And I Stopped Reacting…

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When I look back I find myself as a person who immediately reacted and bounced back to every situation. I was among those who don’t take long to reply back , if somebody used to insult me in one way, I had thousand ways to insult that person and I was extremely good in that. If someone used to hurt me , I had the capacity to hurt that person 10 times more to take the revenge.Typically, for me, that ongoing events were not at all what’s caused me to react so quickly. It’s always something else that was weighing my mind, at the forefront or in some little nook. From my point of views it was nothing but my EGO… 

When I notice What has actually changed inside me after a series of events, some life changing experiences and age, then the first is- I don’t REACT instantly now, rather I sit back, pause for a while and then I RESPOND. Now I find “Reacting” as a very revengeful act which has no logic associated. Recently somebody criticized me over certain things which are not true about me, that person simply perceived that without any supporting reason. I decided not to give justification or any reaction then, after few days when I spoke to that person about that incident and validated my points, then that person not only apologized but promised me to change his way of thinking for others as well.

There is a huge difference between REACTING and RESPONDING. Most of us are tend to react upon the situations not  they don’t really respond. Sometimes we regret after reacting to an event, and think that we should have given a thought to it before taking this step.

There are gulf differences between both Reacting and Responding. To change the habit of Reacting , We need to know the essentials of both so that we can compare and act accordingly –

When We React-

When we are not comfortable with what is being happening around ,what we receive from others in the form of communication or any other way, then instantly our emotions start taking position. We notice stomach turn , our face heats up and we answer. We let our emotions drive us to any direction without a reason. We loose self control and do the things which we ourselves consider wrong. There are just the outcomes of Reactions. Sometimes people take the advantage of this habit and knowingly fire the situation and force us to react.

I consider only one positive outcome of these emotion driven reactions, i.e. Passion, We start few things with full conviction without thinking of the final result , here the faith takes over the charge and we end up achieving the desired result but our passion needs to be centered on purpose, not an unexpected, unproductive stimulus.

When We Respond-

I consider “Respond” as a thoughtful version of  “React”. When reasons, logic and the consideration of reaction combine together then we don’t react, we respond. In nutshell , Responding is less driven by emotions and more by logic. 

We have heard it “ Think Before You Speak” – that’s the mechanism of Response.

The upside of a solid response is an engaging conversation, all positive and all civil. We learn. We grow. We listen. We respond. We act forthrightly and from within. When you notice that here’s a time to answer, Put that moment into perspective-when that thing or moment causes you to react in such a short tempered manner you really need to dig deeper. Think about the effects of that event onto your life and the relevance of your immediate reaction. Think the effect of your words on others. If it doesn’t give you a positive feeling then I would suggest you not to do it. 

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That’s Exactly What I Want !! – Clear Goal Setting

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We start a journey only after deciding the destination. Isn’t it? Can we reach our desired place without a clear mindset about where we want to end up? I am sure We can’t. In such case our situation will be like a flying plane without a landing plan. Same goes with the achievements also. We have to set the goal to achieve our desired results in every aspect of life. Personal Life- Professional Life balance is a much talked topic now a days because of the blind horse race that most of us are participating into. People Dream ,People Think a Lot, People spend years and years in planning but they don’t strategize their plans so mostly they don’t get any desired result out of their “Long Possessed Plans” ,Here the need of Clear  Goal setting arises.

“Nothing can stop a man with right mental attitude from achieving his goal, nothing on earth can help a man with wrong attitude” – W.W. Ziege

Life is all about priorities and thoughts. We end up there, where we devote our energy and imagination. So setting clear short term and long term goals are the essentials to be successful.

Sharing few steps ,that can help you to define the goals and move forward accordingly-

1- Set Clear Desires- Recognize What you love to do and find someone who can pay you to do that? What you want others to say about you at the end of your life? What is your dream life? Visualize yourself in the pictures of your life at a gap of few years.  Set comparatively higher goal to achieve than your actual desire.

