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My 8 Commitments to Myself..

 

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“Commitment”- This 10 letters word is loaded with a lot of responsibilities, realization of facts, hopes of future, Assurance, A Series of Positive Trials to Make Something Happen and much more is hidden in this word. Whenever we feel the urge of bonding ourselves in the pursuit of doing something then we give the commitment. Commitment is a kind of positive force. I have given many commitments to people and tried my best to act accordingly in most of the cases. Sometimes we have to sacrifice a lot in order to live up to our commitments. This time I decided to use this force in my favour, Here are few commitments that we should made to our own selves –

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A person is a layered entity.  Sometimes we make changes in ourselves to please the people around and as per the time. There is a huge difference between “being true” and “correcting ourselves while being wrong” . There is nothing wrong in adopting the change until we don’t loose our real self. Be Real to Your Yourself. Do What Gives You a Reason to Smile and Be Proud of!

2-Stand for Your Own Set of Rules – Every one of us have our own set of ethics, principles and moral codes. Live true to them every day. Time always comes with 2 options for Everyone, 1- Act Ethical 2- Act Unethical. Initially we notice no harm in adopting the easy Way 2 ,but Way 1 is way better than Way 2. Act as per the ethics, Morals & Humanity. Life will never give you a chance to feel guilty.

3-Create Life’s handbook- letter3.jpg

I decided to devote a fine day to make my handbook comprises of my Values, My Professional Goals, My Monetary Goals ( Short Term and Long Term) , Personal Goals, The Things to Do That Make Me Happy, Travel Goals, Personal Strengths, The Loopholes to Work Upon , The Habits to Quit. We get a path to act when we write down my plans. The handbook is a road map to build on a strategy to achieve.

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The attached strings bring us down many times in life. Don’t fixate yourself with a status, fame , possession etc.Same goes with the people too, Don’t be too much attached to anyone because it forces us to do a lot of the unwanted things followed with the fear of loosing, depression and much more. Create bonding but stay practical in your approach. These are impermanent and will ultimately disappear one day when you die. Focus on growing and living life to the fullest instead.

5-Do a Kind Deed a Day- What is something you can do today that will make the world a better place? Go and do it.

6-Don’t Settle I am in full plan for not to settle for less. Don’t settle for someone you don’t like as your partner. Don’t settle for a job you don’t like. Don’t settle for friends who make you feel like a lesser person. Don’t settle for a weight you are unhappy with. Go for what you really want.

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Many times in life we give so much of value to others and somehow we forget to live our life. Life is truly good. I always find living to be a fascinating experience.. There’s so much we don’t know out there about this world, so much is there to be experienced in life.it’s just wonderful. We have a life that millions of people dream of, then why not to enjoy it.

8-Make a Source of Alternate Income- Money is not everything in life, but it has a significant role to play in the life of each one of us. Don’t be dependent on Salary and Fixed Deposits. Use your expertise to generate a source of continuous alternate income. Create a business, that can keep running even if you are not physically present there all the time to monitor.

As I always mention, Never do wrong with anybody and enjoy this blissful life at the fullest. Don’t do wrong because in some way or other What Goes Around, Comes Around!!

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You Fail Only When You Decide Not to Try- The Sky of Limitless Possibilities.

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Hi!!  If you ask someone-“Do you want to fail?” “Do you want to make a mistake?  – What will be the answer of that person- I am sure it will be” Nobody wants to be failed in life” . Right? But despite making all the right, “in place” decisions , sometimes a person feels confused and out of track. That “Something is missing” feeling soaks all the energy and a person feels like giving up. There are times when things just don’t go your way and sometimes it happens to that extent when a person finally gives up and think that this was not his cup of tea. I read somewhere that –”Sometimes you have to fail thousand times before succeeding”. I firmly believe in this. Don’t be so quick to throw all your efforts away. Life has a lot to teach us and offer us in various forms.  It’s just the beginning and you will learn more as you go. My little experiences taught me that sometimes we have to review our recent activities in order to succeed without blaming others.

Delay in success doesn’t mean the failure. My motive is not to tell you an out of the world story here, but just to repeat those few points that we might have overlooked. Success is a process of continuing efforts, here adding some thought to “Never Quit Approach” and clear the dust –

  1. Change comes When You Take the Charge of Your Deeds-

Whenever anything doesn’t do right , we look for the causes of the same. But mostly we end up with a handful of people to blame for all the things that went wrong in the process and hindered our way of success. Review is good but blaming others will never give you a chance to notice your short comings and eventually you will end up making no   development. The moment you claim personal responsibility over your life, you will learn the importance of steering your own ship. You will start to make decisions for yourself, and end up feeling less hateful and happier for the people around you.

