.In the midst of my sorrow I now realize this tragic loss made me to realize certain things.First, time has its own unrevealed mystery.  Second, In any case our lives don’t stop , Our inner selves are strong enough to heal themselves with the passing time.  And finally, just as it is difficult to see all the opportunities life gives you until you’re looking back, it is virtually impossible to fully understand certain life circumstances until they actually happen to you.

It’s a variation of this final point that I want to explore further today , Few lessons that we learn in the hard way-

  1. The people you lose remain a part of you-

Someday we all have to face the reality of loss , it can happen due to any worldly reason. And as life goes on, days rolling into nights, it becomes clear that you never really stop missing someone special who’s gone, you just learn to live around the gaping hole of their absence and somehow stop expecting them to come in your way.

When you lose someone you can’t imagine living without, your heart breaks wide open, and the bad news is you never completely get over the loss.  You will never forget them.  However, in a backwards way, this is also the good news.  They will live on in the warmth of your broken heart that doesn’t fully heal back up, and you will continue to grow and experience life, even with your wound.  It’s like badly breaking an ankle that never heals perfectly, and that still hurts when you dance, but you dance anyway with a slight limp, and this limp just adds to the depth of your performance and the authenticity of your character.

  1. Being Happy in the life is more about finding its meaning-

Pursuing happiness is not at all the same as being happy, which is a fleeting feeling dependent on momentary circumstances.  If the sun is shining, by all means bask in it.  Happy times are great and often fun-filled, but happy times pass, because time passes.  This is something we rarely grasp at first and we again start seeking for happiness…

So better to find the meaning of your life and do something that gives peace to your soul. Desires are good but we have to put a stop somewhere to enjoy that we have in present.What you are really pursuing is meaning – living a meaningful life.  It starts with your “why.”  (Why are you doing what you’re doing with your life?)  When your “why” is meaningful, you are pursuing happiness.  There will be times when things go so wrong that you barely feel alive.  And there will also be times when you realize that being barely alive, on your own terms, is better than living a lifeless existence for eighty years on someone else’s terms.  The pursuit isn’t all or nothing; it’s all AND nothing, with ups and downs and worthwhile lessons along the way.

  1. Seeking validation from others invalidates YOU.

Has the fear of rejection held you back?  Have you ever been so fearful of what others might think or say about you that it kept you from taking positive action?  I bet you’re shaking your head, “yes.” It’s time to change your mindset…

Today, the only person you should try to be better than is the person you were yesterday.  Prove yourself to yourself, not others.  You are GOOD enough, SMART enough, FINE enough, and STRONG enough.  You don’t need other people to validate you; you are already valuable.If someone says “no” to you, or if someone says something negative about you, that doesn’t change anything about YOU.  The words and opinions of others have no real bearing on your worth.  Certainly it can be helpful and desirable to make a good impression in certain situations, yet it’s not the end of the world when you are faced with rejection. It’s great to receive positive feedback, but it simply doesn’t always happen.  That’s OK though, because you know where you’re headed and you know your true worth does not depend on the judgment of others.  When you set out to make a true difference in life, there will be those who disagree with you, those who ignore you, and those who flat out reject your ideas and efforts.  Look beyond them, step confidently forward, do what must be done, and let people make their own stories.

  1. Regret hurts far worse than fear.

When we give in to our fears, we have a harder time looking at ourselves in the mirror.  Sadly, very few of us escape learning this lesson firsthand.  If you have already experienced this a time or two, you know what you need to do.

It is only when we risk losing that we truly open the possibility to win.  Whether it is quitting your job to build a business, running a marathon, or traveling to unknown parts of the world, any worthy endeavor requires risk, struggle and sacrifice.  Some of these things may even terrify you, but ask yourself if these fears are stronger than the most powerful of fears, the fear of a wasted life?

If you’ve never lost your mind, you’ve never followed your heart.  It’s better to look back on life and say, “I can’t believe I did that,” than to look back and say, “I wish I did that.”  Don’t let time pass you by like a hand waving from a train you desperately want to be on.  Don’t spend the rest of your life thinking about why you didn’t do what you can do right now.  Live your life.  Take risks.  Feel passion.  Discover love. Stay Foolish. Go Crazy. 