2-  Give A Deadline to Yourself and Plan After deciding the destination , we decide how to reach there, similarly Once you know what you want then plan how to reach there.  When we put a time limit to do something then we get a motivation from inside to remain focused and complete the task. So decide a deadline for each of your plan. Focus on achieving your short term goals first and then work on long term ones. We can’t complete the journey by counting all the turns at the starting point , we have to focus on the upcoming turn only to reach our destination.

3- Announce Your Plans-  I wanted to write a book since so long but somehow there was a lack of zeal. Soon I realized it and informed the people that I am writing a book and will complete it soon. Later people started asking me about the content and progress, it created a pressure to complete it on time with good content in it and I started working on my book seriously, as the result soon I’ll write it’s final chapter!! 🙂 When we tell people that we are planning a thing then it creates a pressure upon us to achieve it, because if we don’t then society considers it as a failure and no one wants to be called FAILED! Use this social pressure in your favour.

4- Discuss – Discuss with your friends, family and other trusted ones about your plans. We get ideas when we communicate, you can get a better strategy to achieve your goal by discussing about your plan. Enlist the people who have the knowledge of the subject matter and take their opinion. May be you get a great piece of advice!!

5- Praise Yourself- I have a habit of reading and re-reading the good things that people have said about me. I make a note of all the good things that I do in a week and read it at the weekend. It motivates me to do better in coming days. Self pride is a great motivator! Celebrate your small victories even, it will help you to win the battle!

We all have our own plans and a way to get the things done. Follow your instinct. Life is easy if we have a direction to move and it becomes interesting if we have goals to achieve. Set Goals. Work on your strategies and rework on it after sometime to get better results.

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The 3 Categories of Invitees for My Thanks Giving Day..

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We should be thankful to all the good people that we come across. We are blessed to have our families, friends and many others who hold us during the ups and downs of life. We build memories , spend our best times in presence of those who make us feel good. We learn to Respect Others, Empathy, Self-Respect, Culture, Sense of Responsibility and many other values from the people around us.

Life is a long journey of experiences and Real life isn’t always going to be perfect in the way you might have planned. At times, it introduces us to the people who don’t bring happy moments and good memories with them but when they leave ,they leave many noteworthy lessons behind. As we have a tradition to be thankful to the person who teaches us something,so we should be thankful to those people also who carries adverse situations in our lives because we get the supreme life lessons from the toughest people, We learn the most through the most aching experiences.  Along with our close ones why can’t we thankful to these people who bring distressing situations into our lives and teach us something unforgettable.

I Divide Those “Negative Teachers” Into 3 Categories to Thank Them-

1-  The Critics: We always need a push to prove ourselves, It  can come in the form of motivation but sometimes it comes in the form of criticism. Be Thankful to those who criticize you and doubt that you can’t achieve a certain thing. They indirectly work as a catalyst and motivate you to prove them wrong.

2– The Ex-Protectors: We become the Best Defender When We Fight Without a Shield. We should be thankful to those who leave you amid of a difficult situation and you have to deal with it alone. Their exit make you strong enough to become your own shield.

3- The Betrayer – We Learn to Trust and We Trust to Learn. The ones who betray us in any form gives us a broader prospect to look at every situation.  Recall the recent past and Pick such people from your life to thank them for making you wiser enough to understand that blind faith can make us blind to many facts and harm us in future.

We all have Different Lives, Different Experiences , Different Stories and Certainly Different Teachers also who have taught us different lessons. There are Many Others Categories , Filter Your Teachers and Be Thankful to Them for the Lessons!!


The Voice of Silence…

Every one has a lot to talk about, all have a lot to explain, our ears are bombarded with variety of sounds , our vision is always over crowded. Sometimes we find it actually back-breaking to avoid the unnecessary announcements . Few days back I read somewhere-We offer “The Peace of Silence” and I suddenly realized that now Silence has become a Unique Sell Property for many products. I saw an ad in a magazine which was not loaded with too many words still it conveyed all what it was meant for. It indicates that Words are not the only form to convey the messages.   