2- Relationships are the Game Changers-

Relationships teach us a lot and have enough power to change a person completely. Nourishing relationships fuel your motivation to succeed and staying in toxic relationships are sure fire ways to fill your heart with negativity.  It is a widely accepted fact that we function well when we connect, collaborate, and share ourselves to other people. If we take a look at the other side of it- There are many people who succeeded in their life after suffering or learning from a terrible relationship. AT the same time there are people who succeeded when someone from their close family made them realize their responsibilities.  Choose your people wisely, It can either help you rise into your life or can break you suffer to the irrecoverable point.

  1. Life is a Learning School-

Learning doesn’t end at school, it doesn’t end at your college. Humans learn everyday throughout their lives. Learning shouldn’t ever be confined within the walls of a classroom. When we start noticing the learning around us, we notice that we know very less, this world has an ocean of wisdom . We enrich our experiences when we keep learning from the people and the happenings  around us. Failures also teach us something , may be another thing to be added into “Not to Do” list when we would try next time!!

  1. Big Achievers only Get though Big Troubles-

You will not be in any trouble if you don’t wish to grow and stay satisfied with your on going routine life, there will be no hassle if you don’t wish to rise in your life. There will be no need of getting out of your comfort zone, if you don’t wish to reach to new horizon. There will be no loss if you don’t wish to make profit and keep stuff safe inside the wall. Yes, life will not show up anything different if you are not willing. But will it be a meaningful life then?? I believe it will not. I hope you got my point- There is no gain without pain. We have to stretch our limits in order to get something that others don’t have.

  1. Money  is Not the Synonym of “Success”-

I am among those who never underestimate the value of money in life. It matters, even all the knowledge of the world doesn’t make any sense if you can’t earn your livelihood.  But money should not the only parameter to measure success. There comes a time in life, when a person feels like starting something for his self satisfaction  and mostly that satisfaction comes when we start something without considering the margin of monetary profit for ourselves. Earn enough to have good life but don’t forget that success, happiness, peace & health etc. don’t have so much to do with money. A common misconception in today’s capitalistic society, this view is shared by people who place great importance on wealth and material stuff.  You will realize that there are other forms of success too. Success isn’t based on your salary and job title, even success  includes your health, emotional well being and your relationships. These forms of success are the best source of long term happiness. Focus on making a balance life for yourself.

 

  1. Negative Experiences Are The Award Winning Teachers-

If your life goal is to avoid pain and suffering all the time – then you’ve already set the limit for your own growth. The point of negative experiences is to teach us the value of happy moments. To make us learn from our mistakes. Negative experiences are our best teachers. They help us grow into adults capable of fixing our own lives.

Your journey to success starts from the moment you change your limiting views about yourself.   There is so much you can do. You are more than just dust in the wind. You are here to mark your existence, to touch other people’s lives – you just need to find out how. Keep learning  and keep moving, because the delay in success doesn’t make you unsuccessful. Lean, Move, Be Patient and Give Time to Time.

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The 3 Categories of Invitees for My Thanks Giving Day..

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We should be thankful to all the good people that we come across. We are blessed to have our families, friends and many others who hold us during the ups and downs of life. We build memories , spend our best times in presence of those who make us feel good. We learn to Respect Others, Empathy, Self-Respect, Culture, Sense of Responsibility and many other values from the people around us.

Life is a long journey of experiences and Real life isn’t always going to be perfect in the way you might have planned. At times, it introduces us to the people who don’t bring happy moments and good memories with them but when they leave ,they leave many noteworthy lessons behind. As we have a tradition to be thankful to the person who teaches us something,so we should be thankful to those people also who carries adverse situations in our lives because we get the supreme life lessons from the toughest people, We learn the most through the most aching experiences.  Along with our close ones why can’t we thankful to these people who bring distressing situations into our lives and teach us something unforgettable.

I Divide Those “Negative Teachers” Into 3 Categories to Thank Them-

1-  The Critics: We always need a push to prove ourselves, It  can come in the form of motivation but sometimes it comes in the form of criticism. Be Thankful to those who criticize you and doubt that you can’t achieve a certain thing. They indirectly work as a catalyst and motivate you to prove them wrong.