Set yourself free to follow the instinct of your heart.

  1. Life is too unpredictable for rigid expectations.

When you stop predicting and expecting things to be a certain way, you can appreciate them for what they are.  Ultimately you will realize that life’s greatest gifts are rarely wrapped the way you expected. 🙂 

Let situations come in your life, let the fate play its role, With a positive attitude and an open mind, you will find that life isn’t necessarily any easier or harder than you thought it was going to be; it’s just that “the easy” and “the hard” aren’t exactly the way you had anticipated, and don’t always occur when you expect them to.  This isn’t a bad thing; it makes life interesting. Trust me Life is Good Anyway… 

Ninety-nine percent of the time life delivers the experiences that are most helpful for your personal growth.  How do you know it’s the experience you need?  Because it’s the experience you’re having.  The only question is:  Will you embrace it and grow, or fight it and fade?????

  1.  Hardships are inevitable and helpful.

Nobody in this world is going to blindside you and hit you as hard as life will. Sometimes life will beat you to the ground and try to keep you there if you let it.  But it’s not about how hard life can hit you, it’s about how hard you can be hit while continuing to move forward.  That’s what true strength is, and that’s what winning the game of life is all about.When you have a lot to cry and complain about, but you prefer to smile and take a step forward instead, you are growing stronger.  Work through your struggles and hardships.  Even when it feels like things are falling apart, they’re not.  Take control of your emotions before they take control of you.  Everything will fall into place eventually.  Until then, learn what you can, laugh often, live for the moments, and know that it’s all worthwhile in the end.

At Last, the key is to stay good and do good to others, Rest will follow. The Most important lessons of life come with harsh , heart wrenching experience. Take the life as a learning school and welcome everything that comes your way!! 

Happy Living!! Happy Learning!!

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Survivor

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Looking into the Mirror , I meet a warrior.
Injured at times but ready to conquer.

Overruling the odds ,I am tough as a rock.
I may not sound pleasant but I am not fake,
I still don’t look so strong but now my soul is too tough to Break.

Transformation is not an overnight thing, its a process,
I am gentle and slow but making progress.

Yes, I am not perfect but I am trying my best…
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The Unanswered Questions…

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There is a saying “What we seek is seeking us”. I am among those who firmly believe in such statements. But there are many people among us who struggle a lot due to their own thoughts, They keep on fighting a war inside their own mind. Despite seeking the answers of few questions, they left unanswered. There are many such questions which remain unanswered for a long time.We try to move forward with passing days but somewhere deep inside us those questions keep punching us. Their punches become so hard at times that we feel an extremely painful restlessness and crave to get the answers anyhow. As there is nobody in the outer world to answer so we return with disappointment and it adds more burden over our hearts and next time these punches become even harder.

Do we ever try to know why we have to become a victim of such situations? Who punches exactly on our souls?? These are our own heavy chains of expectations from people and relationships which keep on haunting us. We become the prisoner of our self-created cell. “We are the most responsible person for our happiness”- Widely heard Statement, Right? So isn’t it our responsibility to free ourselves from the chains of the past and from those expectations that will never be met by the people. Who cares for us, will never leave us in such situations, and who doesn’t care should not have a grip on our souls to punch us.

So what has to be done to be free from these chains which are bounded and wounded our souls.

Sharing few widely said practices to remove this burden-

1-   Let all the questions flow into your mind, let them come, Feel them then eliminate the ones that are not going to affect your future in any positive way. It’s not a tough task, We mainly worry about such hypothetical situations that may never occur in our lives. To free ourselves we need to identify such thoughts and start leaving them away.

2- Ask Yourself – Do you have those willing people around who can answer you? If not then better not to keep thinking about it because our own thoughts will only add more to these questions without giving any answer, practice the 1st point mentioned above and set yourself free.

