Up from a past that’s rooted in pain, I will rise.
I’m a deep ocean, leaping and wide, Welling and moving I bear in the tide.
Leaving behind all those drifts and fear ,Before my final day to go to the other “way” I’ll rise…
It’s been so long since my work kept me away from sharing my thoughts here. Finally I am here one more time…
Well, I often write about feeling good, staying motivated, energetic, keep fighting and much more.. But sometimes we don’t get a good start of the day for some reasons. May be you are afraid of a busy day , may be you dint get a good sleep last night, may be you thought a lot about something that you can’t control or the most common reasons – Missing someone and Flashbacks!!
Some times we loose that positive momentum during hard first few hours of the day and in the second half we feel tired, low, lost, somewhat sad or uninspired.
What to do then? Is that day lost and should you just aim for a better day tomorrow?
Well, the good news is- Today is not over yet!!
Here’s how I do that by breaking the negative mood and getting a new start.
1. Appreciate what you have-
The simplest of my most commonly used pick-me-ups.
I tell myself: OK, I might not feel so good right now, but what can I be grateful for and appreciate in my life?
I usually come up with simple things like-
2. Act as you would like to feel.
Emotions work backwards too. So if I want to become more positive or enthusiastic then I act in the manner of a person who is positive or enthusiastic.
I might not feel like it. But I do it as best as I can anyway. I may for example:
3. Think for a minute and give someone a genuine compliment.
Spend one minute coming up with something you really and genuinely appreciate about someone in your life that is in the same room as you at some point during the day. Then tell him or her the genuine compliment you have come up with.
Everyday is a blessing in itself. We just need that outlook towards life that can tend us to notice the good in everything.
Stay Happy and Have a Great Day!!
We should be thankful to all the good people that we come across. We are blessed to have our families, friends and many others who hold us during the ups and downs of life. We build memories , spend our best times in presence of those who make us feel good. We learn to Respect Others, Empathy, Self-Respect, Culture, Sense of Responsibility and many other values from the people around us.
Life is a long journey of experiences and Real life isn’t always going to be perfect in the way you might have planned. At times, it introduces us to the people who don’t bring happy moments and good memories with them but when they leave ,they leave many noteworthy lessons behind. As we have a tradition to be thankful to the person who teaches us something,so we should be thankful to those people also who carries adverse situations in our lives because we get the supreme life lessons from the toughest people, We learn the most through the most aching experiences. Along with our close ones why can’t we thankful to these people who bring distressing situations into our lives and teach us something unforgettable.
I Divide Those “Negative Teachers” Into 3 Categories to Thank Them-
1- The Critics: We always need a push to prove ourselves, It can come in the form of motivation but sometimes it comes in the form of criticism. Be Thankful to those who criticize you and doubt that you can’t achieve a certain thing. They indirectly work as a catalyst and motivate you to prove them wrong.
2– The Ex-Protectors: We become the Best Defender When We Fight Without a Shield. We should be thankful to those who leave you amid of a difficult situation and you have to deal with it alone. Their exit make you strong enough to become your own shield.
3- The Betrayer – We Learn to Trust and We Trust to Learn. The ones who betray us in any form gives us a broader prospect to look at every situation. Recall the recent past and Pick such people from your life to thank them for making you wiser enough to understand that blind faith can make us blind to many facts and harm us in future.
We all have Different Lives, Different Experiences , Different Stories and Certainly Different Teachers also who have taught us different lessons. There are Many Others Categories , Filter Your Teachers and Be Thankful to Them for the Lessons!!
Hello Friends!! It’s always a blessing to be surrounded with the people who value you for what you are. We should treasure people on the basis of their value addition to our lives. But many times I find it very disturbing when I notice people criticizing somebody close to them on the basis of his “Not So Good” past while he has been proven good enough to get respect from others in his present days. Many of us have a tendency to form an opinion about people on the basis of their past. Well I also don’t find it wrong to take the reference of past , when we encounter a stranger . The first introduction of a person begins with his/her past. (We can’t trust a terrorist blindly 🙂 )
But What if we keep on doubting people and criticizing their good deeds and considering their past. We need to accept that people change and some incidences are big enough to change the whole story of somebody’s life.Moreover a person doesn’t have full control over every event that occurs into his life. There are many saints and philosophers who were not the same ones in their early lives, but something incidents made them what they are known for . (We say that Albert Einstein is one of the greatest scientists of all the times, who was once declared mentally sick during his childhood. Saint Nicholas was not a saint in his early life , Gautam Buddha was a Successor king before being a saint). In one of my recent chats with a fellow he was criticizing one of his closed ones referring to the past of that person. The saddest part of the story was- That person was extremely good with my fellow friend.