 

We search for silence most of the times but many of us still feel that Silence is a form of Inactivity. We are not working if we are not loud. People need to notice that the great writers reside at silent places to write their master piece! The uttermost stage of Meditation is also Silence. Because silence has an energy like no other energy source. It has the power to make people think and act, it can help to slow the mind down and produce more creative thinking. Silence brings peace and it is the foundation of being focused towards any of our goals.

We understand the power of silence and look for it in the outer world but do we ever try to create this silence in our own inner-selves? I am sure we don’t. Silence has its own sound, Create inner silence to hear the call of your inner self. Sometimes we deliver our best when we listen to our inner voice which has lost in the noise of the world.

Here I am sharing some practices to create Inner Silence-

Silence of “Speech”- 

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We hate to be proven wrong, so we try to validate our points by our extended speeches.We create noise when we speak without need and then we attract noise. Try to speak when it’s necessary. Learn to avoid negative speech, Stop giving hurtful, immortal expressions and later on practice complete Silence of Speech for sometime as per your convenience.

Silence of “Thoughts”

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Our mind creates a lot of noise, sometimes the intensity of this inner noise becomes higher than the intensity of outer noise and it creates anxiety , agitation, anger and depression also. People don’t realize it but we keep on fighting with this noise of our own thoughts. Try to leave some thoughts behind to create the silence. Start with negative ones. Leave the thoughts of Past, Anxiety, Fear, Failure and the ones that are troubling you for no reason. Filter good thoughts only to stay in your mind.

Silence of “Ego”-

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Ego has it’s own vocabulary. It creates a lot of internal and external noise. As I mentioned above that We hate to be proven wrong , yes this is a form of ego only and this ego creates the urge of explaining , we belittle others because of this ego only and it creates noise again. We should learn to accept others’ disagreement also if we are not right, it can solve many of the issues in our professional and personal life. So when you look for silence , leave the ego behind.

Silence of “Worries of Future”-

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If we focus on building a peaceful today then our future will eventually be peaceful. Each coming day is a part of future so focus more on utilizing each day in the best possible manner and deliver your best in every aspect. Plan for near future but not for ages because time brings a lot of reasons to change the pre-formulated strategies so try not to create a mental noise by thinking so much about unseen future. Sometimes its good to feel the thrill of encountering something unplanned! 

Though silence is being misinterpreted whenever we use it in the correlation of Tolerance. Here we need to apply our brain to decide where to use the power of silence and where to use the power of voice.

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Mechanism of A Realistic Thought!

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A human mind gets approx. 60,000 thoughts per day. We all wish to make our dreams come true. As it’s been ages since we are reading about the power of manifestation, visualization & thoughts etc. Then sometimes we wonder that why don’t we get desired results most of times despite following all the necessary techniques. We make a plan, visualize it’s success, work on a good action plan still sometimes plans don’t work out and possibility of “Change” occurs.

 There are many other factors also that make a thought come true. A Thought is made of 2 components-

1– Text-

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Text part is the flow chart of a Thought– The basics that we share with our mind. If we think of Sun, the text part will be the Image of the Sun. If we think of acquiring a Golf course then Our Position, Players , Ground & Acquisition Papers etc. will be the part of the text that will be sent to our mind.Text part doesn’t have any emotion attached to it. Text is only a small representation of our desire and these representations create primary database for our mind to work upon.

2- Associated Energy-

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I would define it as text-less component of a Thought. When we send an image to our mind ,instantly it generates emotions and emotions generate energy.  For instance, If I say – “She must be angry”- My mind will make her “Angry” image and accordingly emotions will be produced and energy will be released.  Intentionally or Unintentionally whenever we think of something positive or negative, we release an energy that goes into the universe and moves the circumstances accordingly. 

We get adverse results when we focus more on “What if it doesn’t work out” , because our mind weighs both positive and negative energies associated with any thought and universe works in the favour of the Winner!! So focus on the weight of the energy that our thoughts are emitting.