3- Forgive Other to the Most Possible Limit– There are certain events which a person can’t forget and my little experience says that our characters are made of such unforgettable events only because we learn the most out of such events.. And mostly we fail to forgive the person who caused that event. Any loss is not big enough to spoil your life, God always compensates us so well for all the losses. So try to forgive people who have not been good to you. It will not help them but you, the less you curse, the less you think and lesser your soul will be burdened.

4- Focus on Making a Great Today- We all have inherent potentials that can lead us to great accomplishments. A bitter past has nothing to do with our present. Make peace with your past and focus on present. This peace will eventually come when you will decide to set yourself free from the chains of past. It’s always in our hands to discover our talents and use your potential in the right direction. We need to divert our thoughts from painful past to promising present. Do all that can raise your mark in both your personal and professional life. Time is the best doctor and best judge, leave few things on the universe. Everyone gets the return of his deeds.

5- There is an old saying– “ Everything happens for a reason”. Our questions start decreasing when we truly accept this fact. We can’t see those reasons at the first place but sooner or later we get to know the reason of everything. If you feel that you were treated bad , then be assured God already has planned to compensate it by rewarding you with something extremely good and the one who treated you bad will pay for it someday.

Among many other ways, This is my way to deal with unanswered questions. We have heard it many times but don’t implement. Set yourself free from the chains of those questions, Life has much more to offer us , we only need the eyes to see the good things happening around. Have faith, Almighty is the most honest judge. Focus on your present , Rest all will be taken care by the justice of nature!!

 

And I Stopped Reacting…

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When I look back I find myself as a person who immediately reacted and bounced back to every situation. I was among those who don’t take long to reply back , if somebody used to insult me in one way, I had thousand ways to insult that person and I was extremely good in that. If someone used to hurt me , I had the capacity to hurt that person 10 times more to take the revenge.Typically, for me, that ongoing events were not at all what’s caused me to react so quickly. It’s always something else that was weighing my mind, at the forefront or in some little nook. From my point of views it was nothing but my EGO… 

When I notice What has actually changed inside me after a series of events, some life changing experiences and age, then the first is- I don’t REACT instantly now, rather I sit back, pause for a while and then I RESPOND. Now I find “Reacting” as a very revengeful act which has no logic associated. Recently somebody criticized me over certain things which are not true about me, that person simply perceived that without any supporting reason. I decided not to give justification or any reaction then, after few days when I spoke to that person about that incident and validated my points, then that person not only apologized but promised me to change his way of thinking for others as well.

There is a huge difference between REACTING and RESPONDING. Most of us are tend to react upon the situations not  they don’t really respond. Sometimes we regret after reacting to an event, and think that we should have given a thought to it before taking this step.

There are gulf differences between both Reacting and Responding. To change the habit of Reacting , We need to know the essentials of both so that we can compare and act accordingly –

When We React-

When we are not comfortable with what is being happening around ,what we receive from others in the form of communication or any other way, then instantly our emotions start taking position. We notice stomach turn , our face heats up and we answer. We let our emotions drive us to any direction without a reason. We loose self control and do the things which we ourselves consider wrong. There are just the outcomes of Reactions. Sometimes people take the advantage of this habit and knowingly fire the situation and force us to react.

I consider only one positive outcome of these emotion driven reactions, i.e. Passion, We start few things with full conviction without thinking of the final result , here the faith takes over the charge and we end up achieving the desired result but our passion needs to be centered on purpose, not an unexpected, unproductive stimulus.

When We Respond-

I consider “Respond” as a thoughtful version of  “React”. When reasons, logic and the consideration of reaction combine together then we don’t react, we respond. In nutshell , Responding is less driven by emotions and more by logic. 

We have heard it “ Think Before You Speak” – that’s the mechanism of Response.

The upside of a solid response is an engaging conversation, all positive and all civil. We learn. We grow. We listen. We respond. We act forthrightly and from within. When you notice that here’s a time to answer, Put that moment into perspective-when that thing or moment causes you to react in such a short tempered manner you really need to dig deeper. Think about the effects of that event onto your life and the relevance of your immediate reaction. Think the effect of your words on others. If it doesn’t give you a positive feeling then I would suggest you not to do it. 