2– The Ex-Protectors: We become the Best Defender When We Fight Without a Shield. We should be thankful to those who leave you amid of a difficult situation and you have to deal with it alone. Their exit make you strong enough to become your own shield.

3- The Betrayer – We Learn to Trust and We Trust to Learn. The ones who betray us in any form gives us a broader prospect to look at every situation.  Recall the recent past and Pick such people from your life to thank them for making you wiser enough to understand that blind faith can make us blind to many facts and harm us in future.

We all have Different Lives, Different Experiences , Different Stories and Certainly Different Teachers also who have taught us different lessons. There are Many Others Categories , Filter Your Teachers and Be Thankful to Them for the Lessons!!


The Challenge of Change!!

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Hi!!

God made us in such a way that we adopt the pace of nature, climate change without much hassle. Days change so our attires and routines. What if we don’t change ourselves with the changing weather?? It will be uncomfortable and suffocating, Survival will be tough!! Right!!

In the same manner we have to face many changes in our lives also. We change places, we change jobs,  we see the change in the people around us. There are many things that keep on changing with the passes of time. We can’t standstill amid of flowing and floating river so we have to make the pace with the flow to survive, same goes with life too . There are certain events in life that we can’t control , we try hard to resist but sometimes it goes beyond the limit of resistance , then the best thing is to use this change in such a way that it becomes a blessing for us.

Here are few things that I learned When I Encountered the  Challenge of Change ! 

Time Shifts! Be Pliable to Flourish Through Change-   

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At the time when you are dealing with the absence of people , something that aches you badly then gather your all energy and think- Will it make any difference if you keep spoiling yourself for something that you can’t change? Will it make any difference in the lives of people if you keep yourself unhappy? I am sure the answer will be “NO”. Use this time to uncover your hidden talents, do something that you are good into and become an expert in your respective area. Make your talent your best friend and focus on being exceptionally good in one area if you have seen a tough time in any other area of life. 

When we loose something then God always gives us the insight to get something good in some other way, We just have to shift our eyes to the new goal.

Change is Unavoidable. Learning from Change is Your Choice-

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God always gives us the chance to make the choice and it depends upon our capability what we choose. In the transition period also we get the choice to learn the lessons. I always focus on learning from the smallest event even that I come across.  Time is like wind, we can’t stop its flow. We can simply learn from it and move ahead to meet new challenges. Forgive people, Leave sorrows behind but Don’t forget the lesson that you learn!

After all, A Lesson is a Good Thing That We Can Get From Even The Worst Events Of Our Lives!

Rise as A Victor Once Storm Passes Away-

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I read it somewhere and found it very true that Most of the Strong People, Have Had a Painful Past. But in their tough time, They denied to quit, They denied to fall apart, Took new chances and their choice made them what they are known for now.  Become so good in something that people fail to get your replacement. Discover your talent to make people realize that you are much more stronger than they think you are. There are many good things about your personality than the bad ones on which they rated you!!

It’s always our choice- Become a Victim or a Victor!

Make a Life that Others Wish to Read About-

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When we look for inspiration to achieve something great, We always love to read the Motivational Stories of People, Survival Stories, Social Changes for Which Somebody Tried Hard etc. etc. Focus on becoming like the one who motivates you. Be the writer of your own success story.

Take the challenge of Change and emerge as a Winner by making the best out of it. I am sure you will be happy a day on the fact that You are much more stronger than earlier after encountering this change.

At last, In the process of change, don’t leave the basic principle – “Be Good, Do Good and Expect Good Things to Happen” . Don’t Do Wrong With Anyone!! Peace comes to those who don’t hurt others.

 PEACE OF MIND IN THE END IS ALSO A SUCCESS!!

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The Worth of Past..

Hello Friends!! It’s always a blessing to be surrounded with the people who value you for what you are. We should treasure people on the basis of their value addition to our lives. But many times I find it very disturbing when I notice people criticizing somebody close to them on the basis of his “Not So Good” past while he has been proven good enough to get respect from others in his present days.  Many of us have a tendency to form an opinion about people on the basis of their past. Well I also don’t find it wrong to take the reference of past , when we encounter a stranger . The first introduction of a person begins with his/her past. (We can’t trust a terrorist blindly 🙂 )

 But What if we keep on doubting people and criticizing their good deeds and considering their past. We need to accept that people change and some incidences are big enough to change the whole story of somebody’s life.Moreover a person doesn’t have full control over every event that occurs into his life. There are many saints and philosophers who were not the same ones in their early lives, but something incidents made them what they are known for . (We say that Albert Einstein is one of the greatest scientists of all the times, who was once declared mentally sick during his childhood. Saint Nicholas was not a saint in his early life , Gautam Buddha was a Successor king before being a saint).  In one of my recent chats with a fellow he was criticizing one of his closed ones referring  to the past of that person. The saddest part of the story was- That person was extremely good with my fellow friend.