I would add one more supporting statement here, Just try holding a thought “ I am feeling great today” in your mind and notice how you feel when you hold this thought.

Again hold the same thought with more intensity by adding a smile to it, deep breath and your head up, this time you will feel more positive and more positive energy will be released. Now just reverse the process, start eliminating the positive elements from this thought and after sometime “ I am feeling great today” will remain nothing but a meaningless sentence.

Can you see the difference? It’s energy only that’s creating the difference!!  Wherever plan to start something with great intentions then load it with a lot of positive thoughts and energy.

If Text of a Thought is Body, then Associated Energy is the Soul, and it’s the soul only that makes a body alive!! Thoughts create our future but only when we add right energy to it.

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The Challenge of Change!!

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Hi!!

God made us in such a way that we adopt the pace of nature, climate change without much hassle. Days change so our attires and routines. What if we don’t change ourselves with the changing weather?? It will be uncomfortable and suffocating, Survival will be tough!! Right!!

In the same manner we have to face many changes in our lives also. We change places, we change jobs,  we see the change in the people around us. There are many things that keep on changing with the passes of time. We can’t standstill amid of flowing and floating river so we have to make the pace with the flow to survive, same goes with life too . There are certain events in life that we can’t control , we try hard to resist but sometimes it goes beyond the limit of resistance , then the best thing is to use this change in such a way that it becomes a blessing for us.

Here are few things that I learned When I Encountered the  Challenge of Change ! 

Time Shifts! Be Pliable to Flourish Through Change-   

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At the time when you are dealing with the absence of people , something that aches you badly then gather your all energy and think- Will it make any difference if you keep spoiling yourself for something that you can’t change? Will it make any difference in the lives of people if you keep yourself unhappy? I am sure the answer will be “NO”. Use this time to uncover your hidden talents, do something that you are good into and become an expert in your respective area. Make your talent your best friend and focus on being exceptionally good in one area if you have seen a tough time in any other area of life. 

When we loose something then God always gives us the insight to get something good in some other way, We just have to shift our eyes to the new goal.

Change is Unavoidable. Learning from Change is Your Choice-

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God always gives us the chance to make the choice and it depends upon our capability what we choose. In the transition period also we get the choice to learn the lessons. I always focus on learning from the smallest event even that I come across.  Time is like wind, we can’t stop its flow. We can simply learn from it and move ahead to meet new challenges. Forgive people, Leave sorrows behind but Don’t forget the lesson that you learn!

After all, A Lesson is a Good Thing That We Can Get From Even The Worst Events Of Our Lives!

Rise as A Victor Once Storm Passes Away-

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I read it somewhere and found it very true that Most of the Strong People, Have Had a Painful Past. But in their tough time, They denied to quit, They denied to fall apart, Took new chances and their choice made them what they are known for now.  Become so good in something that people fail to get your replacement. Discover your talent to make people realize that you are much more stronger than they think you are. There are many good things about your personality than the bad ones on which they rated you!!

It’s always our choice- Become a Victim or a Victor!

Make a Life that Others Wish to Read About-

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When we look for inspiration to achieve something great, We always love to read the Motivational Stories of People, Survival Stories, Social Changes for Which Somebody Tried Hard etc. etc. Focus on becoming like the one who motivates you. Be the writer of your own success story.

Take the challenge of Change and emerge as a Winner by making the best out of it. I am sure you will be happy a day on the fact that You are much more stronger than earlier after encountering this change.

At last, In the process of change, don’t leave the basic principle – “Be Good, Do Good and Expect Good Things to Happen” . Don’t Do Wrong With Anyone!! Peace comes to those who don’t hurt others.

 PEACE OF MIND IN THE END IS ALSO A SUCCESS!!

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The Worth of Past..