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The 3 Categories of Invitees for My Thanks Giving Day..

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We should be thankful to all the good people that we come across. We are blessed to have our families, friends and many others who hold us during the ups and downs of life. We build memories , spend our best times in presence of those who make us feel good. We learn to Respect Others, Empathy, Self-Respect, Culture, Sense of Responsibility and many other values from the people around us.

Life is a long journey of experiences and Real life isn’t always going to be perfect in the way you might have planned. At times, it introduces us to the people who don’t bring happy moments and good memories with them but when they leave ,they leave many noteworthy lessons behind. As we have a tradition to be thankful to the person who teaches us something,so we should be thankful to those people also who carries adverse situations in our lives because we get the supreme life lessons from the toughest people, We learn the most through the most aching experiences.  Along with our close ones why can’t we thankful to these people who bring distressing situations into our lives and teach us something unforgettable.

I Divide Those “Negative Teachers” Into 3 Categories to Thank Them-

1-  The Critics: We always need a push to prove ourselves, It  can come in the form of motivation but sometimes it comes in the form of criticism. Be Thankful to those who criticize you and doubt that you can’t achieve a certain thing. They indirectly work as a catalyst and motivate you to prove them wrong.

2– The Ex-Protectors: We become the Best Defender When We Fight Without a Shield. We should be thankful to those who leave you amid of a difficult situation and you have to deal with it alone. Their exit make you strong enough to become your own shield.

3- The Betrayer – We Learn to Trust and We Trust to Learn. The ones who betray us in any form gives us a broader prospect to look at every situation.  Recall the recent past and Pick such people from your life to thank them for making you wiser enough to understand that blind faith can make us blind to many facts and harm us in future.

We all have Different Lives, Different Experiences , Different Stories and Certainly Different Teachers also who have taught us different lessons. There are Many Others Categories , Filter Your Teachers and Be Thankful to Them for the Lessons!!


Mechanism of A Realistic Thought!

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A human mind gets approx. 60,000 thoughts per day. We all wish to make our dreams come true. As it’s been ages since we are reading about the power of manifestation, visualization & thoughts etc. Then sometimes we wonder that why don’t we get desired results most of times despite following all the necessary techniques. We make a plan, visualize it’s success, work on a good action plan still sometimes plans don’t work out and possibility of “Change” occurs.

 There are many other factors also that make a thought come true. A Thought is made of 2 components-

1– Text-

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Text part is the flow chart of a Thought– The basics that we share with our mind. If we think of Sun, the text part will be the Image of the Sun. If we think of acquiring a Golf course then Our Position, Players , Ground & Acquisition Papers etc. will be the part of the text that will be sent to our mind.Text part doesn’t have any emotion attached to it. Text is only a small representation of our desire and these representations create primary database for our mind to work upon.

2- Associated Energy-

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I would define it as text-less component of a Thought. When we send an image to our mind ,instantly it generates emotions and emotions generate energy.  For instance, If I say – “She must be angry”- My mind will make her “Angry” image and accordingly emotions will be produced and energy will be released.  Intentionally or Unintentionally whenever we think of something positive or negative, we release an energy that goes into the universe and moves the circumstances accordingly. 

We get adverse results when we focus more on “What if it doesn’t work out” , because our mind weighs both positive and negative energies associated with any thought and universe works in the favour of the Winner!! So focus on the weight of the energy that our thoughts are emitting.

I would add one more supporting statement here, Just try holding a thought “ I am feeling great today” in your mind and notice how you feel when you hold this thought.

Again hold the same thought with more intensity by adding a smile to it, deep breath and your head up, this time you will feel more positive and more positive energy will be released. Now just reverse the process, start eliminating the positive elements from this thought and after sometime “ I am feeling great today” will remain nothing but a meaningless sentence.

Can you see the difference? It’s energy only that’s creating the difference!!  Wherever plan to start something with great intentions then load it with a lot of positive thoughts and energy.