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Sometimes we forget that A person has to put a lot of courage to stand again from the betrayed stage and take  a new path. He gathers all the pieces of his scattered hopes, broken self esteem and left out energy to stand with his head up but we don’t leave a chance to make him recall the days which he wants to forget.  We have no idea that we put that person in the same pain again whenever we criticize him for his past. Should we hurt a person just because he has gone through the same pain earlier and came out of it so we can presume that he will tackle our misbehave this time also? Should we break somebody’s 2nd leg just because he is walking perfect with one broken leg? I leave the answers on you..

There are many people around who are dealing with such issues in their lives when they have to prove themselves right for the incidences that might have occurred in their past due to circumstances. We simply devalue something very special that a person is doing for us by considering that “It’s nothing new for this person, nothing special”. It can hurt a person to the non-recoverable level sometimes. Believe Me.

 I really wonder that when we are so good in judging someone by his past then why aren’t we good in analyzing someone by his present?

Next time before you think of talking about somebody’s past, I would suggest you to ask these questions to yourself

1-  Haven’t we done anything wrong in our lives?

2- Do we know the “whole story” of this person? Have we witnessed the series of events that occurred in his past and what were the circumstances then?

3- What matters more-  An untold past of someone or The present where the other person does all to make our days beautiful and memorable.

4-  Your place in other person’s life now .

5- What will be the impact of our criticism on the life of the other person.

I am sure once you introspect yourself and ask this questions to yourself then you will not criticize any of your closed ones again. A mistake can never be beyond the limit of being forgiven. Life is precious and so people.

As I say- Be Good, Do Good and Expect Good to Happen. Become the reason of somebody’s happiness, you will receive the same in some way. But If you are the reason of somebody’s grief in someway then you will get the same in some other way. Life pays us exactly same what we give to others and Karma knocks the door of all sooner or later. Spread Happiness to Receive It!! 

 This was a disturbing thought I think… Signing off for the day…

Leaving with just one message – No Past should be vast enough to cover the present of someone!!

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Let’s Be Strong to Say a “Goodbye”!!

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Hello Friends!! The beginning of a New Week!! I have full faith that all of us will lead to more joy, happiness and achievements this week..

Today my post is driven by the circumstances of people around me. Many of us have dealt with the absence of some people in our lives , who used to mean a lot for us at a point of time. This situation of letting people go becomes completely uncontrollable for many of us.  Yes , It’s a tough hack to master, purely because we get attached to all the living/non living objects very easily. We try so desperately to hold on to things even when they’ve served us beyond their purpose.

It might bring sadness, heartache,regret, tears and break down but each loss takes us on a journey which makes us stronger. Forgive people for the grief that you might have suffered because of them but don’t forget the lesson!! It will make you wiser.

Losing people is a natural part of growing up, but when we’re encompassed in a society that is constantly changing, we mainly believe that everyone we lose is a loss occurred which is really not the case!! It’s not necessary that it’s our fault or we are not good enough when we have to loose someone, or we are not meant to be surrounded by good people or the people we desire for, so this loss happened.

Just flip the coin!! 🙂 Look at the other side now- Probably we are not with a particular person now, because s/he has taught us all the necessary lessons, probably we are meant to achieve something much more than just being into a particular relation and that person was hindering our way , probably that person was not a deserving one and we were not able to see his/her real side so God took the charge and expelled him/her from our lives, or may be we both are good but we weren’t meant to be together 🙂 We were sent on the earth to enlighten the lives of many others. Remember even in a battle , King doesn’t send all his best soldiers in one direction, he has to divide them and send them in diverse directions to save more and more people. This can be same with us , God diversified us to spread happiness in the lives of more people so we are not together, People cross our ways when alike minds meet and after teaching all the necessary lessons , God brings “separation” in the story but We should not blame people or the almighty for this. We should be grateful to the people and nature for the blessings/ lessons that we got from a particular incident /relation.