Hello Friends!! It’s always a blessing to be surrounded with the people who value you for what you are. We should treasure people on the basis of their value addition to our lives. But many times I find it very disturbing when I notice people criticizing somebody close to them on the basis of his “Not So Good” past while he has been proven good enough to get respect from others in his present days.  Many of us have a tendency to form an opinion about people on the basis of their past. Well I also don’t find it wrong to take the reference of past , when we encounter a stranger . The first introduction of a person begins with his/her past. (We can’t trust a terrorist blindly 🙂 )

 But What if we keep on doubting people and criticizing their good deeds and considering their past. We need to accept that people change and some incidences are big enough to change the whole story of somebody’s life.Moreover a person doesn’t have full control over every event that occurs into his life. There are many saints and philosophers who were not the same ones in their early lives, but something incidents made them what they are known for . (We say that Albert Einstein is one of the greatest scientists of all the times, who was once declared mentally sick during his childhood. Saint Nicholas was not a saint in his early life , Gautam Buddha was a Successor king before being a saint).  In one of my recent chats with a fellow he was criticizing one of his closed ones referring  to the past of that person. The saddest part of the story was- That person was extremely good with my fellow friend.

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Sometimes we forget that A person has to put a lot of courage to stand again from the betrayed stage and take  a new path. He gathers all the pieces of his scattered hopes, broken self esteem and left out energy to stand with his head up but we don’t leave a chance to make him recall the days which he wants to forget.  We have no idea that we put that person in the same pain again whenever we criticize him for his past. Should we hurt a person just because he has gone through the same pain earlier and came out of it so we can presume that he will tackle our misbehave this time also? Should we break somebody’s 2nd leg just because he is walking perfect with one broken leg? I leave the answers on you..

There are many people around who are dealing with such issues in their lives when they have to prove themselves right for the incidences that might have occurred in their past due to circumstances. We simply devalue something very special that a person is doing for us by considering that “It’s nothing new for this person, nothing special”. It can hurt a person to the non-recoverable level sometimes. Believe Me.

 I really wonder that when we are so good in judging someone by his past then why aren’t we good in analyzing someone by his present?

Next time before you think of talking about somebody’s past, I would suggest you to ask these questions to yourself

1-  Haven’t we done anything wrong in our lives?

2- Do we know the “whole story” of this person? Have we witnessed the series of events that occurred in his past and what were the circumstances then?

3- What matters more-  An untold past of someone or The present where the other person does all to make our days beautiful and memorable.

4-  Your place in other person’s life now .

5- What will be the impact of our criticism on the life of the other person.

I am sure once you introspect yourself and ask this questions to yourself then you will not criticize any of your closed ones again. A mistake can never be beyond the limit of being forgiven. Life is precious and so people.

As I say- Be Good, Do Good and Expect Good to Happen. Become the reason of somebody’s happiness, you will receive the same in some way. But If you are the reason of somebody’s grief in someway then you will get the same in some other way. Life pays us exactly same what we give to others and Karma knocks the door of all sooner or later. Spread Happiness to Receive It!! 

 This was a disturbing thought I think… Signing off for the day…

Leaving with just one message – No Past should be vast enough to cover the present of someone!!

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Dear “Myself” I Really Enjoy Your Company!! From- “Me”

Sounds not so familiar!! Right??

Whenever I discuss my Vacation Ideas, Shopping or Movie plans with someone, the first question arises- With whom? When I tell them that I am not going with anyother person then I get the reactions like- How can you enjoy alone? Wouldn’t it be boring? After getting this from people since so long,  today It forced me to think that Do we really need someone everytime to get even the little happiness? Are we so insufficient that we can’t make ourselves feel good? We spend the most of our time with our own selves still we look for others whenever we plan to enjoy something!!

Do we know the one with whom we spend the most of our time? That One is- Our own inner-self.. 🙂 We praise everybody around us to strengthen the bonds that we have. But we never cherish ourselves to strengthen the oldest bond that we start forming since the very first day of our lives when we get the existence in our mother’s bomb, the bond with our ownself.