If Text of a Thought is Body, then Associated Energy is the Soul, and it’s the soul only that makes a body alive!! Thoughts create our future but only when we add right energy to it.

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The Challenge of Change!!

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Hi!!

God made us in such a way that we adopt the pace of nature, climate change without much hassle. Days change so our attires and routines. What if we don’t change ourselves with the changing weather?? It will be uncomfortable and suffocating, Survival will be tough!! Right!!

In the same manner we have to face many changes in our lives also. We change places, we change jobs,  we see the change in the people around us. There are many things that keep on changing with the passes of time. We can’t standstill amid of flowing and floating river so we have to make the pace with the flow to survive, same goes with life too . There are certain events in life that we can’t control , we try hard to resist but sometimes it goes beyond the limit of resistance , then the best thing is to use this change in such a way that it becomes a blessing for us.

Here are few things that I learned When I Encountered the  Challenge of Change ! 

Time Shifts! Be Pliable to Flourish Through Change-   

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At the time when you are dealing with the absence of people , something that aches you badly then gather your all energy and think- Will it make any difference if you keep spoiling yourself for something that you can’t change? Will it make any difference in the lives of people if you keep yourself unhappy? I am sure the answer will be “NO”. Use this time to uncover your hidden talents, do something that you are good into and become an expert in your respective area. Make your talent your best friend and focus on being exceptionally good in one area if you have seen a tough time in any other area of life. 

When we loose something then God always gives us the insight to get something good in some other way, We just have to shift our eyes to the new goal.

Change is Unavoidable. Learning from Change is Your Choice-

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God always gives us the chance to make the choice and it depends upon our capability what we choose. In the transition period also we get the choice to learn the lessons. I always focus on learning from the smallest event even that I come across.  Time is like wind, we can’t stop its flow. We can simply learn from it and move ahead to meet new challenges. Forgive people, Leave sorrows behind but Don’t forget the lesson that you learn!

After all, A Lesson is a Good Thing That We Can Get From Even The Worst Events Of Our Lives!

Rise as A Victor Once Storm Passes Away-

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I read it somewhere and found it very true that Most of the Strong People, Have Had a Painful Past. But in their tough time, They denied to quit, They denied to fall apart, Took new chances and their choice made them what they are known for now.  Become so good in something that people fail to get your replacement. Discover your talent to make people realize that you are much more stronger than they think you are. There are many good things about your personality than the bad ones on which they rated you!!

It’s always our choice- Become a Victim or a Victor!

Make a Life that Others Wish to Read About-

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When we look for inspiration to achieve something great, We always love to read the Motivational Stories of People, Survival Stories, Social Changes for Which Somebody Tried Hard etc. etc. Focus on becoming like the one who motivates you. Be the writer of your own success story.

Take the challenge of Change and emerge as a Winner by making the best out of it. I am sure you will be happy a day on the fact that You are much more stronger than earlier after encountering this change.

At last, In the process of change, don’t leave the basic principle – “Be Good, Do Good and Expect Good Things to Happen” . Don’t Do Wrong With Anyone!! Peace comes to those who don’t hurt others.

 PEACE OF MIND IN THE END IS ALSO A SUCCESS!!

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Dear “Myself” I Really Enjoy Your Company!! From- “Me”

Sounds not so familiar!! Right??

Whenever I discuss my Vacation Ideas, Shopping or Movie plans with someone, the first question arises- With whom? When I tell them that I am not going with anyother person then I get the reactions like- How can you enjoy alone? Wouldn’t it be boring? After getting this from people since so long,  today It forced me to think that Do we really need someone everytime to get even the little happiness? Are we so insufficient that we can’t make ourselves feel good? We spend the most of our time with our own selves still we look for others whenever we plan to enjoy something!!

Do we know the one with whom we spend the most of our time? That One is- Our own inner-self.. 🙂 We praise everybody around us to strengthen the bonds that we have. But we never cherish ourselves to strengthen the oldest bond that we start forming since the very first day of our lives when we get the existence in our mother’s bomb, the bond with our ownself.