Sometimes we forget that A person has to put a lot of courage to stand again from the betrayed stage and take a new path. He gathers all the pieces of his scattered hopes, broken self esteem and left out energy to stand with his head up but we don’t leave a chance to make him recall the days which he wants to forget. We have no idea that we put that person in the same pain again whenever we criticize him for his past. Should we hurt a person just because he has gone through the same pain earlier and came out of it so we can presume that he will tackle our misbehave this time also? Should we break somebody’s 2nd leg just because he is walking perfect with one broken leg? I leave the answers on you..
There are many people around who are dealing with such issues in their lives when they have to prove themselves right for the incidences that might have occurred in their past due to circumstances. We simply devalue something very special that a person is doing for us by considering that “It’s nothing new for this person, nothing special”. It can hurt a person to the non-recoverable level sometimes. Believe Me.
I really wonder that when we are so good in judging someone by his past then why aren’t we good in analyzing someone by his present?
Next time before you think of talking about somebody’s past, I would suggest you to ask these questions to yourself
1- Haven’t we done anything wrong in our lives?
2- Do we know the “whole story” of this person? Have we witnessed the series of events that occurred in his past and what were the circumstances then?
3- What matters more- An untold past of someone or The present where the other person does all to make our days beautiful and memorable.
4- Your place in other person’s life now .
5- What will be the impact of our criticism on the life of the other person.
I am sure once you introspect yourself and ask this questions to yourself then you will not criticize any of your closed ones again. A mistake can never be beyond the limit of being forgiven. Life is precious and so people.
As I say- Be Good, Do Good and Expect Good to Happen. Become the reason of somebody’s happiness, you will receive the same in some way. But If you are the reason of somebody’s grief in someway then you will get the same in some other way. Life pays us exactly same what we give to others and Karma knocks the door of all sooner or later. Spread Happiness to Receive It!!
This was a disturbing thought I think… Signing off for the day…
Leaving with just one message – No Past should be vast enough to cover the present of someone!!
More Later ,
Sounds not so familiar!! Right??
Whenever I discuss my Vacation Ideas, Shopping or Movie plans with someone, the first question arises- With whom? When I tell them that I am not going with anyother person then I get the reactions like- How can you enjoy alone? Wouldn’t it be boring? After getting this from people since so long, today It forced me to think that Do we really need someone everytime to get even the little happiness? Are we so insufficient that we can’t make ourselves feel good? We spend the most of our time with our own selves still we look for others whenever we plan to enjoy something!!
Do we know the one with whom we spend the most of our time? That One is- Our own inner-self.. 🙂 We praise everybody around us to strengthen the bonds that we have. But we never cherish ourselves to strengthen the oldest bond that we start forming since the very first day of our lives when we get the existence in our mother’s bomb, the bond with our ownself.
Can’t we make ourselves so much interesting, strong & self-loving that we don’t feel the need of others to accompany us in any situation. Be it at in the good times to enjoy or during the hard sufferings. I would say- Yes, We Can.. It’s good to share your good time with others (We are called “ the social creatures” after all 🙂 ) but at the same time we shouldn’t feel paralyzed to enjoy our own company also.
This post is for those, Who feel it difficult to enjoy alone and don’t buy this point that a person can be the happiest one in the absence of others. Few steps towards making you realize that you the best company that you can ever have!!
1- Which one makes you feel good?
Answer is very simple. Smiling faces always make you feel better. Then why not to carry a smile. Start feeling good from inside. When you feel good from inside then you see the beauty and positivity in every thing . You witness the same as you feel!! So feel good to get good.
2- Discover your Interests- Search your passion. Have you seen the kids when they are involved into their dearest activity? They forget the rest of the world. Discover and develop such interests that can keep you engaged deeply. Many people like travelling and when they are out to see the world they don’t feel the need of anyone. Many others like Photography and when they are busy in capturing the moments and objects then they don’t want anyone to disturb them. Be Friends with your own talents and make them your companion. 🙂
Your passion will accompany you always wherever you go.