Can’t we make ourselves so much interesting, strong  & self-loving that we don’t feel the need of others to accompany us in any situation. Be it at in the good times to enjoy or during the hard sufferings.  I would say- Yes, We Can.. It’s good to share your good time with others (We are called “ the social creatures” after all 🙂 ) but at the same time we shouldn’t feel paralyzed to enjoy our own company also.

This post is for those, Who feel it difficult to enjoy alone and don’t buy this point that a person can be the happiest one in the absence of others. Few steps towards making you realize that you the best company that you can ever have!!

 

1- Which one makes you feel good?

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Answer is very simple. Smiling faces always make you feel better. Then why not to carry a smile. Start feeling good from inside. When you feel good from inside then you see the beauty and positivity in every thing . You witness the same as you feel!! So feel good to get good. 

2- Discover your Interests-   Search your passion. Have you seen the kids when they are involved into their dearest activity? They forget the rest of the world. Discover and develop such interests that can keep you engaged deeply. Many people like travelling and when they are out to see the world they don’t feel the need of anyone. Many others like Photography and when they are busy in capturing the moments and objects then they don’t want anyone to disturb them. Be Friends with your own talents and make them your companion. 🙂 

Your passion will accompany you always wherever you go.

2- Become Your Own download (5).jpg–  We are afraid of being alone because of our unseen fear of encountering something unpleasant. So next time whenever you want to start something, try to collect every detail (Even the smallest one) related to that activity. Search about it, Talk about It, Think about it , make a note of every information. Go for a question-answer session within yourself to check your preparation and make sure that you are well prepared. For instance I take a random scenario – Going for Shopping! Decide What you need, Check the Trends, List the Places where you can get the desired stuff, How would you reach there. Visualize , Become Your Honest Critic to Say Yes/No for anything.  Then Step out!

3-  Be Your Own Caretaker-  Start pampering yourself in all available forms. Dress up well, Feed your mind with great thoughts, Smile, Take care of your necessities , Feel great about your possessions, Cheer yourself for your achievements. Stay Fit-You can only enjoy your company in the well-being state of both your body and heart. Being fit from inside is a joyous feeling in itself and it motivates you to do great things without seeking for the support from others.

4- People See in You What You See in Yourself-

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You can enjoy your company only if you appreciate yourself and take your best step forward to show your best side to others. Your opinion about yourself can make a huge difference in your life. If you think you are a mediocre , you will reflect it by your personality. If you think that you are champion, that’s what will be reflected by your attitude. When you are confident then trust me you don’t need the approval of rest of the world to carry forward your desires.

Stay Confident! Follow your instinct and when you know that you are heading towards the right direction than don’t look for others ‘ approval.

Stay Happy and Enjoy Your Company!! 

Be Good, Do Good and Expect Good to Happen!! 🙂

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The Worthy Thoughts..

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Hi!! Once again we are in the mid of the week. Time goes by fast! Isn’t it? People pass years and years following their “ No Where Different” routines , just dates keep on changing. Have you ever noticed that even in our busiest hour our mind keeps on thinking, the flow of thoughts don’t go slow at any point of time, we think even when we sleep. As per some studies approximately 50,000 Thoughts cross our mind per day. Isn’t it a big figure? Sometime back I wrote a post here called- Our Thoughts are creating our future.

During meditation , there is a step called “ Emptying Your Mind” , i.e. a person masters himself in such a way that he doesn’t allow random thoughts to enter into his mind , sometimes he bars all the thoughts from coming in. This state is called “Quiet State”. The next step that comes is- Filling your mind with positive thoughts. Here we need to stop!! We all should follow this practice of being selective while thinking something. Trend yourself to think positive thoughts only, Decrease the quantity of your thoughts and focus on the quality of thoughts. Think Good , Think Positive, Think of Abundance, Think of a Pleasant Life, Think of Success, Think of Peace..