Can’t we make ourselves so much interesting, strong  & self-loving that we don’t feel the need of others to accompany us in any situation. Be it at in the good times to enjoy or during the hard sufferings.  I would say- Yes, We Can.. It’s good to share your good time with others (We are called “ the social creatures” after all 🙂 ) but at the same time we shouldn’t feel paralyzed to enjoy our own company also.

This post is for those, Who feel it difficult to enjoy alone and don’t buy this point that a person can be the happiest one in the absence of others. Few steps towards making you realize that you the best company that you can ever have!!

 

1- Which one makes you feel good?

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Answer is very simple. Smiling faces always make you feel better. Then why not to carry a smile. Start feeling good from inside. When you feel good from inside then you see the beauty and positivity in every thing . You witness the same as you feel!! So feel good to get good. 

2- Discover your Interests-   Search your passion. Have you seen the kids when they are involved into their dearest activity? They forget the rest of the world. Discover and develop such interests that can keep you engaged deeply. Many people like travelling and when they are out to see the world they don’t feel the need of anyone. Many others like Photography and when they are busy in capturing the moments and objects then they don’t want anyone to disturb them. Be Friends with your own talents and make them your companion. 🙂 

Your passion will accompany you always wherever you go.

2- Become Your Own download (5).jpg–  We are afraid of being alone because of our unseen fear of encountering something unpleasant. So next time whenever you want to start something, try to collect every detail (Even the smallest one) related to that activity. Search about it, Talk about It, Think about it , make a note of every information. Go for a question-answer session within yourself to check your preparation and make sure that you are well prepared. For instance I take a random scenario – Going for Shopping! Decide What you need, Check the Trends, List the Places where you can get the desired stuff, How would you reach there. Visualize , Become Your Honest Critic to Say Yes/No for anything.  Then Step out!

3-  Be Your Own Caretaker-  Start pampering yourself in all available forms. Dress up well, Feed your mind with great thoughts, Smile, Take care of your necessities , Feel great about your possessions, Cheer yourself for your achievements. Stay Fit-You can only enjoy your company in the well-being state of both your body and heart. Being fit from inside is a joyous feeling in itself and it motivates you to do great things without seeking for the support from others.

4- People See in You What You See in Yourself-

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You can enjoy your company only if you appreciate yourself and take your best step forward to show your best side to others. Your opinion about yourself can make a huge difference in your life. If you think you are a mediocre , you will reflect it by your personality. If you think that you are champion, that’s what will be reflected by your attitude. When you are confident then trust me you don’t need the approval of rest of the world to carry forward your desires.

Stay Confident! Follow your instinct and when you know that you are heading towards the right direction than don’t look for others ‘ approval.

Stay Happy and Enjoy Your Company!! 

Be Good, Do Good and Expect Good to Happen!! 🙂

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The Worthy Thoughts..

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Hi!! Once again we are in the mid of the week. Time goes by fast! Isn’t it? People pass years and years following their “ No Where Different” routines , just dates keep on changing. Have you ever noticed that even in our busiest hour our mind keeps on thinking, the flow of thoughts don’t go slow at any point of time, we think even when we sleep. As per some studies approximately 50,000 Thoughts cross our mind per day. Isn’t it a big figure? Sometime back I wrote a post here called- Our Thoughts are creating our future.

During meditation , there is a step called “ Emptying Your Mind” , i.e. a person masters himself in such a way that he doesn’t allow random thoughts to enter into his mind , sometimes he bars all the thoughts from coming in. This state is called “Quiet State”. The next step that comes is- Filling your mind with positive thoughts. Here we need to stop!! We all should follow this practice of being selective while thinking something. Trend yourself to think positive thoughts only, Decrease the quantity of your thoughts and focus on the quality of thoughts. Think Good , Think Positive, Think of Abundance, Think of a Pleasant Life, Think of Success, Think of Peace..