2- Become Your Own – We are afraid of being alone because of our unseen fear of encountering something unpleasant. So next time whenever you want to start something, try to collect every detail (Even the smallest one) related to that activity. Search about it, Talk about It, Think about it , make a note of every information. Go for a question-answer session within yourself to check your preparation and make sure that you are well prepared. For instance I take a random scenario – Going for Shopping! Decide What you need, Check the Trends, List the Places where you can get the desired stuff, How would you reach there. Visualize , Become Your Honest Critic to Say Yes/No for anything. Then Step out!
3- Be Your Own Caretaker- Start pampering yourself in all available forms. Dress up well, Feed your mind with great thoughts, Smile, Take care of your necessities , Feel great about your possessions, Cheer yourself for your achievements. Stay Fit-You can only enjoy your company in the well-being state of both your body and heart. Being fit from inside is a joyous feeling in itself and it motivates you to do great things without seeking for the support from others.
4- People See in You What You See in Yourself-
You can enjoy your company only if you appreciate yourself and take your best step forward to show your best side to others. Your opinion about yourself can make a huge difference in your life. If you think you are a mediocre , you will reflect it by your personality. If you think that you are champion, that’s what will be reflected by your attitude. When you are confident then trust me you don’t need the approval of rest of the world to carry forward your desires.
Stay Confident! Follow your instinct and when you know that you are heading towards the right direction than don’t look for others ‘ approval.
Stay Happy and Enjoy Your Company!!
Be Good, Do Good and Expect Good to Happen!! 🙂
Hi!! We are in the mid of the week now.. I believe it’s going exactly the same good as you decided!! 🙂
It was a thought since so long but today it dragged my attention to the level that I decided to share this post with you all.. Everyday we notice lot of people running behind the things, A big noise is everywhere, Hue & Cry all around. Few are too busy in making money, few are out to earn their livings, few have miles to travel, few have a project to deliver , Few are meeting dead lines after dead lines.. Few are rushing and running an undefined race, They don’t know where they are going.. They are just running with the crowd. This “Blind Horse Race” is the case with most of us. We keep on working day and night , take no time for ourselves.It’s breathtaking race that we witness everywhere. :0
Now I would like to drag your attention to a fact which we keep on ignoring – Sit Back is not A Set Back. Here it goes-
I don’t deny the fact that we are social creatures and it’s a responsibility of all of us to fulfill the requirements of our family, meet the expectations of our friends and referral groups. It’s actually important to Earn Money, Get Respect , Be Employed , Get Good Grades, Be Responsible Etc. Etc. These things bring a feeling of Pride and Self Esteem. But In The Search of All These Things , please don’t leave your dreams behind. Keep on talking to yourself and finding your true desires.
We all know that In our childhood it was a race for good grades, then in young age it converts into the race for career in one of the most common streams, later it converts into the race to get a lifestyle for social status and many more other things… Uffff!! I am shocked to see that we keep on running all the time, how busy we are in impressing others?? This race can be the desired action for few of us but 90% of us are running just to follow the trend of family & society. Do we ever talk to ourselves and ask what we actually want? Are we really pursuing our dreams? Is this what we are meant for? Do we follow our hearts? I am sure there is higher probability of getting the answer as “NO” ..
Here my point comes, Just Sit Back… Relax!! Take a Break from the Race!! Breathe!! Breathe!! Take Some Air Please!! Observe People!! Think of the More that You Can Do Expect “Being a Full Time Working Machine” who works,laughs, talks, moves, wakes up, sleeps as per others’ requirement!!
“Living the Life ” and “Being Alive” are entirely different. Live Life!! We don’t get answers until we ask questions, so ask above mentioned questions to your soul, you will get the answer J If you get all the happiness in this “Blind Horse Race” then Keep on Running ( Though I am sure in 99.9% cases all have desires away from their routine jobs) , But If you are not happy with your current situation. Hey Right Time will Never Come, This is the time!! Don’t Wait Till Too Late!! Wake Up!! You have all the right to get some time for yourself from your own life!! You have all the rights to select and reject the paths, and decide what you want to pursue!! Follow your dreams!! Get all the happiness that you deserve! It doesn’t matter if you don’t go for your routine jobs for some days, it will not move the earth if you take a break!! Your career will not be spoiled if you start following your passion along side. Your home will not be turned upside down if you will start walking in fresh air or will move out for your own sake. My only point is- Just Give Time to Yourself. Relax and Think. Smile then Start Travelling Miles. Laugh Loudly Sometimes.. Music is a remedy and sounds better than the Horn of Your Car, Listen to It!