Now the question arises that when a person is in deep trouble then how can he focus on being positive, when we know that something is not going to workout for us then how can we close our eyes and sight away from the most obvious result? My answer is – Yes , turn away from thinking about negative outcomes. If being positive will not change the result then Do you think that being negative and cryptic will change anything? If not, then why not to feel good by being positive. When we think positive then our mind starts generating ideas to get the desired results. Just imagine that In the flow of your positive thoughts, suddenly an idea strikes into your mind, O Yes!! it’s a good one, Why not to go for it? And imagine what if it hits the target!! You will win the situation! Right! While on the other hand negative thoughts will give you nothing but Distraction, Depression and Anxiety.

Don’t underestimate the power of your mind, let it think, allow it to generate positive ideas , No idea is small , Be Creative, Be Responsive to Your Thoughts, Spend time in thinking good. Create a mind full of Less but Good Thoughts!! Your will see the results yourself!!

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Same can be applied to the Business scenario also, Quality of Work v/s Quantity of Work. We can’t ignore the second but in this competitive era where better than the best is always an available choice for our customers then why not to deliver the quality product and service. For Quantity, there are many players for mass selling. In my views, we should focus on Being Premium, Not Random. The 1st step of delivering the quality is having the skilled manpower for the same, who have the expertise in their respective areas, it’s possible that they might not have proficient knowledge of other subject matters but here we have to see that why are they hired for? To Deliver the Quality or To Deliver the Quantity? Select the one as per your need and then fill the positions! But without a question my vote goes to Quality!

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Enjoy the Journey Instead of Worrying About the Destination!

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Hello Friends!
A new week has started. In the previous week I was constantly thinking of the outcome of an incident that recently occurred. I invested a lot my time in thinking that how will it be when I would encounter that person again after years. What would I say , how would I react , what would I ask? Even I tried to decide that What would I wear that day if it would be a planned meeting.. (I din’t use the word “Wasted” because it was again a learning for me ) Somehow many times I caught myself thinking about this hypothetical situation during my days. Today morning I was evoked by a thought that Why am I thinking so much about an event which has the probability of occurrence after many years or may be after decades. Rather I should focus on making the best of the days that I am having now. I don’t know whether I’ll be alive to witness that day, then why am I making plans?
I realize that it happens many times when we focus a lot on the outcome of something and somehow we forget to enjoy the process. For Example- Let say we enjoy the company of a person but we fear of loosing him/her. The destination is “Separation in Future” but the Journey is “This Present Good Time”.Don’t let your fear vanish your existing good moments, if the person is worth to be with then spend good time with that one and leave rest on time. Be as good as you can , give your best. Trust me, You will remember this journey forever even after getting separated!! And you will become a “good memory” for other person too. 🙂 

We all have heard it many times that we should enjoy our present but we forget this every now and then. The thoughts about Destination should not demolish the beauty of the journey. When we focus on the long term result of something then most of the times we end up imagining 90% of negative outcomes and we actually visualize ourselves fighting the odds then. In my first post I discussed about the power of imagination, and when we focus a lot on the outcome, unknowingly we invite negativity and unpleasant situations to our future. Avoid it as much as you can. I am not saying that we should not plan our future or we should not stay prepared for the situations. But don’t focus “Too Much” on any result. Everyday has its own glory, why not to cherish all that we are receiving everyday, instead of constantly waiting for the occurrence of an event in our future.

Life comes with many twists and turns, this is what makes it interesting and memorable. We are human and life is much more for us than Waking Up, Eating and Sleeping again every night. We have got senses to experience the things ,sometimes pleasant and sometimes extremely painful ones . But when we focus a lot on a particular situation than somehow we miss the series of good things that might be happening around in between. I am not a firm believer of destiny but we should leave few things on “Time” and keep on enjoying everyday that comes into our lives.
Leave few things on time .Try to be as good as you expect others to be with you. Try to be as perfect as you want others to be when they serve you. Treat others same as you want them to treat you. If You play your part honestly, if you will do the justice with all who will join you during the journey of your life then the outcome of every event will be a pleasant one for you, be it your personal life or professional.
As I always sayDo Good, Be Good and Expect Good to Happen!

Hope you will free yourself from being over worried about your future. Have a great week ahead!!

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