If we really know that we have been cheated in someway or other then we should not cry for the culprits. Let him go, who wants to leave. Hindering the way of somebody can’t form a strong relation. Make the exit easy for people and yourself. Trust me, you will grow in folds after leaving a painful relation behind. The one who doesn’t value you, who doesn’t care about your presence and absence , has no right to be with you.

Don’t forget that – Who can’t stand for us, Doesn’t deserve to stay with us. Every relationship is a learning curve, so instead of mourning the people who aren’t present, we should celebrate filtering people out who no longer serve as support.

Loss can be one of the most painful feelings to endure but over time, the pain lessens and our eyes are opened to the fact that we don’t actually need that person anymore who couldn’t value our existence in his/her life. In the end- I believe on one fact which makes this ” People Filtration” easy for me, that is- Who wants to be with you , will find a way, Who is not willing enough to be with you, will again find a way” So better to let people decide first and follow afterwords, it will be less complicated for you to reciprocate their reaction.

Picking up the pieces, planting a smile on our faces and finding comfort in the fact that things will get better is the first step toward learning to be truly happy on our own. Because, what’s the point in wasting our time and energy on people who remain standstill?

We need to stop trying to force things because we’re scared to be without someone. We need to stop worrying, and start believing that things will be okay in the end. If things aren’t okay, it’s not the end.

If someone doesn’t treat us how we deserve, we shouldn’t accept their behavior just because it’s what we think we deserve. We don’t have to settle.

People have an unhealthy habit of hurting the ones closest to them, but we can choose not to be victim and go away from this breed of people.

While it’s hard to accept that not everyone who enters our life is meant to stay, we as human beings are built to encounter new people. We’re designed to explore, discover and grow, and not be held back by people who don’t have the same capacity as us.

So when we feel like we’re falling apart, we need to remind ourselves how that person made us feel. Not when we were naively content, but when we were achingly sad and bitterly confused.

Life is too short to be anything but happy- Have heard it!! Right!! Then why not to accept it and be Happy!! Learn to surround yourself with people who matter. We either grow with, or grow apart from people, and if it doesn’t feel right, it might be best to let it go.

People will become strangers and distant memories, but we don’t ever have to feel guilty about removing toxic people from our lives. Play your part honestly and become a good memory for all.

Nobody has the right to infect us with negativity and doubt. As i mention in all my posts – Please have faith in the justice of almighty. Justice will take place at the most unexpected time, in the most unexpected manner, in some way or other. But it will surely happen. Universe is an ECHO- we receive what we  emit, if we give smiles to others then we’ll receive the same and if we are the reason of somebody’s tears or sadness,We’ll get it a day in any form.

After all Our broken moments don’t define us. It’s how we deal with them that does- Believe It!! 

Happy Week Ahead !

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Imagination- A Powerful Tool to Get the Life You Desire!!

Hello Friends!! Hope you are having  great day!!  Today I thought to introduce you to the energy that we all have in ourselves, that is a big deciding factor of our future. So here we start-

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Have you ever come across the incidences like- You thought of Someone and suddenly that person appeared in front of you!! You witnessed an incident and suddenly realized that you have imagined it earlier!! You were possessing a dream of having your desired job and suddenly you get an offer of your choice!! Or the worst is- You sensed a problem quite before it actually occurred in your life. I am sure your answer will be “Yes” in all these scenarios .

If you notice there is one common factor among all the above mentioned examples. That is- IMAGINATION. All happened in the imagination first, then it came into reality. Many times we ignore and underestimate the power of our own imagination. It’s all about the vibration and our energy that bring changes in our lives and certain events take place. If we hold a thought for so long with a high intensity then there are chances that it will become our reality. Many philosophers have said ” Our Thoughts Create Our Future”.

Our greatest scientists also firstly imagine to invent something and imagined how it should look like, how it should function, they believed in their idea, worked in that direction and finally they ended with their great inventions!! In my words- Imagination is not an Imagination , it’s the first step of the process to create a Reality. So we should be very careful about taking our first step, We can lead to absolute Happiness or we can end up having a big sum of troubles too!! So start imagining a life full of achievements, love, abundance , excitement, good health , happiness and peace. Once you will be filled with the imaginations of such good things , I assure you that eventually you will start noticing the difference in your daily life..Things will start turning into your favour!! I don’t deny the fact that we should be real and realistic while imaging something, but at the same time we can always stretch our limits of achieving something. Thinking Big Will Not Harm You!!

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As I have said it earlier also that it can take time , but don’t stop believing. Miracles Happen!! Just Give Some time to Time! Keep imagining ,Have Faith!

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