Because Sit Back is not A Set Back!! Spend Time for Yourself too.. Think of Your Wishes too and Follow Your Heart too Instead of Others Wishes.. Live Your Life too Along with Living Up Others’ Expectations! Your Peace, Your Happiness Matter a Lot.
I assure you that you will never Regret When You Will Follow Your Heart. But as I Always Say- Don’t Forget That We Get What We Give!! Trust the Almighty and Move Ahead!! Don’t hurt people for your little happiness…Spread Happiness and it will find it’s back to you in some form. Being Good is the easiest way of Being Happy. Staying Humble is the best way to Stay Positive!!
Have a Great Week Ahead , Leaving with a Hope that We all shall take sometime from our lives to live for ourselves too.
“Connecting” -“Connection”- ” Connected” …3 different words to represent a process of getting the uttermost state of well being. The first stage of establishing a connection with well being is to DISCONNECT ourselves from all those thoughts that prevent us from feeling good. Because if we want to witness any change in our outer world then it is important to change our inner state of mind first. And to disconnect ourselves from negativity it’s not mandatory to stop the flow of thoughts . Close your eyes , let your thoughts run through your mind, let the thoughts come and go.. In this storm of thought you will surely get some good thoughts too, don’t stop there , just keep a note of those good thoughts in your mind and let the thoughts move. It will take time, once your realize that it’s done, you have gone through all the thought and incidences which were on your priority list then start eliminating all the negative thoughts .
For this job , I prefer to express my Gratitude for all the things that come to my way. I take some deep breaths and say to myself that” God is with me, when he is with me then no one can harm me. Everything happens for a reason, I have to move with the faith in my heart, that I am here to get all the best things and it’s a process, that I am going through to achieve something exceptionally good that I might not have thought of. Thank you God for All the Good Things and Experiences”. I suggest people who are struggling in their lives to believe in God and Almighty , its nothing to do with the religion but Yes Faith brings Positivity and Positivity changes Our Lookout towards Life and Our Lookout changes Our Outer World.
It sounds old to few people but its truly amazing that When we start believing in Almighty , when We put our faith in the Creator of the World and surrender ourselves to the God then we get a positivity out of all the incidences, from each and everything around us we attract just positivity only: This positivity heals us and we start feeling good from inside . Practice feeling good from inside, initially do it intentionally , Captivate this feeling and make it your habit.
When you start feeling Good , then unintentionally you start “Connecting” yourself with the state of well being. Eventually you get “Connected” to this state of mind and establish the ” Connection” with Positivity ,Good Feelings and Start attracting Good things in your life. Have you ever noticed that When we think something ,then we get more alike thoughts , Feeling sad or Feeling Happy works on this concept only. We get alike thoughts every time whenever we think of something, So to be happy start feeling happy.
It’s all about our Connection with the Thoughts, It’s all about our Connection with the World, It’s all about our Connection , it’s all about Our Perception.
Stay Happy, Stay Connected to Good Thoughts!! Happy Week Ahead!!
There are people in the world who don’ get the chance of waking up another morning. Every morning is a message of optimism and positivity in itself..It says that again its a new day here , a new change to make a new start!!
Have you ever noticed the process of rising sun after a dark night? Next time , whenever get a chance ,witness the beautiful process of sun rise. It slowly starts spreading light and darkness vanishes, it takes time but it happens. The orange rays of sun start covering the horizon and the a bright day starts. If you see this view , it will fill your whole day with enthusiasm and energy.
Life is just like this process. Sometimes good things take time to happen but sun teaches us not to loose hope and keep on moving forward. It’s a process and things happen at a certain time. Start Fresh Every Morning , Stay Positive and Expect Good Things to Happen!! Keep Moving and One Day You Will Succeed.
Happy Day Ahead!!