Now the question arises that when a person is in deep trouble then how can he focus on being positive, when we know that something is not going to workout for us then how can we close our eyes and sight away from the most obvious result? My answer is – Yes , turn away from thinking about negative outcomes. If being positive will not change the result then Do you think that being negative and cryptic will change anything? If not, then why not to feel good by being positive. When we think positive then our mind starts generating ideas to get the desired results. Just imagine that In the flow of your positive thoughts, suddenly an idea strikes into your mind, O Yes!! it’s a good one, Why not to go for it? And imagine what if it hits the target!! You will win the situation! Right! While on the other hand negative thoughts will give you nothing but Distraction, Depression and Anxiety.

Don’t underestimate the power of your mind, let it think, allow it to generate positive ideas , No idea is small , Be Creative, Be Responsive to Your Thoughts, Spend time in thinking good. Create a mind full of Less but Good Thoughts!! Your will see the results yourself!!

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Same can be applied to the Business scenario also, Quality of Work v/s Quantity of Work. We can’t ignore the second but in this competitive era where better than the best is always an available choice for our customers then why not to deliver the quality product and service. For Quantity, there are many players for mass selling. In my views, we should focus on Being Premium, Not Random. The 1st step of delivering the quality is having the skilled manpower for the same, who have the expertise in their respective areas, it’s possible that they might not have proficient knowledge of other subject matters but here we have to see that why are they hired for? To Deliver the Quality or To Deliver the Quantity? Select the one as per your need and then fill the positions! But without a question my vote goes to Quality!

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Enjoy the Journey Instead of Worrying About the Destination!

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Hello Friends!
A new week has started. In the previous week I was constantly thinking of the outcome of an incident that recently occurred. I invested a lot my time in thinking that how will it be when I would encounter that person again after years. What would I say , how would I react , what would I ask? Even I tried to decide that What would I wear that day if it would be a planned meeting.. (I din’t use the word “Wasted” because it was again a learning for me ) Somehow many times I caught myself thinking about this hypothetical situation during my days. Today morning I was evoked by a thought that Why am I thinking so much about an event which has the probability of occurrence after many years or may be after decades. Rather I should focus on making the best of the days that I am having now. I don’t know whether I’ll be alive to witness that day, then why am I making plans?
I realize that it happens many times when we focus a lot on the outcome of something and somehow we forget to enjoy the process. For Example- Let say we enjoy the company of a person but we fear of loosing him/her. The destination is “Separation in Future” but the Journey is “This Present Good Time”.Don’t let your fear vanish your existing good moments, if the person is worth to be with then spend good time with that one and leave rest on time. Be as good as you can , give your best. Trust me, You will remember this journey forever even after getting separated!! And you will become a “good memory” for other person too. 🙂 

We all have heard it many times that we should enjoy our present but we forget this every now and then. The thoughts about Destination should not demolish the beauty of the journey. When we focus on the long term result of something then most of the times we end up imagining 90% of negative outcomes and we actually visualize ourselves fighting the odds then. In my first post I discussed about the power of imagination, and when we focus a lot on the outcome, unknowingly we invite negativity and unpleasant situations to our future. Avoid it as much as you can. I am not saying that we should not plan our future or we should not stay prepared for the situations. But don’t focus “Too Much” on any result. Everyday has its own glory, why not to cherish all that we are receiving everyday, instead of constantly waiting for the occurrence of an event in our future.

Life comes with many twists and turns, this is what makes it interesting and memorable. We are human and life is much more for us than Waking Up, Eating and Sleeping again every night. We have got senses to experience the things ,sometimes pleasant and sometimes extremely painful ones . But when we focus a lot on a particular situation than somehow we miss the series of good things that might be happening around in between. I am not a firm believer of destiny but we should leave few things on “Time” and keep on enjoying everyday that comes into our lives.
Leave few things on time .Try to be as good as you expect others to be with you. Try to be as perfect as you want others to be when they serve you. Treat others same as you want them to treat you. If You play your part honestly, if you will do the justice with all who will join you during the journey of your life then the outcome of every event will be a pleasant one for you, be it your personal life or professional.
As I always sayDo Good, Be Good and Expect Good to Happen!

Hope you will free yourself from being over worried about your future. Have a great week ahead!!

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